-Delile
- Lapho i-honeymoon isiphelile
- Ukulindela okuhlukile
- Ukuvezwa kwangempela kuyabonakala
- Izingilazi ezinombala ophuzi ziyavela
- Abasekhweni
- Funa isixazululo
- Funda ukuxhumana
- Ungathathi izinto kalula
- Beka imingcele enempilo
- Thola usizo lochwepheshe
Ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado kunconyelwa noma yimuphi umbhangqwana ohlela ukushada ukusiza ukubalungiselela izinguquko umshado ozoziletha ebudlelwaneni. Kungazuzisa kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kwemizamo yomlingani yokwandisa amathuba omshado ophumelelayo noma isisekelo esiqinile okungenzeka ukuthi isithandani sisungule, unyaka wokuqala womshado ungowenguquko futhi uza nezinselelo. Ngisho nabashadile abake bahlala ndawonye ngaphambi komshado abavikelekile ezinkingeni ezithile.
Lolu akulona lonke uhlu lwezinselelo oluhlanganayo, kepha luhlanganisa okunye kokuhlangenwe nakho okuyinkinga okuvame kakhulu.
Lapho i-honeymoon isiphelile
Kuholela emshadweni wangempela, kube nesasasa elikhulu nokulindelwa kosuku olukhulu. Lapho umbhangqwana ubuya emshadweni ophumule noma ojabulisayo, iqiniso langempela lomshado liyaqala, elingaba buthuntu uma liqhathaniswa nobukhazikhazi nobukhazikhazi bomshado nobusuku bomshado. Lokhu kungaba nomthelela ekuyekeni okuthile.
Ukulindela okuhlukile
Ozakwethu kungenzeka bangabi sekhasini elifanayo uma kukhulunywa ngokufeza indima "yendoda" ne "unkosikazi". Imisebenzi yasekhaya izokwabiwa; kungahle kube nokushintshela kwezinye izindima zobulili ezi-stereotypical uma sebeshadile futhi lokhu kungaba ngumsuka wengxabano. Imvamisa yocansi nokuthi imali izophathwa kanjani (ama-akhawunti asebhange ahlanganisiwe uma kuqhathaniswa) yizindawo ezivamile lapho imibhangqwana esanda kushada ingavumelani khona.
Enye indawo yokwehluka kokulindelwe kungaba lapho kukhulunywa ngesikhathi esichithwa ndawonye. Ukuthola leyo bhalansi enempilo yobumbano nokuhlukanisa kungaba nzima ukuzulazula. Abanye abashadikazi bangalindela ukuthi kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu nokuthi abesilisa noma abafazi babo bachithe isikhathi esithe xaxa ekhaya noma nabo uma bengasekho i-bachelor / bachelorette; omunye oshade naye kungenzeka angazimiseli ukushintsha okubaluleke kakhulu kanye nendlela abaphila ngayo uma sebeshadile.
Ukuvezwa kwangempela kuyabonakala
Ngenkathi bethandana, omunye angajwayela ukungabi yikho ngokuphelele ngokwabo ngenxa yokukhathazeka ukuthi umlingani wabo uzogijimela amagquma uma bewazi amaphutha abo. Uma iringi isesemunweni, oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bangabona ngokungazi ukuthi banenkululeko yokuvumela ukuthi kwaziwe ubunikazi babo bangempela. Oshade nabo bangazizwa ukuthi bakhohlisiwe kanye nesisulu se- "bait and switch". Lesi kungaba yisikhathi esivivinyayo lapho umuntu engazizwa emazi ngempela umuntu azinikele esebenzisa impilo yakhe.
Ukuzinakekela nakho kungathatha isihlalo sangemuva ngemuva komshado. Lapho sebeshadile, mhlawumbe omunye uzizwa enesidingo esincane sokugcina ukubukeka kwakhe noma ukuzinakekela njengoba babenza ngaphambili lapho kunengcindezi yokubukeka engcono kakhulu emshadweni noma bekhathazeke kakhulu ngokuheha oshade naye ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi bazolahlekelwa intshisekelo . Impela ukubukeka akuyona yonke into, kepha ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene ukwehla kokuzinakekela kungadlala indima ezindabeni zomshado. Inhlanzeko, ukudla okunempilo nokuzivocavoca kudlala indima ebalulekile empilweni yomuntu ngokwengqondo futhi nempilo engokwengqondo yomlingani ngamunye iyinto esezingeni lomshado.
