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- Izifungo zothando kufanele zibonise okusenhliziyweni yakho
- 1. Izinkondlo Zothando
- 2. Izingoma zothando
- 3. Prose Ukufundwa
Isikhathi sokuthandana kakhulu empilweni: ukubopha ifindo lomshado nomuntu omthandayo. Ngokujabulisayo, wena nesoka lakho nisekhasini elilodwa: nobabili nifuna ukufaka izifungo zomshado zothando emcimbini wenu. Ukukhetha izifungo zothando ezisebenzisa ulimi oluhlabayo, olubhebhezelwa uthando kuyindlela enhle yokudlulisela kuzivakashi zakho zomshado ukuthi "inkomishi yakho yothando" ingaphezu kangakanani. *
Izifungo zothando kufanele zibonise okusenhliziyweni yakho
Awuqinisekile ukuthi uzoqala kuphi? Ukucwaninga okufanele kufakwe ngomunye wemisebenzi ejabulisa kakhulu ukuhlela umshado. Ngakho-ke hlaziyana nesoka lakho, thatha inkomishi yekhofi noma uthele ingilazi yewayini, bese sibheka ukuthi ungasilungisa kanjani isifiso sakho sezithembiso zomshado wakho.
1. Izinkondlo Zothando
Izinkondlo bekuyindlela ende yokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane bahehe, bahehe futhi bavale uthando lwabo komunye nomunye. Kunezindlela ezimbalwa ezingcono zokusho ukuthi uboshwe kangakanani nomlingani wakho, njengezithembiso zakho zothando ezibhalwe phansi kunokusho inkondlo noma ezimbili kwabanye bama-Wordsmiths amakhulu.
Ingabe ucabanga ngomshado wakudala, osemthethweni? Ungahle ufune ukusebenzisa okuthile kusuka UShakespeare's URomeo noJuliet. Ngomunye wemidlalo yothando eyake yabhalwa (noma ngabe yaphela kabuhlungu). UShakespeare wayezazi izinto zakhe ngenkathi ebhala:
Umusa wami awunamkhawulo njengolwandle,
Uthando lwami lujulile. Lapho ngikunika okuningi,
Lapho nginakho okuningi, ngoba zombili azinamkhawulo. (I-Romeo noJuliet, Umthetho Wesibili, Isimo Sesibili)
Noma leli vesi elikhuluma ngokuqiniseka kothando lwenu ngomunye nomunye, kusuka I-Hamlet:
Akungabazeki ukuthi izinkanyezi zingumlilo;
Ukungabaza ukuthi ilanga liyahamba;
Ukungabaza iqiniso ukuthi ungumqambimanga;
Kepha ungangabazi ukuthi ngiyathanda. (IHamlet, umthetho wesibili, isigaba sesibili)
Ufuna okuthile okuhlukile? Kuthiwani ngale migqa evela ku- "In Muted Tone," inkondlo evela embongi yaseFrance yekhulu le-19 UPaul Verlaine. Wayazi kahle ukuthi angamncenga kanjani umfazi wakhe ngala mazwi:
Ngomusa, masigxilise uthando lwethu
Ekuthuleni okujulile, njengoba kunjalo,
Amagatsha arching phezulu ngenhla
Hlanganisa izithunzi zabo phezu kwethu.
Masihlanganise imiphefumulo yethu njengamunye,
Izinhliziyo 'nezinjabulo',
Evergreen, ngazwi linye
Ngama-lethargies angaqondakali wephayini.
Imbongi enkulu yase-Ireland, I-WB Ukudla, kubhala U-Aedh Ufisela Izindwangu Zasezulwini ngenxa yothando lwakhe. Iboleka ngokuphelele emcimbini womshado wothando, ikakhulukazi imigqa emibili yokugcina:
Ukube nganginezindwangu ezifekethisiwe zezulu,
Kubhalwe ngokukhanya kwegolide nesiliva,
Izindwangu eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka no-dim kanye nezimnyama
Yobusuku nokukhanya nengxenye yokukhanya,
Bengizokwendlala izindwangu ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho.
Kepha mina, ngokuba ngimpofu, nginamaphupho kuphela;
Ngiwelisile amaphupho ami phansi kwezinyawo zakho;
Nyathela kancane ngoba unyathela amaphupho ami.
