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- 1. Uyakwazi ukuzinakekela kahle
- 2. Uyakwazi ukubeka izidingo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho
- 3. Uvulekele ushintsho endleleni yakho yokuphila
- 4. Ungumuntu ophethe kahle
- 5. Unehlelo lokusekela olukhona
- 6. Unendawo enhliziyweni nasengqondweni yakho
- 7. Uqala ukuqaphela izingane yonke indawo
Ukwenza isinqumo sokuba nomntwana kungaba okwesabisayo. Ngisho, ungazi kanjani ngokuqinisekile ukuthi usukulungele yini?
Akuyona neze indaba ukufika eminyakeni ethile noma ukuba sesikhathini esithile ngemuva komshado wakho, kuyindaba yesimo somqondo.
Uma unaka kakhulu imicabango nezenzo zakho, ungathola inkomba yokuthi usukulungele noma cha. Vele, kuyethusa ekuqaleni futhi awusoze waqiniseka nge-100% ukuthi usukulungele. Kepha njenganoma iyiphi enye ingqophamlando empilweni, abantu abaningi badlule kuyo basinda. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ake sibhekane nakho, ukuba nengane kungenye yezimangaliso ezimangalisa kakhulu empilweni.
Ngakho-ke, nazi izimpawu eziyisikhombisa ezingakusiza ukunquma ukuthi usukulungele yini ukuba nengane.
1. Uyakwazi ukuzinakekela kahle
Enye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu yokuba ngumnakekeli ukwazi ukuthi ungazinakekela kanjani wena kuqala. Ngaphambi kokuba nomthwalo wokubheka omunye umuntu, kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi uyazinakekela kahle. Ingane idinga abazali abazinzile nabanempilo (ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo). Akunandaba ukuthi ubheka kanjani, akukho kungabaza ukuthi ukunakekela umntwana kuwumsebenzi omkhulu. Ukuntuleka kokulala, ukubamba ingane yakho nokondla kungakhathaza kakhulu ngemuva kwesikhashana. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sesimweni esihle futhi uphile impilo enempilo. Ukuphumula noma nini lapho unakho futhi ukudla okunomsoco kudlala indima ebalulekile yakho, ikakhulukazi kumama.
2. Uyakwazi ukubeka izidingo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho
Ungakwazi yini ukuzidela? Ungadela okuthile okufuna ngempela ngenxa yomunye umuntu?
Uma izimpendulo zale mibuzo zingu “yebo” oqinile, uyakwazi ukubeka izidingo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho. Ukuba nomntwana kusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kuzodingeka unikele ngezidingo zakho nezidingo zakho ukuze kuzuze ingane yakho. Ingane yakho iba yinto eza kuqala kuwe kuqala. Kubantu abaningi, lokhu kwenzeka ngokwemvelo, ngaphandle kokuthatha isinqumo sokubeka ingane yakho kuqala. Wonke umzali ufuna okungcono kakhulu ezinganeni zakhe.
3. Uvulekele ushintsho endleleni yakho yokuphila
Ukuba ngumzali kukunikeza umuzwa wenjabulo nokwaneliseka. Kepha futhi kusho ukuthi kufanele udele ezinye zezinto obuzithatha kalula empilweni yakho yangaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane. Ukulala sekwephuzile, ukuphuma kwe-clubbing, noma ukuhamba ngomgwaqo okuzenzekelayo ngezinye zezinto ozodingeka uzilahle (okungenani eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala yokuba ngumzali).
Umbuzo uwukuthi, ingabe uzimisele ukudela imikhuba emidala ngenxa emisha?
Gcina engqondweni, akusho ukuyeka zonke izinto ezimnandi! Kusho ukuthini ukwenza eminye imisebenzi enobungani bomndeni futhi mhlawumbe nokuhlela okwengeziwe.
4. Ungumuntu ophethe kahle
Ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo kusho ukuqonda ukuthi okwenzayo nalokho okushoyo kuzothinta impilo yengane yakho (akukho ukucindezela lapha).
Ingane yakho izolingisa izenzo zakho futhi ibheke kuwe. Kungakho kufanele unake kakhulu izenzo zakho namazwi akho.
Asivume, ukukhulisa ingane kuyabiza. Ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo nakho kuhumusha ekubeni ne-oda empilweni yakho, nokulungela ingane ngokwezimali. Uma isimo sakho samanje sempilo siphila kusukela ekukhokhelweni kuya ekukhokhelweni, noma unesikweletu, mhlawumbe kungcono ukulinda uze wenze isenzo sakho ndawonye. Qala ukuhlela nokugcina imali ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi uzilungele izindleko ezingeziwe.
5. Unehlelo lokusekela olukhona
Angazi imibhangqwana eminingi eyenze lolu hambo oluhle yodwa yodwa. Uma wena nomlingani wakho ninamalungu omndeni abaseduze nabangane abazimisele ukukusiza, ngeke kudingeke ucindezeleke ngokuba nengane kakhulu.
Ukuba nomuntu osondelene nokukunika izeluleko ezinhle kungasiza kakhulu futhi kuthobise. Ukuba ngumzali kufana nokugibela i-roller coaster engokomzwelo futhi ukwesekwa okuvela kubathandekayo bakho kungenza umehluko. Yilokho okugcina uzethemba, uvikelekile futhi uphephile.
6. Unendawo enhliziyweni nasengqondweni yakho
Uma umsebenzi wakho unzima kakhulu, uneqembu elikhulu labangane abaqinile futhi usesigabeni sangemva komshado nomlingani wakho, lokho kungasho ukuthi njengamanje awunazo izinsiza ezingokomzwelo ezanele zokutshala imali enganeni.
Ingane idinga ukunakwa 24/7.Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ezinye izinto empilweni yakho zikugcina umatasa ngokugcwele, lapho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi awululungele lolu hlobo lokuzibophezela okwamanje.
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, ukuba nengane kuzoshintsha indlela ophila ngayo. Uzoba nesikhathi esincane sokuhlangana nabangane nesikhathi esincane sokuba wedwa nomlingani wakho. Ngakho-ke, uma uzizwa ukuthi awukakulungeli ukuyekethisa kulezo zinto okwamanje, akusona isikhathi esifanele.
7. Uqala ukuqaphela izingane yonke indawo
Lesi mhlawumbe yisibonakaliso esisobala kakhulu esikhona. Uqala ukubona izinsana nomaphi lapho uya khona. Uyabanaka futhi baze bakubeke nokumomotheka okuyisilima ebusweni bakho njengoba udlula. Uma unabangani abaseduze noma izihlobo ezisanda kuba nengane futhi uzithola ubambe futhi udlala nengane yazo, ukwazi kwakho kuzama ukukutshela okuthile - ukulungele ukuthola ingane. Uma uzifundile zonke lezi zimpawu futhi wezwa umuzwa wokuhlonza nazo (noma iningi lazo), lapho-ke ungahle ulungele ukuthatha i-leap!
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