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- Kuyini ukulungela umshado wamaKristu?
- Ingabe kukhona izibopho ezithile?
- Ngabe wonke amaKristu adlula ‘ekulungiseleleni’?
- Kuthiwani uma umbhangqwana ungafisi ukudlula ‘ekulungiseleleni’?
- Uhlu lokuhlola ngaphambi komshado ukuthola 'ukulungela'
- Uhlu lwemibuzo lokulungela umshado
Ingabe usukulungele ukushada? kuyini ukulungela emshadweni? Uma ungumKristu futhi ucabanga ngomshado, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ubucabanga ngesihloko se- Ukulungela umshado wamaKristu.
Isihloko singaba nzima futhi, kweminye imibuthano, size sibe nempikiswano — kepha kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukulungela umshado kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho okufanele kuvunyelwane ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphambili.
Ngakho-ke uma kungenzeka ukuthi ungumuntu onenkinga yokuqonda umqondo wokulungela ukushada noma ongaqiniseki ukuthi wazi kanjani ukuthi usukulungele ukushada.
Ake sihlolisise izinto ezibalulekile mayelana nokulungela ukushada kobuKristu ezingakusiza uhumushe izimpawu zokuthi usukulungele ukushada.
Kuyini ukulungela umshado wamaKristu?
EbuKristwini, ukulungela umshado yigama elingakahleleki elibhekise kumalungiselelo ezithandani ngaphambi kokuba zishade — futhi cha, asikhulumi ngamalungiselelo omshado!
Amalungiselelo omshado wamaKristu, njengomthetho ojwayelekile, kuhloselwe ukusiza umbhangqwana uqinisekise ukuthi wenzelwe omunye nomunye, ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukushada, ukuthi uyakuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukushada, nokuthi empeleni bakulungele ukushada.
Ingabe kukhona izibopho ezithile?
Ukulungela ukushada kobuKristu kwenzeka ngezindlela eziningi. Kweminye imibhangqwana, nakwamanye amasonto, ukulungela umshado kumane kufane nokuthi laba abashadayo bacelwe ukuthi bacabangisise ngomshado, izizathu zabo zokushada, ukuzibophezela kwabo komunye nomunye kanye namathemba abo ngekusasa ngaphambi kokushada.
Kodwa-ke, amanye amaKristu namasonto anezidingo ezithile zokulungela ezihamba ngokujula kakhulu kunokukhombisa okulula. Isibonelo, amanye amasonto adinga ukuthi imibhangqwana idlule amasonto ambalwa, izinyanga (futhi kwesinye isikhathi nangaphezulu) kwezifundo nezinhlelo ngaphambi kokushada.
Lezi zigaba zizofaka izincwadi nezifundo kulokho okushiwo yiBhayibheli ngomshado, okulindelwe umshado ngokwezimfundiso zenkolo zanamuhla, ukubaluleka kobudlelwano bomshado, njalonjalo.
Amanye amasonto angafuna nokuthi imibhangqwana ihlale ngokuhlukana izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi komshado noma ukubona ukulungiswa komshado okuvunyelwe isonto abeluleki abazokhuluma nabo ngomshado.
Kwesinye isikhathi amasonto adinga imibhangqwana ukuthi ikhombise ubufakazi ‘bokulungela’ ngaphambi kokuba ivume ukushada nabashadikazi esontweni.
Ngabe wonke amaKristu adlula ‘ekulungiseleleni’?
Cha. Eminye imibhangqwana engamaKristu ayidluli kulezi amalungiselelo athile okulungela.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi bashada ngaphandle kokucabanga noma abakakulungeli ukushada — futhi, amalungiselelo okulungela umshado yisinqumo somuntu siqu esingaxhomeka enkolweni ethile yomuntu, esontweni lakhe, ngisho nakuliphi ihlelo lobuKrestu abalisebenzisayo.
Ngokuvamile, 'ukulungela' kubhekwa njengokulindelwe emasontweni amaBaptist, amaKhatholika namasiko amaningi kunasemasontweni anamuhla noma emasontweni.
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Kuthiwani uma umbhangqwana ungafisi ukudlula ‘ekulungiseleleni’?
Uma ingxenye eyodwa yalo mbhangqwana ingafuni ukudlula kokunye amalungiselelo okulungela—Njengohlelo lwesonto oludingekayo — lapho-ke izithandani zizodinga ukuba nezingxoxo ezibucayi zodwa ngokuthi zizizwa kanjani ukuthi kufanele ziye phambili.
Esimweni esihle kakhulu, abashadikazi bangaxazulula ukungezwani kwabo noma bafike kokunye ukuyekethisa; ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, kungadala inkinga engaba khona emshadweni.
Uhlu lokuhlola ngaphambi komshado ukuthola 'ukulungela'
Uma sikhuluma ngokuhlelwa komshado, sivame ukugxila kumalungiselelo osuku olukhulu kepha singakunaki ukuhlela umshado. Ukukusiza ukuthi uhlele umshado wakho kangcono, kubalulekile ukufaka a uhlu lokuhlola ngaphambi komshado.
Thatha isibonelo imikhuba yakho yezokuxhumana. Zihluke kanjani kwezakwakho? Ngabe ukhona kini ongumlutha ezinkundleni zokuxhumana? Ngabe lokhu kuzokuphazamisa noma kuzongenelela emshadweni wakho? Lezi ngezinye nje zezinto odinga ukuxoxa ngazo futhi uzindle ngazo.
Uhlu lwemibuzo lokulungela umshado
Okulandelayo, buza imibuzo elandelayo ezokusiza ukuthi uhlole ukulungela kwakho ukushada. Thembeka ngenkathi ubaphendula.
- Uyaziqonda wena uqobo?
- Ingabe nizizwa nikhululekile ukuxoxa ngokungafani komunye nomunye?
- Ingabe nizinikele ngokuphelele komunye nomunye ukwenza ubudlelwano benu busebenze?
- Singakanani isikhathi ongathanda ukusinikela kumlingani wakho wempilo?
- Bunjani ubudlelwano bakho nomndeni wakho?
- Unethezeke kangakanani lapho wenza izinqumo ezinzima?
- Ingabe uphoqelekile ukujabulisa abanye lapho wenza izinqumo zakho?
- Ingabe umshado wakho ungaba into eza kuqala ekuphileni kwakho?
- Ulunge kangakanani ekuxazululeni izingxabano ebudlelwaneni bakho?
- Uyasiqonda yini isidingo sokuyekethisa emshadweni, futhi uzimisele ukukwenza emshadweni wakho?
Qiniseka ukuthi ululungele ngokuphelele uhambo ozoba kulo, ukuqala, nomlingani wakho.
Funda izincwadi zobuKristu ngaphambi komshado, wazi izinkolelo zobuKristu ngomshado, thatha ukuhlolwa kokulungela umshado, futhi ungahlala uthembele kuhlu lwemibuzo lokulungela umshado ukukulungiselela ngokwengqondo ukushada.