Ukunqoba Ukukhathazeka Ngemuva Kwesehlukaniso

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• Ukukhathazeka Nokucindezeleka
• Ukukhathazeka okuyisishiyagalolunye ngemuva kwemicabango yesehlukaniso nokuthi ungakunqoba kanjani
• Ukunqoba ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso

Isehlukaniso yisikhathi lapho sibhekene nokuqaphela okunzima ukuthi ubudlelwane bethu bume. Isehlukaniso siyesabeka futhi siyakhathaza, yingakho kuyinto ejwayelekile ukubhekana nokukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, kanye nokwesaba nokudabuka, nakwabanye, ngisho nokudangala.

Kwabanye, kusho nokuthi impilo yakho ifinyelele esiphethweni esibuhlungu, yonke leyo minyaka yokuzama ukwakha umndeni wakho wamaphupho isiphelile manje.

Konke ngasikhathi sinye, ubhekene nemigwaqo ephazamisa impilo kanye nezinhlungu zengqondo ezingakahlelwa kanye namaqiniso. Uqala kanjani ukunqoba ukukhathazeka ngesikhathi nangemva kwesehlukaniso?

Ukukhathazeka Nokucindezeleka

Ukukhathazeka, ukudangala, nesehlukaniso konke kuxhunyiwe. Le mizwa emibili iyinkimbinkimbi futhi izobe ikhona uma isinqumo sehlukaniso.

Akuyona into engavamile ngomuntu ohamba ngenqubo yesehlukaniso ukuzwa le mizwa. Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuyimizwa ejwayelekile futhi akunandaba noma ngabe nguwe owaqala isehlukaniso.

Ukugxumela kokungaziwa kungaba okwesabisayo nokucindezelayo, ikakhulukazi lapho ukhashelwe. Ukukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso kunzima ngoba uzobe ucabanga ngezingane zakho, izingqinamba zezimali, ikusasa elikulindele - konke lokhu kumangalisa kakhulu.

Ukukhathazeka okuyisishiyagalolunye ngemuva kwemicabango yesehlukaniso nokuthi ungakunqoba kanjani

Nayi eminye yemicabango ezogijimela emqondweni wakho ngesikhathi nangemva kwenqubo yesehlukaniso, okungenzeka kube nomthelela noma kukubangele ukukhathazeka nokudangala.

Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ngemuva kwesahlukaniso iqala ngokuqonda imizwa yakho. Ukusuka lapho, uzobona ukuthi ungayishintsha kanjani indlela ocabanga ngayo futhi ukwazi ukufunda ukubhekana nokukhathazeka nokwesaba ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.

1. Impilo yakho ibonakala ibuyela emuva. Konke ukusebenza kanzima kwakho, ukutshala kwakho imali kusuka ezintweni ezibonakalayo kuya emizweni manje akusenamsebenzi. Uzwa sengathi impilo yakho imile.

Yiba ongaguquguquki. Noma uzizwa kanjena, yazi ukuthi ukusebenza kanzima, ukuzinikela nokuhambisana nezinhloso zakho kuzogcina kutholile.

2. Ushintsho luyesabeka futhi lokho kuyiqiniso. Ukwesaba kungamshintsha umuntu, futhi umuntu oke aphume futhi onezinhloso angakhubazeka ngenxa yokwesaba.

Kujwayelekile ukudideka ukuthi kufanele uqale kuphi ukuhlala impilo yakho futhi, kepha akunakwenzeka.

Khumbula ukuthi ukwesaba kusezingqondweni zethu kuphela. Zitshele futhi wazi ukuthi unamandla okubona ukuthi yini ebangela lokho kwesaba futhi ungakusebenzisa ukuze uzikhuthaze ukuthi ube ngcono. Inselelo okufanele uyithathe hhayi ngenye indlela.

3. Izimali zakho zizothinteka kakhulu. Yebo, lokho kuliqiniso, kepha ukuvumela ukukhathazeka nokudangala ngemali esetshenziswe ngesikhathi sehlukaniso ngeke kuyibuyise.

