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- Kuyini okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo?
- Yiziphi izimpawu eziboniswa isisulu sokunamathiselwe okukhathazayo
- Ungakuguqula kanjani ukunamathela okukhathazayo kube okuphephile?
- Ukwelashwa kwengqondo
- Ukwelashwa kwezithandani zokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni
- Ukunqoba okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo
Njengezinsana ezingabantu, nathi sizalwa kulo mhlaba lapho kufanele sincike kothile ukuze sisinde.
Njengoba simdinga kakhulu lo muntu, sikhangwa yibo ngokwemvelo.
Kodwa-ke, uhlobo lokunamathiselwe kwethu kuncike ekutheni singobani futhi nokuthi omunye umuntu usabela kanjani kokunamathiselwe nezidingo zethu.
Noma usukhulile, uma unendaba nomuntu ungahle uthande ukunamathiselwa kuye, kepha hhayi konke okunamathiselwe kuyefana.
Uhlobo lokunamathisela kwethu kothile luhlobene kakhulu nesitayela esisakhulayo lapho siseyizinsana, futhi lokhu kuyaqhubeka njengoba sikhula.
Uma isitayela sokunamathiselwa osisebenzisayo singenampilo, khona-ke ungachitha impilo yakho yonke ebudlelwaneni obungeneme.
Isibonelo esinjalo sokunamathiselwa okungenampilo okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo.
Qhubeka ufunde ukuze uthole ukuthi yini ongayenza ngalolu hlobo lokuncika kumlingani wakho.
Kuyini okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo?
Uma ngabe umzali akaziqondi zonke izidingo zakho noma ukugcwalise ngokungaguquguquki, lapho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi uhlakulele ukuthanda okhathazekile nabo.
Lolu hlobo lokunamathiselwe luhlobo lwe okunamathiselwe okungavikelekile. Njengoba ukhula, uba nohlobo olufanayo lokunamathisela nomlingani wakho.
Lesi sitayela sokunamathisela esikhathazayo sikwenza ukhathazeke njalo ngezinto ezifana ungenza kanjani oshade naye athandane nawe kakhulu nokuthi ungamgcina kanjani umlingani wakho ekuthanda.
Lokhu kuholela ekutheni unamathele, ube nomona, uswele, wesabe futhi ugcwale ukukhathazeka.
Unomuzwa wokuthi uma wenza iphutha elilodwa noma uma omunye umuntu ehlangana nomuntu ongcono kunawe ubuhlobo bakho buzokwehla buphele.
Lokhu okunamathiselwe kuholela emuzwa oqhubekayo wokuthi awulungile ngokwanele, noma ngabe omunye wakho obalulekile noma umngani wakho nje.
Lokhu okunamathiselwe akuvumeli ukuthi ulinde othile ozokugxeka ngoba uzenzela wena.
Uya ngokuya uncike ebudlelwaneni bakho, futhi uzizwe sengathi omunye umuntu ungcono kakhulu kunawe futhi angahlangabezana nezidingo zakho ngendlela engcono.
Ungazithola isesha umuntu ophethe, ogxekayo futhi ongahambelani lapho ngikuthululela ngothando futhi ngikukhombisa uthando.
Buka futhi:
Yiziphi izimpawu eziboniswa isisulu sokunamathiselwe okukhathazayo
Umuntu omdala okhathazekile othambekele ekubeni njalo ukungazethembi kakhulu nokuzigxeka.
Bafuna ukuqinisekiswa futhi bavunyelwe komunye nomunye njalo, futhi nalokhu akusizi ekuqedeni ukungazithembi okukhona ebuchosheni babo.
Ebudlelwaneni babo, le yimizwa ejulile ebenza bazizwe sengathi bazokwaliwa futhi ngenxa yalokhu bahlala bekhathaza futhi bengathembi.
Lokhu kubenza benze ukubambelela okungeziwe futhi bazizwe bethembele kakhulu kumlingani wabo. Abantu abanjalo abaphili impilo elinganiselayo ngoba ukungazethembi kwabo kubenza bazizwe bephendukelana bodwa futhi ngokuphelelwa yithemba ngokomzwelo.
Ungakuguqula kanjani ukunamathela okukhathazayo kube okuphephile?
Ngenhlanhla, isitayela somuntu singabuyekezwa kalula ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile noma ngokuxhumana nomlingani onomlando wokunamathiselwa ngokuphepha.
Ngaphambi kokuthi sihlolisise ukuthi singakunqoba kanjani ukukhathazeka kobuhlobo, ake siqonde ukuthi ukukhathazeka kubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano.
Imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni bokukhathazeka obukhathazayo kufanele ilwe njalo nokungazethembi, ukukhathazeka, ukunganeliseki, nomona.
Ukunamathela okungavikelekile kufaka phakathi izinselelo ezishiya indawo encane yenjabulo yobudlelwano nokwethembana.
Ukunqoba okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo uhambo oluyisidina futhi ukungenelela kochwepheshe ngesikhathi esifanele kuyindlela engcono yokuthola impendulo eqondile yombuzo, ukuthi ukunqoba ukunamathela okukhathazayo futhi ugqashule ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo noma obuhlukumezayo.
Enye yezindlela ezinjalo ukwelashwa kwengqondo.
Ukwelashwa kwengqondo
Ukhiye wokuguqula lokhu okunamathiselwe kube okunamathiselwe okuphephile ngokwenza ukuqonda okwenzeka empilweni yomuntu ukuze umsize aqonde ukuthi ubuntwana bakhe bubathinta kanjani namuhla.
Noma ngabe ukukhathazeka ekuqaleni kobudlelwano noma iphethini enesihluku yokuthandana okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo, udokotela wezifo zengqondo uyazi ukuthi angahamba kanjani kule ndlela ekhohlisayo futhi anikeze usizo lokunamathisela olufanele.
Abelaphi bavame ukuhamba nemibhangqwana yabo ngenqubo yokulandisa okuhambisanayo okusiza ekwakheni okunamathiselwe okunempilo, okuphephe kakhudlwana futhi okungcono.
Lapho umuntu enza ukulandisa okuhambisanayo, ngokungaqondile bhala kabusha ubuchopho babo ukuze bazale ukuphepha ngaphakathi kwabo kanye nobudlelwano babo.
Khumbula ukunqoba ukukhathazeka kobudlelwano wedwa, noma ngabe unezinhloso ezinhle kakhulu, kungahle kungalethi umphumela oyifunayo.
Ukwelashwa kwezithandani zokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni
Ekwelashweni kwezithandani, bobabili abalingani bangabhekana nenqubo ye-Voice Therapy ezobasiza ukuthi baphonsele inselelo futhi bakhombe izwi elibucayi ngaphakathi futhi balahle amazwi akhulisa ukulindelwa kokwenqaba nentukuthelo.
Ngale ndlela yokwelashwa, imibhangqwana ingasusa isimo sayo sokungathembeki, sobutha komunye nomunye futhi iqonde ukuthi imicabango enjalo iqhamukaphi.
Le ndlela isebenza njengendlela enhle yokukhombisa uthando lweqiniso nokuzala ukuphepha kwangempela ebudlelwaneni.
Kungasiza futhi ukuqonda ngesinye isitayela sokunamathisela esibucayi esibucayi.
Okuxakayo okukhathazayo.
Kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziphambene ngokuphelele zesifo sokunamathisela esingathandeki.
- Ethukuthele: Umuntu ufuna ukuxhumana nomlingani wakhe bese wenza ubuso be-volte. Bayabenqaba futhi baphenduke abanenzondo.
- Ukwenziwa: Umuntu ukhungathekile ngomuzwa wakhe wokungabi nalusizo futhi akakwazi ukuya kwabanye ukusondelana.
Ukunqoba okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo
Ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga wedwa kungakuphuca ubuhlobo obanelisayo nobungcono nabanye.
Noma ngabe usuvele usebudlelwaneni, kubalulekile ukuthi uthathe usizo ekwelashweni uma ufuna ubuhlobo bakho buthuthuke futhi bulwe nokukhathazeka okunamathiselwe kwi-attachment.
Ochwepheshe abafanelekayo nabanokwethenjelwa bangakunika izeluleko ezifanele zokuthi ungakunqoba kanjani okunamathiselwe okuxakekile futhi ukwenze kube lula ukuphulukisa okunamathiselwe okukhathazayo.
Kodwa-ke, qiniseka ukuthi usebenza nomelaphi owaziwayo ongasebenzisi izindlela zobuciko futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokulungisa ekuboneni izimbangela zokuxhuma okukhathazayo nokwelapha isitayela sokunamathisela esesabekayo.
Ukwelashwa kuzohlala kuhlolisise ubudlelwano bakho obudlule kubandakanya nobudlelwano bakho nabazali bakho.
Bazosebenzisa inqubo yokuqonda-yokuziphatha ukuze bashintshe indlela ocabanga ngayo ngobudlelwano bakho futhi ngalokho bazokwenza bube ngcono futhi buvikeleke ngokwengeziwe.