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- Kungani sidinga izitatimende zokulungisa
- 1. Khombisa Ukuqonda Impendulo Yozakwenu Engxabanweni
- 2. Bhekisa umyalezo ophelele osuswe kulesi simo
- 3. Nikeza isiqinisekiso nokuqinisekisa
- 4. Izitatimende zakho zokulungisa zehlukile kulesi simo okuso njengamanje
- 5. Izitatimende zokulungisa kufanele kube yinto eyenzeka njalo
“Xolisa, uthi uyaxolisa, cela ukuthethelelwa ...” Uzwe kangaki le misho ikhula? Sivame ukufundisa izingane ukubaluleka kokusebenzisa izitatimende ezinjalo zokulungisa ukuze kulungiswe ubudlelwano lapho imizwa yomuntu ilimele, noma kube nesenzo esilimaze inhlalakahle yobuhlobo. Kepha ingabe siwenza lo msebenzi ofanayo wokulungisa lapho kunekhefu kwizibopho zokunamathiselwe ebudlelwaneni bethu nabantu abadala? Ngemuva kobuntwana, igama elithi 'ukulungisa' lingahle lihlotshaniswe nokulungisa okokusebenza okuphukile noma i-elekthronikhi kunokusiza ubudlelwano buphinde buxhumane ngemuva kwengxabano. Ngenkathi isidingo salowo msebenzi wokulungisa ebudlelwaneni sihlala sibalulekile empilweni yonke yobudlelwano, amagama alula athi “Ngiyaxolisa” kanye nokuziphatha okusebenzele ukuxazulula ukungqubuzana kwenkundla yokudlala kungahle kusilele ekufezeni inhloso efanayo yokuxhuma kabusha ngemuva kwengxabano ubudlelwane babantu abadala.
Kungani sidinga izitatimende zokulungisa
Lapho sihlangabezana kakhudlwana nempilo, kulapho siletha okwethu okwedlule ubuhlungu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kungxabano ngayinye entsha, sikhulisa okudingekayo kusuka ezitatimendeni zokulungisa ukuze sizwe isinqumo esifanayo nomuzwa wokuqinisekiswa. Kodwa-ke, lapho sesimdala, sinamathuba amaningi okuthi sigweme izingxabano futhi sidlule emsebenzini wokulungisa, siholele ebudlelwaneni bethu ukuba bonakalise. Ezimweni eziningi, akusona isifiso esilahlekile sokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo esivimbela umkhuba ojwayelekile womsebenzi wokulungisa, kepha amashejuli amatasa kakhulu, ukukhungatheka emizamweni ehlulekile yangaphambilini, noma ukungaqiniseki kokuthi ungalungisa kanjani ngempela ikhefu lamaphethini wokunamathisela okunempilo lapho kuvela izingxabano. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi siyini isizathu, lapho ubudlelwano bungawutholi lo msebenzi wokulungisa ojwayelekile, abalingani baya ngokuya bahlukaniswa futhi bacashukelana.
Ukungqubuzana, ngokwemvelo, kuphazamisa izindlela zokunamathiselwa ezisenza sizizwe siphephile, sivikelekile futhi sinakekelwa ebudlelwaneni. Izitatimende zokulungisa yilezo zigatshana noma izenzo ezisiza ubudlelwano babuyele endaweni yokuzinza nokuphepha ngemuva kwengxabano. Njenganoma yikuphi ukulungiswa okuhle, umsebenzi wokulungisa ophumelela kakhulu wenziwa njengengxenye yokugcinwa kobudlelwano njalo kunokulinda kuze kuphele ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokulinda kuze kube yimpi enkulu elandelayo noma iseshini yokwelapha imibhangqwana elandelayo, ziphonsele inselelo yokwenza ubuciko bokulungisa usebenzisa lezi zeluleko ezinhlanu; ubudlelwano bakho buzokubonga.
1. Khombisa Ukuqonda Impendulo Yozakwenu Engxabanweni
Sonke sinamaphethini wokunamathisela ahlukile akhula ngaphezu kwesikhathi sethu sempilo, okusiholela ekuphenduleni ukungqubuzana ngendlela ehlukile. Kwabanye, lapho kuvela ukungqubuzana phakathi kobudlelwano kunesifiso sokuba nesikhathi sodwa nokuhlukana ngokwenyama. Futhi abanye banesifiso esinamandla sokusondela ngokomzimba ukusiza ukunciphisa ukungqubuzana kokukhathazeka okudalayo. Ukuqonda izimpendulo zangaphakathi zomlingani wakho ezingxabanweni kuyasiza ekwenzeni umsebenzi wokulungisa ohlangabezana kangcono nezidingo zomlingani wakho. Lokhu kunikeza nethuba lokuyekethisa futhi uqale ukulungisa ibhuloho ukuze uxhume kabusha izibopho zobudlelwano ngemuva kwengxabano. Isibonelo, uma umlingani oyedwa enempendulo yesikhala somzimba ngenkathi omunye efisa ukusondelana ngokomzimba, ungasebenza kanjani ukufeza zombili izinhloso njengabalingani? Mhlawumbe nihlala ngokuthula ndawonye ngemuva kwengxabano ukuze nihlangabezane nesidingo sokusondelana ngokomzimba, ngenkathi nihlonipha isidingo sokuzindla kwangaphakathi ngokuthula. Noma mhlawumbe ukhetha ukunikela isikhathi esibekiwe lapho uzinika khona isikhathi sokuphuma ngaphambi kokubheka ukubuya ndawonye emsebenzini wokulungisa. Ukuqonda lezi zimpendulo ezingokwemvelo ngemuva kwengxabano kungukhiye emsebenzini wokulungisa osebenzayo ngoba kufanele sibe sendaweni yokuthola izitatimende zokulungisa.
