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- Nguwe lo?
- Lokhu kwenzeka ezimpilweni zabesifazane abaningi
- Ngabe usunyamalele?
- Ukulahlekelwa ngokwakho ebuhlotsheni bakho kuyinto elula ukuyenza
Ngigcina kanjani ekulahlekelweni yimi kulobu budlelwano? Ngingubani mina, njengoba sengishadile? Imibuzo abesifazane abaningi abalwa nayo ngasese, uma sebebudlelwaneni obuzibophezele noma sebeshadile. Ngabe uyakwazi ukubona lokhu, ukuhlala usuku nosuku, ukufuna ubuwena, ukucinga ukuthi wawuyini ngaphambi kobudlelwano noma ngaphambi kokushada, ukufuna izimpendulo, ukufuna leyo ngxenye yakho ozizwa ukuthi ilahlekile manje, leyo ngxenye wena okholwa ukuthi ufile.
Nguwe lo?
Ubunobungane, uthande ama-movie, uthanda ukuhamba, uthanda ukuhlala nabangane nomndeni, uthande ukuya e-spa, uthanda ukufunda, uthanda ukuzithandela, uthande izinhlangano zakho zesevisi, uthande izinto eziningi; ubukwazi okuthandayo nongakuthandi, ubuyindlovukazi yokuzinakekela, unengqondo eyakho, unezwi, futhi ubunobunikazi bakho. Kwenzekani kuye, kwenzekani kuwe? Washonaphi, wayeka nini ukuhlala, wanquma nini ukudela lokho owawunguye ngenxa yobudlelwano noma umshado? Kukusiphi isikhathi lapho ulahlekelwe khona ukuthi ungubani, uyeke nini ukuba nguwe, futhi uyeke nini ukuvela empilweni yakho.
Lokhu kwenzeka ezimpilweni zabesifazane abaningi
Lokhu kwenzeka kwabesifazane abayeka ukuhlala uma sebesebudlelwaneni noma ngemuva kokushada; abesifazane abazithola, bezifuna ngoba bazilahlekele ebudlelwaneni babo.
Ngokusho kukaBeverly Engel, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomlobi wencwadi ethi Loving Him Without Losing You, abesifazane abazilahlekelayo ebudlelwaneni babo “nguWesifazane Onyamalalayo”, “owesifazane othambekele ngokuncama ubuntu bakhe, izinkolelo zakhe, umsebenzi wakhe, abangane bakhe, futhi kwesinye isikhathi naye uyahlanya noma nini lapho ethandana. ”
Ngabe usunyamalele?
Ingabe ulahlekelwe ukuxhumana nokuthi ungubani, yini oyithandayo noma ongayithandi, uyeke imisebenzi oyithandayo, imisebenzi ekulethela injabulo nokwaneliseka, futhi uyekile ukuphila impilo futhi akanasikhathi sakho, umndeni, noma abangane ?
Ukuthi ukulobudlelwano akusho ukuthi akufanele uyithokozele impilo, akufanele uzizwe noma wenze sengathi impilo isiphelile, akusho ukuthi kufanele uyeke izinto ezikuthokozisayo zikulethele injabulo, akudingeki ulahle izinkanuko zakho, izintshisekelo, izinhloso noma amaphupho akho ngoba usebudlelwaneni noma ushadile. Lapho uzidela ngokwengeziwe, kulapho ulahlekelwa khona ngokwengeziwe futhi ekugcineni uzoqala ukucasukela umuntu oyiyo futhi uzozisola ngokungaphili impilo.
Ukulahlekelwa ngokwakho ebuhlotsheni bakho kuyinto elula ukuyenza
Kodwa-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungagcini ngokwenza kanjalo; futhi ungazilahlekeli, ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi ubheke okulandelayo:
Zazi ukuthi ungubani - Ungavumeli ubudlelwano bukuchaze, ube nobunikazi bakho obuhlukile, ungabudingi kakhulu ubuhlobo uze ukhohlwe wuwe. Ubudlelwano abukwenzi ube yilokho oyikho, uletha okuhlukile ebuhlotsheni, futhi ukwenze kube yilokho okuyikho.
Bamba iqhaza emisebenzini oyithandayo - Hlala uzibandakanya nezinto othanda ukuzenza futhi ungayeki ukujabulela impilo ngoba usebudlelwaneni. Kubalulekile ukuthi ube nezintshisakalo nemisebenzi yakho eceleni kobuhlobo, ukwenza njalo kuzokugcina ungathembele kumlingani wakho ukufeza zonke izidingo zakho.
Thola izindlela zokubuyisela emphakathini - Sekela futhi uzibandakanye ngokuzithandela kwinjongo yakho oyithandayo. Ukusiza abanye kuzogcwalisa isidingo sakho sokuba yilungu, kukhulise ukuzethemba kwakho, kukwenze uzizwe ubonga, ubonga, ujabule, futhi ukukunikeza ukugculiseka empilweni.
Hlala uxhumekile nabangani kanye nomndeni - Ungalilahli ithemba noma unganaki umndeni wakho nabangane, njengoba usuthandana. Qhubeka ukondla lobo budlelwano, uchithe isikhathi nabo, futhi uqhubeke nokubasekela lapho kungenzeka. Ungabanaki labo abebekhona ngenxa yakho, ngaphambi kobuhlobo. Kuphilile ukuba nabangane ngaphandle kobudlelwano.
Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela - Hlela isikhathi sakho, kungaba nezintombi zakho noma uwedwa usuku e-spa, ukuphunyuka kwamantombazane, noma isikhathi nje sodwa sokubonisa, ukuvuselela nokuvuselela amandla. Ukuzinakekela kubalulekile.
Ungayeki ukuba nguwe - Hlala uthembekile ezindinganisweni nasezinkolelweni zakho futhi ungazekethisi, uzidele noma uzishaye indiva. Uma udela izindinganiso zakho nezinkolelo zakho ebudlelwaneni, ulahlekelwa WENA. Ungayeki ukuba nguwe, futhi ungalokothi uyeke ukuvela empilweni yakho.
Khulumela phezulu - Yazi ukuthi unezwi; imicabango yakho, imibono, imizwa nokukhathazeka kwakho kunendaba. Ungathuli futhi uvumelane nemibono noma izitatimende, lapho wazi ukuthi awuvumelani nakho. Ziveze, futhi usukume ukhulume ngokukholelwa kukho.