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- Ukufunda ukuthi ungazibona kanjani izimpikiswano ebudlelwaneni kunempilo
- Ukuxoxisana okungenampilo lapho umuntu eqala ukuzivikela
Manje, sonke sinabo bangane abathi bathandana kakhulu nabalingani babo kangangokuthi abakaze baxabane noma baxabane.
Futhi siyazi ukuthi bonke bangabaqambimanga beqiniso. Bonke ubudlelwano, kungaba obothando noma beplaton bube nezabelo zabo ezinhle.
Abaningi bathi umlingani wakho othandana naye noma oshade naye ukwazi kangcono kakhulu, ngisho nangaphezu kwabazali bakho noma izingane zakini. Ngokuvuleleka okunjalo futhi kungekho zimfihlo, kuza izahlulelo eziningi futhi ngikutshele kanjalo - hheyi, sonke singabantu lapha.
Kodwa-ke, ngokungafani nenkolelo yeminyaka eyinkulungwane, impikiswano enempilo ilungele noma yibuphi ubuhlobo, ikakhulukazi obothando.
Ngakho-ke, ungabona kanjani lapho izingxabano ebudlelwaneni ziphilile futhi zingenjalo?
Ukufunda ukuthi ungazibona kanjani izimpikiswano ebudlelwaneni kunempilo
Okokuqala nokuphambili, impikiswano enempilo izoba nephuzu layo.
Nobabili niyobe niqhubekela egoli. Isibonelo: ukuphikisana ngomakhelwane ongcono kakhulu wokuthenga indlu? Noma ngohlobo lwesikole ofuna ukuthumela izingane zakho kuso? Noma yiluphi uhlangothi lomndeni oluzovakashela amaholidi alandelayo?
Eminye imibhangqwana iphikisana nenzuzo yomlingani wayo lapho umlingani engaboni kahle ukuthi angayibona. Ukwazi ukuqondiswa kwengxabano impendulo eyodwa yokuthi “ungabona kanjani lapho izingxabano ebudlelwaneni ziphilile?”
Impikiswano enempilo ingabona amazwi ambalwa aphakanyisiwe, ukukhungatheka, noma ukuthula amahora / izinsuku ezimbalwa, kepha akukhona okokuthukuthela noma ukwehluleka ukulawula ingqikithi yendaba.
Impikiswano enempilo imayelana nemibono ehlukene noma ukungavumelani, ungalokothi uthukuthele.
Njengoba kushiwo, ukuzigcina upholile futhi uthukuthele kuyisibonelo sokuba ngumnumzane noma intokazi. Uyacasuka, uyakhungatheka, noma ungathukuthela, kepha lokho okhetha ukukwenza ngaleyo ntukuthelo - kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukubona lapho izingxabano ebudlelwaneni ziphilile, kufanele uqaphele iphethini lokuziphatha, isenzo, kanye nokuphendula.
Ngabe ubeka umuzwa wakho noma ulaka lwakho phezu kobuhlobo bakho noma nabantu abasempilweni yakho?
Beka umbono womlingani wakho kuqala, bese uzibeka ezicathulweni zabo. Nichithe isikhathi esithile ndawonye, futhi kufanele nimazi kangcono umlingani wakho. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukudedela izinto ezimbalwa lapha nalaphaya bese uhlehla, ngabe kukhona umehluko phakathi kwakho nanoma yimuphi umjwayelo abanakho?
Ukuxoxisana okungenampilo lapho umuntu eqala ukuzivikela
Uma ukuma kwakho kuguquka futhi wenqaba ukuhlonipha ngokwanele noma ucabangele umbono womunye, lelo ifulegi elibomvu elikhulu.
Izimpikiswano ezingenampilo yilezo ezingenanhloso yokugcina kuzo. Ngakho-ke, bangaqhubeka izinsuku, ngisho nezinyanga ngesikhathi. Ulahlekelwa namandla okulalela umlingani wakho. Awufuni ukubanika inhlonipho eyanele yokuba bazwakalise imibono noma imibono yabo.
Uma ufuna ukufunda how ukuqaphela lapho izingxabano ebudlelwaneni ziphilile, kufanele futhi ukhumbule ukuhlala ubekezelela.
Into eyinhloko okufanele ucabange ngayo ukuthi ungasiza kanjani umlingani wakho abe ngumuntu ongcono.
Khumbula, asizalwa siphelele futhi asiphelele. Ngumlingani wethu othandana naye ongasisiza ukuthi sibe yinguqulo engcono yethu uqobo - yingakho-ke, umcabango womlingani womphefumulo.
Okusho ukuthi kufanele usebenze njengeyunithi futhi. Isibonelo: Ungakwenza kanjani Mina ngisize umuntu engithandana naye? Yini engakwazi Mina ukubenza babone? Kufanele Mina ukwenza isipele ngalesi sikhathi?
Inkinga ivela lapho uqala ukuphambuka bese udlala umdlalo wokusola; lapho igama elithi 'Wena' liphonswa kakhulu esikhundleni sokuthi 'Mina'.
Yamukela amaphutha akho, vuma lapho wenze iphutha, futhi ufunde ukuthatha umthwalo ofanele futhi ofanele.
Konke akulahlekile. Uma uzithola usesigabeni sokuphikisana esingenampilo, ungakhathazeki. Usengayiguqula nxazonke.
Isinyathelo sokuqala esikhulu kungaba ukwamukela ukuthi ufuna umlingani wakho ajabule - nobabili. Futhi, noma uzama ukufunda ukuthi ungabona kanjani lapho izingxabano ebudlelwaneni ziphilile, kuyisibonakaliso esihle.
Yiba nengxoxo yokuhlala phansi, futhi nibeke omunye nomunye ngaphambi kwakho. Akekho okucela ukuthi ungalokothi ulwe.
Ukulwa okuhle nokunempilo kungaholela ku-catharsis, elungele wonke umuntu. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukubona ukuthi impi iya kuphi ngaphambili ukuze ungalimazi ubuhlobo kakhulu. Ngalesi sikhathi, ukuvakashela umeluleki wezithandani kungaba kuhle. Umelaphi uzokwazi ukukuqondisa ukuthi ube nengxabano enempilo ngokuphepha nangokufanele.