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- 1. Qaphela indlela oyikala ngayo impumelelo nokuzihlonipha kwakho
- 2. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngemizwa yakho
- 3. Hlela usuku lobusuku noma uhambo
- 4. Qhubeka nokusondelana
- 5. Ungavumeli ukungabi nenzalo kukuchaze
Enye yemizwa evame kakhulu imibhangqwana ehlangabezana nayo ngenkathi ihlolwa ukungabi nenzalo, ukuxilongwa nokwelashwa ukulahlekelwa ukulawula nokuzizwa ungenalusizo. Abaningi bethu bakhuliswe ukuthi bakholelwe ukuthi inqobo nje uma usebenza kanzima futhi ulandela izinyathelo ezithile, uzofinyelela umgomo owufunayo. Imibhangqwana ephumelela kakhulu ikakhulukazi ingaba nesikhathi esinzima kakhulu sokwamukela ukungabi nenzalo nokulahlekelwa ukulawula okulandelayo. Ungenza konke ofunda ngakho; landela ukudla okuqinile, izinhlelo zokuzivocavoca eziqinile, thatha yonke imishanguzo ngesikhathi esifanele okufanele usithathe, futhi kungenzeka ungakhulelwa. Udonswa futhi ugqugquzelwa odokotela nabasebenzi babo. Abantu babona futhi bahlasele izingxenye zomzimba wakho okholelwa ukuthi bekufanele zihlale ziyimfihlo. Futhi kukho konke, uzizwa ungenalusizo ngokuphelele futhi ungenamandla. Kungumuzwa okhungathekisa ngokweqile futhi ungathatha kalula impilo yakho.
Ngakho-ke, yini ongayenza ngenkathi uhlolwa ukungabi nenzalo, ukuxilongwa, nokwelashwa ukuze ungazizwa ungenalusizo futhi ungalawuleki? Uqhubeka kanjani nokuphila impilo, noma uchume, ngenkathi uhamba lolu hambo lomuntu uqobo? Nazi izinto ezinhlanu wena nomlingani wakho eningazenza ukuqala ukubuyisa umuzwa wokulawula impilo yakho.
1. Qaphela indlela oyikala ngayo impumelelo nokuzihlonipha kwakho
Enye yezinto zokuqala ezivame ukubuyisa umuzwa wokulawula ukuthola izindlela ezintsha zokukala impumelelo yakho. Esikhundleni sokulinganisa impumelelo ngokuthi ngabe izindlela zokwelapha ziyasebenza yini, noma ukuthi ungashesha kangakanani ukwenza le nqubo, esikhundleni salokho gxila emandleni akho kokunye ongakulawula empeleni. Kungaba yinoma yini kusuka ekukhuthazeni kuye ekusebenzeni ama-5Ks, ukuhlangabezana nezinhloso zakho zokukhiqiza emsebenzini. Thola ezinye izici zempilo yakho ozilawulayo bese ugxila kuzo. Impilo izolawuleka kakhulu futhi uzozizwa unamandla ngokwengeziwe ngokugxila esilinganisweni sakho sempumelelo nokuzihlonipha kokunye. Uzoqala ukuzizwa unethemba elikhulu ngempilo yakho, ungakhathazeki kangako, bese kuthi izindlela zokwelashwa zizale zilawuleke kangcono.
2. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngemizwa yakho
Khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani. Veza imizwa yakho yokuswela nokuthi uzizwa ungalawuleki kanjani. Uma okuthile kungahambi njengoba kulindelwe ekwelashweni kwakho kokuzala, yicubungule lokho ngomunye nomunye. Ubhekene nale nqubo ngoba ufuna ukuba nezingane omunye nomunye ngakho-ke kulungile ukuthembela komunye nomunye ngalezi zikhathi zengcindezi. Kunezinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzigcine engqondweni lapho uba nalezi zingxoxo. Qiniseka ukuthi nobabili nizizwa nikhululekile (lena akuyona ingxoxo okufanele nibe nayo imizuzu engu-5 ngaphambi kokuthi aye emsebenzini), qinisekani ukuthi nobabili nisangulukile, futhi qinisekani ukuthi nobabili niyilungele le ngxoxo. Kuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi ukubuza ukuthi “awu, kunini kuleli sonto unesikhathi sokukhuluma ngokuthi le nto yokungabi nenzalo isisithinta kanjani?” indlela engcono kunokuqala nje ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho noma kunini, noma kuphi. Ingxenye yokubuyisa ukulawula impilo yakho iyalawula uma unalezi zingxoxo.
3. Hlela usuku lobusuku noma uhambo
Qhubekani nenza isikhathi somunye nomunye njengezithandani futhi niqhubeke nokunakekela ubudlelwano benu. Kulula kakhulu ukukhungatheka ngenqubo yokungazali bese uyivumela ukuthi ithathe impilo yakho yonke. Ukugxila komunye nomunye ngokuphuma ezinsukwini noma ohambweni lokukhulisa ubudlelwano bakho kuzokusiza uzizwe unethemba ngomunye nomunye. Izinsuku zakho akudingeki ukuthi zibe yinkulu. Ukuhamba okulula uzungeze umakhelwane noma isiphuzo kubha yendawo kwanele ukuvuselela ilangabi. Okusemqoka ngalezi zinsuku ukwenza isivumelwano sokuthi uzokhuluma ngezinye izinto ngaphandle kokuzala kwakho.
4. Qhubeka nokusondelana
Kulula ukuwela ogibeni ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kokuzala lapho wenza ucansi kuphela ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa futhi ucansi lungashesha lube umsebenzi. Ukugcina ukusondelana ngokomzimba, kungaba ukubambana ngezandla, ukuqabulana, ukwangana, ukugonana, noma ucansi kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho nasemphefumulweni. Kuzoba lula kini ukwesekana futhi nizizwe nisondelene uma nigcina impilo yocansi enempilo. Qhubeka nokuhlola imizimba yomunye nomunye, zama izikhundla ezintsha, izindawo ezintsha, futhi ugcine izinto zibabile. Ukungabi nenzalo kuzoba yingxenye yohambo lwenu njengabashadikazi kepha impilo yakho njengombhangqwana izoqhubeka isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuthi ingxenye yokungazali yakho yohambo lwakho isiqediwe ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uyayondla.
5. Ungavumeli ukungabi nenzalo kukuchaze
Kulula ukuthi “anginanzalo” noma ukuvumela ukungabi nabantwana kuchaze ukuthi ungubani. Umphakathi ulindele ukuthi sikwazi ukuba nezingane "ngokwemvelo" futhi lapho singenakukwazi, kulula ukukuvumela lokho kube yingxenye enkulu yobunikazi bethu. Kepha wena ungaphezulu kakhulu kokuzala kwakho. Zikhumbuze wena nomlingani wakho ukuthi ungubani. Ungase ube uchwepheshe, noma ilungu eliqinile lomphakathi wakho, umphulukisi noma i-goofball. Noma ngabe uyini, khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu obhekene nokwelashwa kokuzala futhi ungamane uzinciphisele ekutholeni isifo. Ungaphezu kokuxilongwa futhi kuningi ongakunikeza.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi la macebiso amancane azokulethela ukukhululeka wena nomlingani wakho njengoba nithatha uhambo lwenu lokungazali. Uma udinga usizo nokuxhaswa okwengeziwe, sicela ukhululeke ukungithinta.