Esikhundleni sokugxila ekulahlekelweni kwakho, gxila kulokho onakho namandla akho okuzuza nokugcina futhi.

4. Enye imbangela enkulu yokukhathazeka ngemuva kwesahlukaniso ukukhathazeka ngemiphumela lesi sinqumo esinayo ezinganeni zakho.

Kuyaqondakala ukuthi njengomzali, akekho umuntu ofuna ukubona izingane zakhe ziphila impilo ngaphandle komndeni ophelele kepha ukuhlala kulokhu ngeke kuzisize izingane zakho.

Esikhundleni salokho, gxila kulokho okwazi ukukulawula. Gcwalisa izingane zakho ngothando nangothando. Bachazele ngokwenzekile futhi ubaqinisekise ukuthi usazobalungiselela noma ngabe kunjani.

5. Ngabe lisekhona ithuba lokuthola uthando? Ukukhathazeka ngokuba umzali ongayedwa nokuthola uthando kuyinto ejwayelekile, kodwa ngeke kusize.

Kuzokwakha kuphela ukukhathazeka nokungaqiniseki, okuholele nasekulahlekelweni ukuzethemba. Noma sekwenzekile konke lokho, ungalokothi uyeke uthando.

Isimo sakho, okwedlule, noma iminyaka yakho ibalulekile. Lapho uthando selukutholile, uzokwazi ukuthi kuyiqiniso ngakho, ungalokothi uphele amandla.

6. I-ex yakho isikhona futhi, ukuletha okwedlule? Ukuletha idrama? Yebo, impela kuyimbangela yokukhathazeka, akunjalo?

Ukusebenzelana nowawushade naye, ikakhulukazi lapho kuhilela ukukhulisa umzali kungaba ngumcimbi omuhle noma ongeke ube mnandi empilweni yakho, kepha ukhona, ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokukhononda futhi ukuvumele ukuthi kukucindezele, vele uphole ngakho.

Khumbula, akuzona izimo ezizocacisa imizwa yakho kepha ukuthi usabela kanjani kuyo.

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7. Kwesinye isikhathi, uzithola usukhathele futhi unesizungu.

Yebo, kuyiqiniso; okunye ukukhathazeka okunzima kakhulu ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kubangelwa isizungu ozozizwa lapho ubona ukuthi kunzima ukuba umzali ongayedwa.

Vele uzitshele ukuthi akuyena wedwa obhekene nalokhu futhi bewazi ukuthi abazali abangabodwa laphaya banyakazisa izimpilo zabo?

8. Alukho nakancane uthando phakathi kwakho ne-ex yakho, kodwa kusesejwayelekile ukuthi uzwe okuthile uma uthola ukuthi i-ex yakho inesithandwa esisha.

Isikhathi esiningi, ungazibuza, kungani bejabule kangaka kanti mina angijabule?

Noma nini lapho unale micabango - ima lapho!

Awuncintisani ne-ex yakho ngokuthi ubani oqala ukuthandana noma ngubani umuntu ongcono wokuthola umlingani. Gxila kuwe kuqala.

9. Kuzodlula iminyaka uzithole usuguga. Wonke umuntu umatasa futhi kwesinye isikhathi, ukuzidabukela kuyangena.

Ungalokothi uvumele ukucwila kule micabango engemihle. Ungcono kunalokhu. Ubamba ikhadi ukuze ujabule futhi uqala lapho.

Ukunqoba ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso

Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umuntu ezwe ukukhathazeka ngemuva kwesahlukaniso nezindlela eziningi ngokulinganayo zokushiya ukukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso futhi konke kukuwe!

Uma njengamanje ubhekene nezinkinga ezinzima zokukhathazeka, ukudangala, noma ukwesaba osekuvele kudala izinkinga empilweni yakho, emndenini, emsebenzini, noma ngisho nasekulaleni kwakho, sicela ufune usizo lwezempilo noma lwezengqondo.

Ungazizwa ukuthi kuyindlela yobuthakathaka ukuzwa imizwa enjalo, esikhundleni salokho, ukwazi ukubona ukuthi uyabavuma futhi ukusuka lapho, thatha isinyathelo udlule.