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- Umelaphi ungummeli ofanelekayo wobudlelwano bakho
- Imiphumela yokungathembeki kumlingani okhohlisiwe
- Izinzuzo zokwelulekwa ngomshado ngemuva kokungathembeki
- 1. Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kugxile empandeni yokungathembeki
- 2. Udinga indawo ephephile ukuze ukhulume ngayo
- 3. Udinga usizo nasekucubunguleni imizwa yakho
- 4. Kungakusiza ukuthola ukuthi yini elandelayo
- 5. Kungakusiza ukugwema izindaba ngokuzayo
Ingabe ukwelulekwa ngokungathembeki kungawubuyisa umshado obuthakathaka ngokukhaphela, ukukopela nezindaba?
Kungenzeka ukuthi ufunde ukuthi cishe ingxenye yayo yonke imishado ekugcineni izophela ngesehlukaniso. Futhi kungani kunjalo? Kunezizathu eziningi ezivela ekuxhumaneni okungalungile nasezinkingeni zezezimali kuya ezinkingeni zokusondelana nokuntuleka kwemizamo yokwenza ubudlelwano buhlale.
Noma kunjalo esinye sezizathu ezihamba phambili ukungathembeki empeleni.
Ngokwemibiko eminingi, amaphesenti angama-30-60 emishado azobhekana nokungathembeki.
Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona umeluleki wemishado. Hhayi kuphela uma wena kanye / noma oshade naye ninenkinga enkulu engabeka ubudlelwano bakho engcupheni, kepha ngokujwayelekile.
Umelaphi ungummeli ofanelekayo wobudlelwano bakho
Enye indlela yokubheka abeluleki bezemishado ngabantu abasebenza njengommeli ofanele wobudlelwano bakho. Bazokunikeza amathiphu namathuluzi wokugcina umshado wakho uphilile futhi ujabulile.
Uma ungumuntu oye wabhekana nokungathembeki emshadweni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona umeluleki; ukuzibandakanya kokunye ukwelulekwa kokungathembeki emshadweni.
Imiphumela yokungathembeki kumlingani okhohlisiwe
Ukungathembeki kumthelela kokubili umlingani okopelayo nomlingani okhohlisiwe. Uma kwenzeka kunezingane, kunemiphumela ye-spillover ezinganeni nayo.
- Ukukhathazeka nokudangala
- Ukuphazamiseka kwengcindezi ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka
- Ukungazethembi
- Ukuhlushwa okubi
- Ukuphelelwa ukuzethemba
- Ngokudliwayo
- Ukuzilimaza
- Ukugodla ucansi njengesijeziso
- I-Paranoia noma umuzwa oqhubekayo wokungazethembi
Izinzuzo zokwelulekwa ngomshado ngemuva kokungathembeki
Ukwelulekwa ngomshado ngemuva kokungathembeki kungakusiza ukulungisa umshado ngemuva kokukopela. Ukwelulekwa ngokungathembeki kungasiza bobabili abalingani ekululameni emanxebeni okungathembeki futhi kuvimbele umshado ungapheli.
Uma uke wacabanga ngakho kepha awuqiniseki ngokuphelele ukuthi ngabe isinqumo esifanele ngomshado wakho nesimo sakho, nazi izinzuzo ezinhlanu ezinkulu zabeluleki bokungathembeki ngokuvakashela, okuzothembisa ukuthi uzokuqinisekisa ukuthi wenza i-aphoyintimenti ngokushesha okukhulu.
1. Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kugxile empandeni yokungathembeki
Okunye kokucabanga okukhulu abantu abajwayele ukukwenza uma kuziwa endabeni ukuthi konke kumayelana nendaba lapho udaba lolo lukhomba kwezinye izindaba ezihluphayo ebudlelwaneni.
Ngesikhathi sokwelulekwa ngokungathembeki, umeluleki wemishado uzokwazi ukubuza izinhlobo zemibuzo ezosiza wena noshade naye ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani emshadweni; izinto ezagcina ziholele ekuthandaneni.