2. Bhekisa umyalezo ophelele osuswe kulesi simo
Lapho ukuxolisa kukhawulelwa esenzweni esidale ukungqubuzana noma imizwa elimele, ukuqinisekiswa okuncane kunikezwa ulwazi lomunye. Isibonelo, imvamisa akukhona ukuthi uphuze ukudla, noma ngabe isimo sinjani, kepha ukuthi ngoba wephuze ukudla umlingani wakho ususe umyalezo wokuthi ukubambezeleka kwakho kusho ukuthini ngomlingani wakho kanye / noma nobudlelwano. Imiyalezo enjalo ingazwakala ngathi, “Uma ufike sekwedlule isikhathi sokudla kungenza ngizizwe ngingelutho.” Uma sikwazi ukuqonda umlayezo othathwe esimeni esiholele emizweni elimele nasekuxabaneni, singahlangabezana kangcono nezidingo zozakwethu ngokukhuluma ngqo kuleyo milayezo. “Ngiyaxolisa ngokubambezeleka,” kusho uPale ngokuqhathaniswa nokuthi “Ngiyaxolisa ngokukwenza uzizwe ungabalulekile.” Okungcono kakhulu, landela isitatimende sokulungisa ngomlayezo ongathanda ukuthi umlingani wakho abambe. Isibonelo, "Angisoze ngafisa ukukwenza uzizwe ungabalulekile, ngiyakuthanda futhi ngiyakukhathalela."
3. Nikeza isiqinisekiso nokuqinisekisa
Asikwazi ukukhetha ukuthi umlingani wethu uzizwa kanjani noma uhlangabezana nesimo, futhi ngokufanayo. Ingxenye yomsebenzi wokulungisa ngaphakathi kobudlelwano ukuthola umqondo wokuqonda. Ukuvumelana ngokuthi kwenzeka kanjani amaqiniso esimo noma ukungqubuzana akubalulekanga kangako kunokuthola indawo ofanayo yothando nozwelo ngemuva komcimbi. Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi uke wahlangabezana nesimo ngokuhlukile, hlonipha futhi uqinisekise ukuthi isipiliyoni somlingani wakho ngomcimbi siyiqiniso futhi siyiqiniso kubo. Lapho nje umuntu ezwa ngisho nomzamo wokuqonda, kuba nokuvuleka kokuqhubeka kokuzibandakanya ukulungisa ukuphazamiseka kokunamathiselwe nokusondelana ebudlelwaneni.
4. Izitatimende zakho zokulungisa zehlukile kulesi simo okuso njengamanje
Enye yezinkinga eza ngokumane uthi “ngiyaxolisa” noma esinye isisho esivame kakhulu ebudlelwaneni, ukuthi, ngokujwayelekile, siqala ukukuzwa njengokungahloniphi nokuzama ukushweleza kunokuba sikondle. Lapho ukwazi ukukhombisa ukuqonda okwenzeka kumlingani wakho ngxabano, kulapho ukwazi khona ukukhombisa ukunakekela, kanye nesifiso sokwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile. Ikakhulu ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, izingqikithi zizovela emiyalezweni esemqoka ozakwethu bavame ukususa ezingxabanweni ezithile. Yize lolu lwazi lungasiza, futhi lungaholela ekwanelisekeni nasekulahlekelweni kwenani lokubiza amagama anjalo ezitatimende zokulungisa. Noma ingxabano ingazwakala ijwayelekile, lesi simo samanje sisha. Umlingani wakho wazi kuphela ngezenzo zakho, hhayi inhloso yezenzo ezinjalo, amagama anezwi abalulekile, ikakhulukazi njengoba ubudlelwane buqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Khetha amagama abhekana nomthelela wengxabano yamanje ukuze uhlangabezane nezidingo zamanje ebudlelwaneni bakho.
5. Izitatimende zokulungisa kufanele kube yinto eyenzeka njalo
Ubudlelwano bungafaniswa nomdanso. Kuthatha isikhathi nokuzijwayeza ukufunda umlingani wakho nokuthi bahamba futhi basebenze kanjani, futhi kukhona ubuciko bokuthola isigqi sakho njengeqembu. Kungakho umsebenzi wokulungisa osebenzayo ebudlelwaneni ungeke ube yinto engandile futhi ehlala isikhathi esifushane. Kuthatha isikhathi, ukubuza imibuzo, nokuzijwayeza ukufunda ngomlingani wakho futhi uthole amagama akho okuthi ungawenza kanjani umsebenzi wokulungisa. Ngokufanelekile, izitatimende zokulungisa zazizokwenzeka ngemuva kwakho konke ukuphazamiseka emaphethini wokunamathisela, noma ngabe lokho kubukeka njengokulwa okukhulu noma umlingani ezizwa enqanyuliwe ebudlelwaneni ngenxa yosuku olubi emsebenzini. Umsebenzi wokulungisa uhlinzeka ngemiyalezo yokuthi ubalulekile, futhi ubudlelwano bubalulekile. Le yimilayezo okufanele inikezwe njalo futhi yamukelwe ukukhuthaza okunamathiselwe okunempilo, okuholela ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.