Izingilazi ezinombala ophuzi ziyavela
Mhlawumbe oshade naye akashintshi, kepha ama-idiosyncrasies kanye nobuntu bomlingani wabo omusha kungabacasula ngokuzumayo, lapho ngaphambili babebekezelelana khona. Lezi zinto zingakhathaza kakhulu uma zifakwa ngombono wokubhekana nazo isikhathi eside.
Abasekhweni
Bobabili abashadile bathole umndeni omusha (wasekhweni). Indlela yokuphatha kahle abasekhweni abasha bakho ingaba nengcindezi njengoba bengazizwa benelungelo lokugxambukela ebudlelwaneni noma izingxabano ebezikhona zingakhula ngemuva komshado. Umuntu angazizwa edabukile ukukhetha izinhlangothi lapho kunokungaboni ngaso linye phakathi komlingani wakhe omusha kanye nomndeni wabo; ngenxa yalokho, ukwethembeka kuzovivinywa.
Ngezansi kunemihlahlandlela ejwayelekile yokusiza ukusinda onyakeni wokuqala womshado lapho ubhekene nalezi zinselelo ezingenhla noma ezingeziwe.
Funa isixazululo
Ungenzi iphutha lokufisa ukucabanga ukuthi izinto zizoqhuma phezulu noma zisebenze ngokwazo. Akekho umuntu othanda ukuba nengxabano kepha uzoxazululeka kalula uma kubhekiswa nini
incane kunokuba ngemuva kokuthi iqabule ibe into enkulu. Isinqumo singafaka ukuxoxisana nokukhetha ukujabula kunokulunga.
Funda ukuxhumana
Ngokuzethemba nangenhlonipho vumela imicabango yomuntu, imizwa yakhe, okulindelwe kanye nezicelo zakhe zaziwe. Akekho oshade naye ofunda ingqondo. Ukulalela kufana ne-
ingxenye ebalulekile yokuxhumana njengokwabelana; yiba isilaleli esihle.
Ungathathi izinto kalula
Lokhu kufaka phakathi omunye nomunye nomshado. Kungaba lula kakhulu ukunganaki nokungabongi. Khombisa ukuthi ungalukhombisa kanjani uthando, uthando nokwazisa kulowo oshade naye futhi ukwenze njalo.
Beka imingcele enempilo
Amakhono wokuxhumana nawo angasiza lapho usebenzelana nabasekhweni nabanye abangahle baphazamise. Umuntu kufanele akhethe ngokuqondene nabantu abangaphandle komshado abakhetha ukuhlanganyela nabo izingqinamba zabo zomshado njengoba kungewona wonke umuntu ozoba nenhloso futhi angathathi hlangothi.
Thola usizo lochwepheshe
Akukaze kusheshe kakhulu ukuthola usizo, kodwa ngeshwa kwesinye isikhathi sekwephuze kakhulu. Imibhangqwana eminingi ilinda kuze kube ngemuva kweminyaka yokuxabana nokunganeliseki ngaphambi kokufuna ukwelulekwa ngomshado. Ngaleso sikhathi bavame ukuba semkhawulweni wedivosi futhi kwesinye isikhathi kube nomonakalo omningi kakhulu (intukuthelo, ukuphelelwa uthando). Umelaphi oqeqeshiwe angasebenza ngempumelelo ekusizeni abalingani ukuthi basebenze kuzo zonke lezi zindawo ezingenhla, ngenkathi enikeza leyo nhloso, umbono ongathathi hlangothi.
Njenganoma yini okufanele ube nayo empilweni, umshado onempilo uthatha umsebenzi. Zimisele ukufaka umzamo.
Ulwazi lungamandla; ngethemba ukuthi ulwazi oluhlinzekiwe luveza izinselelo ezingaba khona (kodwa ezingenakugwemeka) okufanele zibhekwe phakathi nonyaka wokuqala womshado nezindlela zokubhekana nazo ngokushesha kunokuba kamuva.