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Kungazwakala kungenangqondo, kepha kunabantu abazizwa benesizungu ebudlelwaneni.
Lowo muntu kungaba nguwe noma umlingani wakho. Ukuzizwa uwedwa ebuhlotsheni kuyinkomba yenkinga. Ungaba ebudlelwaneni obudala noma obunobuthi.
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umuntu angazizwa enesizungu ebudlelwaneni. Kungaba yingcindezi evela kwezinye izinto, futhi umlingani wakho akasizi ekunciphiseni. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi uhlala ngokubambisana okungenaluthando, futhi umane nje uhamba ngokuhamba kwempilo yakho yansuku zonke ngaphandle kobumnandi, uthando, noma incazelo.
Ungabhekana kanjani nesizungu ebudlelwaneni
Kuyinkimbinkimbi, okokuqala kufanele ubone ukuthi kungani uzizwa uwedwa ebudlelwaneni. Ingabe umlingani wakho uyimbangela eyinhloko, noma ingabe ukuntuleka kwabo kokusekelwa okushiya uzizwe unganakiwe.
Nalu uhlu olungakhethi lobudlelwano obunobuthi ongahle ubhekane nabo ukuchaza ukuthi kungani uzizwa uwedwa ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuthembela - Lapho omunye umlingani eswele kakhulu, kanti omunye evumela ukuthi ahlukunyezwe ukufeza izibopho zakhe.
Buka futhi:
- Umlingani weNarcissistic / Controlling - Kulapho omunye ophathina esebenzisa inhlamba, ukuhlukumeza, ukuqamba amanga, ngisho nodlame ukulawula umlingani wakhe
- Isehluleki esingesihle - Omunye wozakwethu akanathemba ngakho konke futhi ubheka ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa njengendlela yokubaleka. Basola umhlaba, oshade nabo, wonke umuntu, kufaka phakathi neposi ngenkinga yabo.
- Ubudlelwano obungenaluthando - Ingabe ufana namarobhothi? Ukuhamba ngenqubo efanayo engathandeki usuku nosuku, unyaka nonyaka? Noma ulala embhedeni owodwa, azikho izingxoxo ezinengqondo noma ucansi nomlingani wakho,
- Umkhohlisi - Konke kuphelele. Unendlu enhle enocingo olumhlophe lwamaphikhethi. Ungakhokha izikweletu ngokudla okusele kweDoritos nezinyawo, kepha umlingani wakho uhlala ephuma nomunye umuntu.
Kulula ukucabanga ukuthi ushadile kodwa unesizungu uma ukubo bobunye bobudlelwano obushiwo ngenhla. Iningi labantu alazi ukuthi lingabhekana kanjani nesizungu esimweni esinjalo.
Ukusabela okuvame kakhulu yibo funa induduzo nomunye umuntu, futhi kuvame ukuholela ukungathembeki.
Uma usukhombe ukuthi kungani unesizungu esikhulu naphakathi kobuhlobo noma emshadweni ungawulungisa noma uhambe kuwo.
Kunezimo lapho kungaluleki khona ukulungisa izinto, ngokwesibonelo, lapho uhlukunyezwa nsuku zonke.
Yinye kuphela indlela yokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesizungu.
Thola ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nenduduzo kumuntu omthandayo. Ngikhulume ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ngoba kungenzeka ukuba nobulili obuningi kepha uzizwe unesizungu.
Ungakhulisa kanjani ukusondelana ngokomzwelo
Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kuba lula kunokuba abantu abaningi bakholelwa.
Uma uyivumela, noma kunjalo kuthatha isikhathi esiningi. Umuzwa wesizungu ubangelwa ukuntuleka kokusondelana ngokomzwelo. Lapho uzwa sengathi akekho umuntu ongathululela kuye isifuba ngezinkinga zakho, kulapho umuntu eqala ukuzizwa eyedwa.
Abantu bazizwa bebodwa lapho bengenamuntu wokuhlanganyela izikhathi ezinhle nezimbi.
Kufanele bathembe umuntu ngokwanele ukuthi bakhulume ngemizwa yabo yangempela ngaphandle kwamahloni nokwesaba ukwahlulelwa. Ukuthola umuntu ozokwabelana naye ngemicabango yakho ejulile ngaphandle kwezithiyo nokuxhumana nabo kungukuphela kwekhambi lesizungu.
Kudingeka kube umgwaqo onhlangothi zombili.
Kufanele nikhululeke kakhulu omunye komunye lapho nihlanganyela izingubo zomunye nomunye ezingcolile. Uma unesizungu emshadweni, lokho kusho ukuthi awunakulindelwa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo noshade naye okufanele ube nakho.
Kungaba owakwakho ungumthombo wezinkinga zakho, noma zikude kakhulu ngokomzwelo ukwenza ukuxhumana.
Icala lokuqala liyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Kungakho iningi labantu liphendukela kwabanye esikhundleni salokho. Uma ufuna ukusungula ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho, kufanele uphinde uxhumane nabo ngothando.
Uma ushadile noma unobudlelwano nalo muntu, okungenani ubunamakhemikhali athile phambilini. Thola isikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha ukuxhumana kwezothando nomlingani wakho.
Ngeke kwenzeke ngaphandle kokuthi uxazulule izinkinga eziyisisekelo ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ukubaphonsela inselelo ndawonye kungenza ubudlelwano bakho buqine.
Isizungu ebudlelwaneni sihlobene kakhulu nokuthi lezi zithandani zisebenzelana kanjani. Uma nithembele komunye nomunye futhi nabelana ngempumelelo yakho, lapho-ke ngeke uzizwe uwedwa.
Uzizwa uwedwa ebuhlotsheni? Nakhu ukusikisela kokuthi ungakwenza kanjani (kabusha) ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nomlingani wakho.
- Ungayeki ukuthandana nomuntu wakho
- Zitshele zonke izinkinga zakho
- Sekela imizamo yomlingani wakho
- Yenza imisebenzi ndawonye
- Qhubeka nohambo losuku lomndeni
- Khuluma ngosuku lwakho
- Lalela
- Xoxani ngekusasa lenu
- Gcina izithembiso zakho
- Khumbuza ngokudlula kwakho
Kuzwakala njengezinto ezingasho lutho, kepha imibhangqwana eminingi ayikunaki futhi ikhohlwe ukuthi ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nokuxhumana kumane kuyindlela ejulile yokwethembana kwabantu ababili. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ngaphandle kokwethembana noma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano luzohluleka.
Ngakho themba umlingani wakho. Qiniseka ukuthi ungumuntu ofanele ukwethenjwa ngumlingani wakho. Lapho-ke ungavalelisa ukuze uzizwe uwedwa ebuhlotsheni.