Khumbula okokuqala ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane baxhumana ngokwehlukile: Abesifazane bathambekele ekusebenziseni ulimi olungokomzwelo, oluyimpunga olubhekiswe kubantu ngenkathi abesilisa bejwayele ukusebenzisa ukhonkolo, ulimi lwabamnyama nabamhlophe olunezimo ezithile.
Imvamisa abesifazane baba nobunzima bokukhuluma ngalokho abakucabangayo nabesilisa ngoba abesilisa bazama ukuhlukanisa ukuze bakwazi ukuxazulula inkinga lapho abesifazane befuna ukuqondana ukuthi bakuphi, ngokobudlelwano. Lokhu kunganqotshwa ngokulungisa indlela abaxhumana ngayo. Kunamasu okwenza umuntu wakho akulalele futhi aqonde ulimi lwakho olungokomzwelo.
Izindlela zokwenza umlingani wakho alalele, akhulume futhi aqonde ulimi olungokomzwelo:
- Qalisa ingxoxo
Bheka Ingxenye 1 yale ndatshana yokuthi ungenza kanjani umyeni wakho akulalele nokuthi uyiqala kanjani ingxoxo. Ngokubhekisa kulokhu ungathola izeluleko zokwenza umyeni wakho akulalele. Kepha kunokunye okufanele ukwenze uma udinga ukuthi aqonde futhi afeze lokho okudingayo kuye. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungenza kanjani umyeni wakho aqonde futhi akhulume kahle ulimi oluthinta imizwa yakho.
- Sebenzisa ulimi olulula lomzwelo
Namathela emizweni eyisisekelo (ujabule, udabuke, uhlanye / uthukuthele (ukukhungatheka kuyisilungisi esihle), ukumangala, ukunengeka, ukwedelela, nokwesaba / ukwesaba) njengesiqalo ngoba uyakwazi ukuqonda lokho njengoba kunjalo jikelele.
Lokhu cishe kuyisiqinisekiso sokuthi uzokwazi ukuxoxa ngezinga elithile futhi akwazi ukuphendula esebenzisa ulimi olufanayo - ongakhuthaza, futhi okufanele ulukhuthaze.
- Sebenzisa ulimi lukakhonkolo (Black & White)
Zama ukubiyela okushoyo kwezinye izinhlaka zokhonkolo; le ngxoxo imele ngokomzwelo futhi ungayihumushela kuye njengokhonkolo ulimi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ufuna ukuzwakala futhi nendlela engcono yokuqinisekisa ukuthi lokho ukuzama ukukhuluma ulimi lwakhe ngenkathi ulixuba nolwakho.
Lokhu kumnikeza indlela yokuxhumana nawe esebenzisa ulimi lwakho kanye nolwakhe.
- Iba nesineke
Umfundisa ukukhuluma ngenhliziyo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi umphathe njengengane noma isilima (akayona); kusho nje ukuyigcina ilula futhi imfushane (lokho kusho ukuthi imisho emi-3 kuye kwemi-5).
- Beka imingcele
Kuthambekele kokufunda komuntu ukuzama ukuxazulula noma ukulungisa. Ngaphandle kokuthi lesi yisimo lapho yilokho okufunayo, mcele ukuthi ayeke ukuxazulula nokulungisa. Cishe uzokwehluleka ukwenza lokho ngoba yilokho akujwayele nalokho akuqonda kangcono. Mise ngobumnene umcele akulalele nje ngoba yilokho okudingayo futhi ukuxazulula / ukulungisa kulimaza wena.
- Mcele alalele ngenkuthalo
- Leli yithuba lakho lokucacisa okushoyo
- Yima umcele ukuthi akutshele akuzwile. Lokhu akumele kumenze abe namahloni, wukuqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu okushoyo kuzwakala kahle futhi akuhlungwa futhi kuvuselelwe ngezihlungi zakhe nezinkolelo zakhe (sonke esinomkhuba wazo wokuzenza).Khumbula ukuthi, kusenesikhathi, ngeke akuqambe kabusha lokhu okushoyo kahle kakhulu.
- Mcele akwenze, ngokunqamuka okufanele, akubuze uma engakutshela lokho akuzwile ukukusho kuze kube manje (lokhu kumnika imvume ukungenzi sengathi uyakuqonda okushoyo bese ucela ukucaciselwa). Uma enza lokhu, lokho sekuthuthukile impela ngoba, manje, uzimisele ukuvuma ukuthi akaphelele.
- Uma ekuguqula kabusha okushilo, ngabe lokho akusho kuhle ngokwanele? Cabanga ngempela ngalokho - ufuna ukuthi akuthole okushoyo. Uma ulinganisela noma wamukela “uhlobo,” khona-ke uyazikhipha wena nezidingo zakho. Yena can yithole. Lesi akusona isikhathi sokuthi, "Kulungile, kwanele lokho."
Ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi ukuzwa ngokunembile ngaphandle kokubheka ngempendulo yakhe.
- Msize ahlale ekhona
Uma umbona ezulazula ekhanda lakhe, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlela impendulo yakhe noma ucabanga ngezinye izinto ezikhululeke (isb. Umsebenzi, iphrojekthi, ijimu); ngesineke misa isikhashana isikhathi esanele ukuze unakwe futhi umcele ukuthi abuye.
- Qaphela izindlela zakhe zokuzivikela
- Izindlela zokuzivikela zizenzakalelayo kakhulu - ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi eyodwa ivele.
- Amanye amathuba:
- Izaba nokwenza izaba: Kuyindlela yokuzivikela engokwemvelo lapho senze okuthile okungalungile futhi sinamahloni / sinamahloni ngezenzo zethu. Isandla esithambile engalweni noma enhliziyweni yakhe kungakuthulisa lokho.
- Ukukusola: Uma ukuzivikela kwakhe kusola, kufanele kubekwe umngcele. Kungcono ukusho ngomoya ophansi ukuthi ungakulanda lokhu kamuva. Lokhu kuzothatha ukuzibamba okukhulu kepha ingxoxo eqhubekayo endaweni yakhe kungenzeka ingabi nazithelo, noma okubi kakhulu.
- Zikhumbuze kukho konke
Akakabi nekhono lokulalela futhi "athole" ulimi olushukumisa imizwa. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubekezele. Lokhu akuyona into elula kuyena kepha yena can yithole.
- Khumbula inhloso yakho:
Ufuna ukuzwakala ngemicabango yakho, imibono yakho, nemizwa yakho futhi ubonwe ukuthi ungubani ngempela.