2. Izingoma zothando
Ukungenelela komculo kwamukelekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi sokushintshaniswa kwesithembiso, futhi kunezingoma eziningi zothando zazo zonke izinhlobo ongakhetha kuzo. Nquma ukuthi uluhlobo luni lomzwelo ongathanda ukulakha: ithambe futhi ibonakalise, yesimanje, iphefumule, i-jazzy? Ikhathalogu ayipheli, kepha nazi ezinye izihloko ukuze uqalise:
Uma ufuna okuthile kwanamuhla, hlola IzitimelaNgishade. Ngisho nesihloko kufanelekile! Awukwazi ukungahambi kahle ngengoma eqala ngokuthi:
Phakade ngeke kube yinde ngokwanele kimi
Ukuzizwa sengathi nginesikhathi eside ngokwanele nawe
Khohlwa umhlaba manje, ngeke sibavumele babone
Kepha kunento eyodwa esele yokwenza
Manje njengoba isisindo sesiphakamile
Uthando seluyigudlile indlela yami
Ngishade
Namuhla futhi nsuku zonke
Ungathanda ukufaka inombolo yomphefumulo wakudala? U-Etta James uhlabelela inhliziyo yakhe ngokushukunyiswa imizwa Ekugcineni:
Ekugcineni uthando lwami selufikile
Izinsuku zami zesizungu seziphelile
Futhi impilo ifana nengoma
Abantu abadala emshadweni bazolibona izinga le-jazz Uthando Lwethu Sele Luzohlala, yabhalwa ngo-1938 ngu UGeorge Gershwin. Kunohlobo olusha oluculwe ngu- UNatalie Cole, futhi.
Kucace bha
Uthando lwethu luzohlala;
Hhayi unyaka
Kepha njalo nosuku.
Umsakazo nocingo
Futhi ama-movie esiwaziyo
Kwangathi kungadlula nje izinganekwane,
Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungahamba!
Kepha, oh sithandwa sami,
Uthando lwethu luzohlala njalo.
3. Prose Ukufundwa
Indlela enhle yokubandakanya abangane bakho emcimbini wakho ukuthi oyedwa noma ababili babo beze e-altare bafunde ucezu abalukhethile noma abalukhethile. Lokhu futhi kunikeza wena nesoka lakho isikhashana sokuphuma obala futhi kwehlise izinzwa zakho. Kuthiwani ngalo mbhalo wothando ovela kumbhali waseChile UPablo Neruda:
Ngiyakuthanda ngingazi ukuthi kanjani, noma nini, noma kuphi. Ngikuthanda kalula, ngaphandle kwezinkinga noma ukuziqhenya: Ngikuthanda ngale ndlela ngoba angazi enye indlela yokuthanda ngaphandle kwalokhu, lapho kungekho mina noma wena, osondelene kakhulu nokuthi isandla sakho esifubeni sami yisandla sami, sisondelene kangangokuba lapho ngilele amehlo akho asondele.
UVictor Hugo kubhale lokhu, ku Les Miserables:
Ikusasa lingezinhliziyo ngisho nangaphezu kwezingqondo. Uthando, ukuphela kwento engangena futhi igcwalise ingunaphakade. Okungenamkhawulo, okungapheli kuyadingeka.
Uthando lubamba iqhaza komphefumulo uqobo. Kungokwemvelo efanayo. Njengayo, yinhlansi yaphezulu; njengawo, awonakali, awunahlukaniswa, awonakali. Kuyiphuzu lomlilo elikhona ngaphakathi kwethu, elingenakufa futhi elingenamkhawulo, okungekho lutho olungavimba, futhi okungekho lutho olungacisha. Sizizwa sishisa size sifike nakumnkantsha wamathambo ethu, futhi siyibona ikhanya ekujuleni kwezulu.
Uma oyedwa noma nobabili ungumthandi wamanoveli wokuqhafaza, lokhu, kusuka Neil Gaiman'sUSandman kungeza ukuthinta kwesikhashana, kepha kothando kakhulu osukwini lwakho olukhethekile:
Wake wathandana? Iyesabeka angithi? Kukwenza ube sengozini enkulu. Ivula isifuba sakho bese ivula inhliziyo yakho futhi kusho ukuthi umuntu angangena ngaphakathi kuwe akumoshe. Wakha zonke lezi zivikelo, wakha zonke izembatho zempi, ukuze kungabikho lutho olungakulimaza, bese kuthi umuntu oyisiphukuphuku, ahluke kunoma yimuphi omunye umuntu oyisiphukuphuku, azulazule empilweni yakho ewubuwula ... Ubanikeza isiqeshana wena. Abazange bacele yona. Benze into eyisimungulu ngolunye usuku, njengokukuqabula noma ukumoyizela, bese impilo yakho ingasekho eyakho. Uthando luthatha abathunjiweyo. Ingena ngaphakathi kuwe.
Le yimibono embalwa okufanele uyicabangele njengoba uhlanganisa izithembiso zothando ohlale uziphupha ngazo. Noma yini oyikhethayo, kungaba izinkondlo, iculo noma ukufundwa, qiniseka ukuthi kukhombisa okuphakathi kwezinhliziyo zakho. Lawa magama kufanele agcwalise indawo yomshado ngomuzwa wothando, isithembiso nethemba. Okwakho kuzoba umkhosi ozokhunjulwa!