2. Udinga indawo ephephile ukuze ukhulume ngayo
Ukuzama ukuhlanganisa izindaba zakho kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi akekho owaziyo ngakho akunampilo kumazinga amaningi. Ngasikhathi sinye, udinga ukuzethemba ukuthi lokho okhetha ukwabelana ngakho kuzogcinwa kukuzethemba okuphelele.
Umeluleki wemishado unesibopho sobungcweti nesokuziphatha sokungaphuli ukwethembana kwakho.
Lokho empeleni kuyinto engakunikeza induduzo enkulu ngokuthi amazinga akho okuthembela kungenzeka abuthakathaka kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi.
Ukwelulekwa ngemishado ngokungathembeki kukunikeza indawo ephephile yokuhlola nokucubungula ukuthi kungani kwenzeka le ndaba, ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuzulazula izinselelo zesimo esikhona manje, nokunquma phakathi kokuqeda umshado ngokuthula noma ukulungisa ubuhlobo obudilikile.
3. Udinga usizo nasekucubunguleni imizwa yakho
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ngokubamba iqhaza ekwelulekweni kokungathembeki emshadweni ukuthi umeluleki wemishado ubheke ezixazululweni.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi yize nakanjani bezokukhuthaza ukuthi ukhulume ngendlela ozizwa ngayo futhi bakukhuthaze nokuba uzizwe udabukile futhi uthukuthele, ngeke bakufune ungene kuleyo mizwa.
Umeluleki wezomshado uzokunikeza amasu asebenzayo wokuthi ungazwakalisa kanjani futhi usebenze imizwa yakho.
Ngaleyo ndlela, ungasebenza ngemizwa yakho bese uthatha isinqumo ngomshado wakho esingasekelwe ekutheni uzizwa kanjani ngaleyo nto kodwa lokho okufisa ekugcineni ngomshado wakho.
4. Kungakusiza ukuthola ukuthi yini elandelayo
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi kungani, ngemuva kokuqomisana, kwesinye isikhathi konke lokho izithandani ezingacabanga ngakho yindaba uqobo lwayo. Kepha kuzodingeka ukuthi kufike isikhathi lapho uzodinga ukwenza isinqumo mayelana nokulandelayo.
Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlala ndawonye (okungaba kuhle!), Umeluleki wezemishado angakunika izinyathelo ezithile ezisebenzayo zokuthatha umshado wakho ngale kwalolo daba.
Ukwelulekwa ngokungathembeki kungenza ngisho nomshado wakho uqine kunakuqala.
5. Kungakusiza ukugwema izindaba ngokuzayo
Ukuya ekwelulekweni kokungathembeki futhi ubone umeluleki mayelana nodaba akukhona nje ukuthi ungasebenza ngaleyo ndaba. Kuzokusiza ukuthola impendulo yombuzo uma owakwakho ezisola ngokweqiniso, enezenzo zakhe, futhi ezimisele ngempela ukuvusa ubudlelwane obudiliziwe.
Futhi kwenzelwa ukuthi wena noshade naye nikwazi ukuza nezindlela zokuvimbela ukuthi indaba ingaphinde yenzeke noma nithathe ukuqonda emizabalazweni nasezindabeni eziyisisekelo zekusasa elingcono ninomunye nomunye noma ngaphandle komunye nomunye.
Futhi lokho kungaba empeleni yisizathu esihle kunazo zonke sokubona umeluleki ngale nkinga.
Ukwazi ukuthi kukhona umuntu ekhoneni lakho ofanele ukukusiza ukwenza umshado wakho ulandele isikhathi (nemali) esetshenziswe kahle. Ngalesi sizathu, ngicela ukwenze kuqala ukubona umeluleki wezemishado kungekudala.
Noma ngabe ufuna ukusindisa ubudlelwano bakho noma uqede umshado wakho, ukwelulekwa kokungathembeki ngemuva kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokungathembeki - kwezocansi, nge-cyber noma ngokomzwelo, kubalulekile.