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- 1. Ncoma kaningi - futhi ucacise
- 2. Beka isikhathi esicacile sokulalela
- 3. Dedela izinto ezincane
- 4. Funda amasu wokuphikisana anempilo
- 5. Yenza izenzo zomusa ezingahleliwe
- 6. Vuma okuhle
- 7. Naka ukusabela kwakho
Uma ulwa nezinkinga zomshado, kungenzeka uzizwe ukhungathekile, udabukile, noma uphelelwe yithemba nje. Umshado ohlulekayo ungazizwa njengogibe, lapho kungaze kwenzeke lutho olwedlula “okubi.”
Ezimweni ezinjengalezi, ukuthola ukwelashwa noma ukuzama ukubhekana nezinkinga zenu ndawonye njengeqembu kuyiseluleko sobuhlakani. Kodwa ingabe kukhona ongakwenza wena wedwa ukusindisa umshado wakho? Ungase umangale ukwazi ukuthi yebo, ungakwazi.
Uma ukhathazekile ngomshado wakho, zama lezi zinto eziyi-7 ezingawusindisa.
1. Ncoma kaningi - futhi ucacise
Ukugxekwa njalo akwenzi isisekelo esihle somshado. Uma ugxeka umlingani wakho kakhulu, uzobaphikisa futhi konke kuzozizwa kuliwa.
Zama ukubancoma kunalokho. Uma benze umzamo, bekuhlekisa, bebenomusa kumuntu ongamazi noma besiza izingane ngomsebenzi wesikole, yithi ngiyabonga. Uma uwathanda amahlaya abo noma ukuthi bazithanda kangakanani izimbangela zabo abazithandayo, batshele.
Kulula kakhulu ukucacisa ngokugxeka (“ubephuze imizuzu engama-40!”), Kungani ungazami ukucacisa ngokuncoma kwakho?
2. Beka isikhathi esicacile sokulalela
Womabili amaqembu ebudlelwaneni afanele ukuzwakala nokuqinisekiswa - kepha isikhathi asihlali ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma umlingani wakho ezama ukukhuluma nawe ngenkathi ugijimisa ukudla futhi ufaka imibuzo yemibuzo yasekhaya yezingane, ngeke zikunake kakhulu.
Esikhundleni sokuzixubha, zama ukuthi “Angikwazi ukukhuluma ngalokhu njengamanje, kodwa ake sizinike isikhathi sokuhlala phansi ngemuva kokudla kwakusihlwa.” Bazise ukuthi okubakhathazayo kubalulekile kuwe, bese ulandela lokho ngokuhlala phansi uxoxe nabo ngakho.
3. Dedela izinto ezincane
Uma unenkinga emshadweni wakho, kulula kakhulu ukuqala ukukhetha izinto ezincane ezikucasulayo. Uma ngaso sonke isikhathi beshiya isihlalo sendlu yangasese phezulu, noma ngaso sonke isikhathi bephutha amaqiniso lapho bekhuluma leyo ndaba eyodwa, ngokushesha ungazithola usubabaza buthule.
Kepha lokhu ngeke kukusize ukusindisa umshado wakho.
Ukufunda ukuvumela izinto ezincane zihambe kudinga isiyalo, kepha imiphumela (ukungezwani okuncane nxazonke!) Kuyakufanelekela. Thatha umoya ojulile, ubale uye eshumini, bese umane uzikhumbuze ukuthi ezinye izinto azibalulekile kangako.
4. Funda amasu wokuphikisana anempilo
Uma unezinkinga zomshado, amathuba okubhekana nezingxabano eziningi. Amaphuzu okungavumelani angakhuphuka kalula kube izingxabano ezishiya nobabili nicasukile. Ukungqubuzana okuqhubekayo kuzokusiza uzizwe sengathi umshado wakho uzobhujiswa.
Kungakho ukufunda amasu wokuphikisana okunempilo kungasiza ekusindiseni umshado wakho. Uma ungafunda ukulalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela futhi ugxile esinqumweni kunokuwina, uzobona umehluko omkhulu. Yenza ukukhetha okuhle ukukhuluma ngenhlonipho, ulalele ngomusa, futhi uyeke ukuhudula okwedlule.
5. Yenza izenzo zomusa ezingahleliwe
Ungaphendula kangcono kumuntu ongakunaki futhi akuphathe njengomuntu ocasulayo, noma umuntu okuphathe ngomusa? Kunengqondo impela, kepha kulula ukukhohlwa ukuthi izenzo zakho zithinta umphumela owutholayo.
Khombisa umlingani wakho uthando nomusa, futhi ungamangala ukuthi kungakanani ukuphulukiswa okwenzekayo. Thatha umsebenzi abawuzondayo, ubamangaze ngokudla okuthandayo, noma uhlele ubusuku obuhle nobabili.
Lezi zinto ezincane ngeke zisindise umshado wakho, kepha zizokwakha indawo enomusa efanelekile ukubhekana nezinkinga ezinkulu ngokubambisana.
6. Vuma okuhle
Ukwazi okuhle emshadweni wakho kuzokusiza uzizwe unethemba ngakho. Ungahle uthole incwajana bese wenza uhlu lwezinto ezinhle. Mhlawumbe uyiqembu elihle le-DIY. Mhlawumbe wabelana ngamanani amaningi ayisisekelo, noma wazi ukuthi ungahlekisana kanjani.
Ukufuna okuhle kuzoqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuze ubone okuningi kwakho. Uma ungena kule mindset, izinto ezimbi ziba lula ukubhekana nazo, ngoba awunqotshwanga yizo.
Sesha izindlela zokuthuthukisa okuhle emshadweni wakho ngokuchitha isikhathi nenza imisebenzi ekhipha okuhle kini nobabili - futhi ungakhohlwa ukutshela umlingani wakho zonke izinto ozithandayo ngokushada nabo.
7. Naka ukusabela kwakho
Awukwazi - futhi akufanele! - lawula amazwi nezenzo zomlingani wakho, kepha ungabheka ukuphendula kwakho.
Ukusabela kwethu kungenza isimo esishubile sibe sibi kakhulu. Uma uzibamba uqhuqha noma ulungisa impendulo ebhuqayo, thatha umoya ojulile bese ubuyela emuva kuleso simo. Uma udinga, zinakekele njengokuzindla, i-yoga noma ukuphuza inkomishi yekhofi ukuze ubuyisele ibhalansi yakho.
Uma ukwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga ngokuzola, ngeke kubonakale kungenakunqotshwa.
Kwesinye isikhathi okusindisa umshado akuyona into eyodwa enkulu kepha izinto eziningi eziningi ezengeza ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Zama lezi zindlela namuhla - ungazisebenzisa ukwakha isisekelo sokukhulisa nokunenhlonipho lapho ungadlulela phambili ndawonye.