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- 1. Usafuna ukudlala azungeze - okuningi
- 2. Okuhlangenwe nakho okwedlule - okuhle nokubi
- 3. Ucabanga ngempela ukuthi awuyena ophelele
- 4. Isigaxa esizungeze igama elithi "umshado"
- Ungabhekana kanjani nendoda enezinkinga zokuzibophezela
Ake sicabange ukuthi ubukade uthandana noma uhamba nomfana muva nje kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho uqala ingxoxo ngokuthatha ubuhlobo uye ezingeni elilandelayo, akafuni ukukubeka ilebula. Ubudlelwano yizinto ezintekenteke ezithatha imizamo eminingi yokuhlangana futhi ziqhubeke ngendlela eshelelayo nephelele. Kungenzeka ukuthi unikela ngakho konke onakho ebudlelwaneni kufaka phakathi uthando, ukwethembana, nokuxhasana kepha leyo yinto oyinikezayo kusukela ekugcineni kepha kuthiwani ngomuntu wakho?
Ingabe ukubeka konke ukwethemba okudinga kuwe?
Ngabe unikeza ukusekelwa lapho kudingeka khona kepha uyeka ukuhlanganyela konke nawe?
Abesilisa bathatha isikhathi ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni - njenge-LOT of time ngoba banezabo izabelo zokwazi. Yebo, lokho nje kuyisiqalo ngoba kunezizathu eziningi abangazisho ngazo - “ngiyakwenza” !!
Nazi izizathu zokuthi kungani amadoda ebhekene nesikhathi esinzima sokuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni.
1. Usafuna ukudlala azungeze - okuningi
Lesi yisona sizathu esivame kakhulu esingahlangana nekhanda lowesifazane - umfana kumele ngabe uyazikhohlisa futhi unamathela ekuzijabuliseni. Leyo yinto engaba yisizathu esingaba khona kwezinye izimo ngokuqinisekile lapho umfana enendaba nje edlulayo nawe ukuthola izinzuzo omnikeza zona.
Izikhathi eziningi abafana bafuna ukujabula ezimpilweni zabo futhi yingakho benamathela ngaphandle kokuzibophezela. Akuwona amadoda anezinkinga zokuzibophezela, awazimisele ngokwanele.
2. Okuhlangenwe nakho okwedlule - okuhle nokubi
Wonke umuntu unesabelo sakhe sesipiliyoni - kokubili okuhle nokubi.
Amadoda angama-phobic ukuzibophezela yilabo abaye baba nesipiliyoni esibi kakhulu bangenza noma yini ukugwema ukuphinda isiqephu esifanayo.
Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi umngani wami wayethandana kakhulu nalona wesifazane futhi ehlela ukushada. Ngesikhathi eqhubeka emcela - yena wenqabile ebusweni. Ube nokuhlukumezeka okukhulu amasonto abese edlulela phambili.
Kepha ubengakulungele ukuba sebudlelwaneni obukhulu kepha bese kufika omunye wesifazane omthanda kakhulu. Lapho eza phambi kwakhe ezosho lawo mazwi amnandi kuye - waquleka wahluleka ukusho lutho.
Lesi ngesinye sezizathu esenza amadoda angazibophezeli ebudlelwaneni ngoba esaba ukubhekana nokunye ukwehluleka empilweni futhi ngenxa yalokho, ayayeka okufanayo.
Ukuzibophezela kwabesilisa abanesibindi bayesaba ukuthi ubudlelwane babo buzohlangabezana nesiphetho esifanayo nobudlelwano bangaphambilini.
3. Ucabanga ngempela ukuthi awuyena ophelele
Awukwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezifanele ngaso sonke isikhathi - okokuqala. Uma kukhulunywa ngokukhetha ophelele emshadweni, kufanele ubhekane nezinsuku ezingamaphupho amabi, izingxoxo ezizwakalayo, izimpelasonto ezinde nokunye okuningi kunalokho. Ngaleso sikhathi esifanele, uhlangabezana nabantu abaningi abangafanele ukubizwa - abaphelele. Ukuzibophezela kusenesikhathi kuzoba yisinqumo esibi kuwe (kulokhu - emadodeni). Ngakho-ke, bayakugwema ukukwenza kusenesikhathi.
Amadoda anezinkinga zokuzibophezela yilabo abangahleleli ukuhlala phansi nanoma ngubani nhlobo.
4. Isigaxa esizungeze igama elithi "umshado"
Izizathu abafana besaba ukuzibophezela yingoba umqondo womshado kwesinye isikhathi usatshalaliswa njengento ehlanganisa amaphiko akho futhi ithathe inkululeko yakho. Akunjalo, umshado ukunikeza ithuba lokuhlala ndawonye nakhe impilo ndawonye nomuntu omthandayo futhi ofuna ukuba naye, ngokuzithandela.
Lapho umfana esaba ukuzibophezela izimpawu azibonisayo zifaka phakathi, ukulungisa lapho ukhuluma ngekusasa, ukwabelana nawe ngamacebo wedwa okungakufaki, ukungabaza ukukukwazisa kubangani nomndeni wakhe njalonjalo.
Ungabhekana kanjani nendoda enezinkinga zokuzibophezela
Uma ethatha isikhathi esiningi futhi engazibandakanyi, uyakuthanda futhi uthatha isikhathi ukuzethemba, adlale ngokuzama nokuzama ukukuqonda kangcono.
Kepha, uma uzizwa ngokungathi sína ukuthi unezinkinga zokuzibophezela angeke azithole bese uyahamba. Awudingi ukubhekana nayo, uma ufuna ukuba nekusasa nomuntu futhi umuntu angafuni ukwenza okufanayo, bese wenza ezinye izinhlelo.