-Delile
- Ungalokothi ubuthathe kalula ubuhlobo bakho
- Yenza ukusondelana ngokocansi ngamabomu bese kukunyakazisa kancane
- Ukungathinti ocansini nsuku zonke
- Thatha okuthile okusha ndawonye
- Yenza isikhathi salezo zingxoxo “asishintshe umhlaba”
- Imibhangqwana emikhulu iyathathelana
Uma uke wachitha isikhathi uhamba nezithandani ezinesikhathi eside ushadile, kungenzeka ukuthi wezwa okulandelayo kusuka kumyeni noma kunkosikazi: “O, nali ibhola elidala nochungechunge”, noma “uNkulunkulu hhayi lelo hlaya futhi! Abantu bayizwe izikhathi eziyizigidi. Yiphumule! ”
Izinga lezehlukaniso phakathi kwesethi engaphezu kwama-50 liyanda, umaizibalo kufanele kukholwe, ngalesi sigaba sabantu abahlukanisa ngesilinganiso esiphindwe kabili esabonwa ngawo-1990.
Akekho ofuna ukuba yingxenye yombhangqwana ogcwele ukunganaki, futhi angagcini ngokuhlukanisa ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 noma ngaphezulu beshadile, ngakho-ke ukubheka izindlela umbhangqwana ongalukhulisa ngazo uthando lwawo, kunokuba ulubuke luncipha eminyakeni edlule, kubalulekile empilweni nenjabulo yobuhlobo bakho.
Ake sihlole ezinye izindlela zokusiza uthando lwakho lukhule njengoba wena nomlingani wakho niya phambili empilweni.
Ungalokothi ubuthathe kalula ubuhlobo bakho
Impela, njengoba ukhula ngokwemvelo awunaki ngokwengeziwe ukwakha isibopho sobambiswano lwakho kunangezinsuku zokuqala, futhi lokho kuyaqondakala ngokuphelele.
Uma nihlangana okokuqala "eyodwa", nobabili nisebenza kanzima ukukhombisa uhlangothi lwenu oluhle kakhulu, ukunikeza ubuhlobo konke ngokukwenza kube yinto ephambili. Uyanakekela ukufika ezinsukwini zakho ubukeka umuhle kakhulu, ngengubo oyikhethe ngokucophelela, izinwele zakho nezimonyo zakho kubukeka kungenaphutha, mhlawumbe namakha athokozisayo azowakhomba nawe nje.
Ubheka izinto ezithokozisayo eningazenza ndawonye — umbukiso wakamuva womnyuziyamu, umdlalo omuhle, ikhonsathi noma ukuhlelelwa kahle ngempelasonto okuhlelwe kahle. Futhi ukukhuluma okuningi nokuxoxisana, ngamunye wenu ubhekane nomunye.
Ukusiza ukugcina uthando lwakho lujulile kuyo yonke le minyaka, ungakunaki ukuqhubeka nokufaka imisebenzi "yedethi yokuqala".
Imibhangqwana iyabhoreka ngenxa yokuthi iwela enkambisweni, uhlobo lwe-inertia, lapho iyeka khona ukuzabalazela ukuziveza kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha.
Leli iphutha elikhulu.
Impela, uzizwa ukhululekile ukuhlala ndawonye endlini ngezimpelasonto — phela, ukhathele isikhathi sokusebenza — kodwa uma wenza lokho kuphela, isithukuthezi siyoqala. Qala ukuphila ngezimpelasonto zakho njengoba wenza ngesikhathi uqala ukuphola, futhi uzoqala ukubona umlingani wakho njengoba wenza kuleyo minyaka yokuqala-njengomuntu okhethekile, onothando owathandana naye futhi ongasoze wakuthatha kalula.
Yenza ukusondelana ngokocansi ngamabomu bese kukunyakazisa kancane
Ufuna ukuqhubeka ujulisa uthando lwakho ngomunye nomunye? Gcina ucansi ekhalendeni.
Noma ungazizwa uthanda kanjalo. Imibhangqwana eminingi yesikhathi eside ayisayi ocansini phambili, njengoba ezinye izinto ezenzeka empilweni zibonakala zihamba phambili, njengezingane, abazali asebekhulile, imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Kepha ucansi luyinto ebalulekile ukuhlala eduze ngokomzwelo.
Buza noma imuphi umbhangqwana ohlukanisayo futhi uzokutshela ukuthi enye yezinto zokuqala ezibe nomthelela ekuqedeni ubudlelwano babo ukungabi bikho kocansi noma umlingani ovele "wadabula" egumbini lokulala.
Ukuze ujulise uthando lwakho eminyakeni edlule, naka impilo yakho yezocansi. Yigcine ithokozisa ngokufaka isimanga esisha njengokusebenzisa amathoyizi, noma amavidiyo avusa inkanuko eniwajabulelayo nobabili.
Ubulili buyiglue esabekayo yokusiza ukugcina ubudlelwano benu buhlangene, ngakho-ke ungakunaki lokhu kuphila okungenazimpilo nekhalori!
Ukungathinti ocansini nsuku zonke
Kunezindlela eziningi ezingezona ezocansi ongakhombisa ngazo umlingani wakho ukuthi uzizwa usondelene naye.
Kuthiwani ngokubhucungwa okujulile ngemuva kosuku olude emsebenzini? Noma ugqoke isivuno esithile uFrank Sinatra bese udonsela oshade naye eduze kwakho ngomdanso onensayo, ovusa inkanuko? Ukubambana ngokushesha lapho niqeda izitsha ndawonye, noma ukuqabulana entanyeni yakhe lapho nidlulana ephasishi?
Zonke lezi zenzo zothando ziyizindlela zokukukhombisa ukuthi uyaqhubeka nokubonana nokwazisana, futhi zisiza ekugcineni isibopho senu siqinile futhi siqinile.
Thatha okuthile okusha ndawonye
Impela, kuhle (futhi kuyadingeka) ukuthi ngamunye wenu abe nezinkanuko zakhe ezihlukile, kepha imibhangqwana emide ingalukhulisa uthando lwayo ngomunye nomunye ngokwenza okuthile okusha nokuphonsela inselelo ndawonye.
Kukhona okuthile ngamahomoni akhishwe ngokukhuphukela emsebenzini onzima ozokwenza ubone umlingani wakho ngeso elisha nokwanda kwe-libido.
Uma nobabili nikujabulela ukugijima, kungani ningaqeqeshi futhi nigijime imarathon ndawonye? Ingabe ama-gourmets amabili? Thatha isigaba sokupheka ndawonye futhi niphikisane ngezimpelasonto ukudala ukudla okumangazayo. Ngabe uhlale unentshisekelo kwezemidlalo yamanzi? Bhalisela uhambo lokuhamba ngomkhumbi noma lwe-kayaking.
Noma yini entsha futhi enezinga lezinselelo ezakhelwe ngaphakathi kungumsebenzi omuhle wokuletha izithandani zakho kwelinye izinga lobumbano.
Yenza isikhathi salezo zingxoxo “asishintshe umhlaba”
Mhlawumbe hhayi njalo ebusuku, kepha okungenani kanye ngesonto ube nengxoxo esezingeni eliphakeme, yefilosofi nomlingani wakho ukuze nikwazi ukuxhumana ngendlela ezwakalayo.
Ingxoxo enhle yenza izimangaliso zokwandisa imizwa yenu yothando komunye nomunye.
Imibuzo ecabangayo enjengokuthi "Ngabe lokhu okwenzayo manje kuyafana yini nokuphupha ngempilo yakho ngenkathi usemncane?" noma “Yiziphi izinhlobo zezinto esingazilwela eminyakeni emihlanu ezayo ukuze siqhubeke sijabula ndawonye?” izoshukumisa ingxoxo futhi inenze nobabili niqhume amangqamuzana enu obuchopho.
Imibhangqwana emikhulu iyathathelana
Wake wachitha isikhathi uzungeze umngane ocindezelekile, futhi uqaphele ukuthi usuka kulowo muzwa kancane phansi ngokwakho?
Imizwelo iyathathelana ngaleyo ndlela.
Qiniseka ukuthi imibhangqwana ohlanganyela nayo iyizibonelo zalokho ofuna ukuba nakho ebudlelwaneni bakho: imibhangqwana enothando, esekelanayo ebeka phambili omunye komunye.