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- 1. Zazi
- 2. Sebenza nochwepheshe
- 3. Yiziphi izici umlingani wakho wokugcina abenazo,
- 4. Thola ukwesaba ukuba wedwa
Qalaza. Wonke umuntu usemathandweni, ngaphandle kwethu.
Wake wacabanga kanjalo?
Wake wazizwa uwedwa emhlabeni wothando, lapho bonke abanye babonakala benakho kodwa wena ungakutholi?
Uma ungashadile, kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani ... Ngaphambi kokuba uthole lobo “buhlobo obufanele”.
Ukuba sothandweni kuyamangaza.
Ukuba sothandweni, ngokusho kwabantu abaningi, yikhona okwenza sibe semhlabeni.
Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela?
Futhi imaphi amaphutha ajwayelekile esiwenzileyo, yini iphutha elijwayelekile kakhulu esilenzayo ngemuva kokuphela kobudlelwano, okuzoqinisekisa ukwehluleka okuningi ngokuzayo?
Eminyakeni eminingi edlule owesifazane osemusha wangithinta futhi wangiqasha njengomeluleki wakhe nge-Skype evela kwelinye izwe, wayekhungathekile ngoba indoda ayethandane naye iminyaka eminingana wayesanda kumshiya ezinsukwini eziyisikhombisa ngaphambili, okwethusa ngokuphelele, ngokusho kwakhe kwafika kusuka kokuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka.
Futhi manje, ubefuna izeluleko ezimbalwa kimi ngezikhathi zethu, ukuze abuyele emdlalweni wothando.
Bamba, ngamtshela.
Ngabuza, “Ngakanani ubude besikhathi obusithathile esikhathini esedlule, lapho kuphela ubudlelwano futhi kwaqala obusha bakho?”
Wanqikaza, wabe esengitshela ukuthi isikhathi eside kunazo zonke abesehlale yedwa yizinyanga eziyisithupha. Kepha kaningi kunalokho, wayesebudlelwaneni obusha zingakapheli izinyanga ezintathu.
Futhi lokho kuyadla ngoludala. Eminyakeni engama-30 edlule emhlabeni wokukhula komuntu siqu, ngibonile abantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe beqa besuka ebudlelwaneni baye kolunye, njengokweqiniso, abantu abaningi sebekhethe isithandwa sabo esisha ngaphambi kokuba kusayinwe isehlukaniso noma ukuphola kwabo kwamanje ubuhlobo buphelile ngokuphelele.
Ngenkathi sisebenza ndawonye, ngamtshela ukuthi uma eqhubeka nokuphinda amaphethini wokusuka ebuhlotsheni obunye aye kolunye ngaphandle kokwenza noma yimuphi umsebenzi phakathi, izinga lakhe lokuphumelela lizoba lapho likhona manje: zero.
Ngakho-ke kufanele silinde isikhathi esingakanani phakathi kobudlelwano bothando? Kulula. Izinsuku ezincane ezingama-365. Ukuphela kwesitatimende.
Futhi kungani kunjalo?
Umhlaba wobudlelwano usenkingeni enkulu, izibalo zithi u-41-50% noma ngaphezulu kobudlelwano bokuqala buphela ngedivosi, u-60-67% wobudlelwano besibili buphela ngedivosi bese u-73-74% wobudlelwano besithathu buphela ngedivosi.
Unayo? Sinalolu thando nobudlelwano into engalungile.
Nazi izinzuzo zokuthatha izinsuku ezingama-365 ekupheleni kobudlelwano, ngaphambi kokuya kokulandelayo:
1. Zazi
Izikhathi eziningi sizilahlekisela ebudlelwaneni, senza izinto eziningi kakhulu umlingani wethu afuna sizenze, futhi singazinaki izidingo zethu. Iyeke manje. Zazi. Zithande ngokwakho futhi.
2. Sebenza nochwepheshe
Sebenza nomeluleki oqeqeshiwe, umqeqeshi wempilo, ungqongqoshe ukuze ubone iqhaza lakho ekungasebenzi kahle nasekufeni kobuhlobo bakho bokugcina.
Ngiyazi, ngiyazi, awuzange ube nendima, konke bekuyiphutha labo akunjalo?
Akunjalo neze. Lapho ubona indima oyidlalile, ungazixolela bese uthatha isinqumo sokungaphinde ukwenze lokho ngokuzayo.
Ingabe uphuze ngokweqile? Ingabe ubuzimele? Ingabe wawunolaka? Ngabe uzihlukanisile, futhi wavala lapho kunengxabano?
Lezi zinto zidinga ukulungiswa, ngaphambi kokuthi ulethe omunye umuntu kuwebhu yakho yobubi.
3. Yiziphi izici umlingani wakho wokugcina abenazo,
Bhala lezi zimfanelo phansi. Noma ngabe bayini. Kubhale phansi. Khululeka ngeqiniso lokuthi umlingani wakho olandelayo akufanele abe nalezi zici ezifanayo ... Futhi uzozinika ithuba elingcono othandweni.
4. Thola ukwesaba ukuba wedwa
Uma uhamba izinsuku ezingama-365 ungenabo ubudlelwano, uzoqonda ukuthi ukubukeka kwesidingo kubukeka kanjani ... Ukuthi ukwesaba ukuba wedwa kubukeka kanjani ... Futhi ungazazi lezi zinkinga ezimbili ngaphambi kokuya kobunye ubuhlobo bothando.
Ngihlala ngitshela amaklayenti ami angashadile, ukuthi lapho bekwazi ukuhamba ngamaholide, izinsuku zokuzalwa, imikhosi, imishado, imingcwabo nokunye abangashadile ... Futhi jabula ukukwenza ... Basendaweni enhle ukukhetha omunye umuntu ojabulayo isibopho ne-.
Kepha uma uswele, unesizungu, ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi uzokhetha abantu abanebhadi obenzile esikhathini esidlule ... ngegama negama elihlukile.
Encwadini yethu esanda kuthengiswa kakhulu ethi “Angel on a surfboard: inoveli eyimfihlakalo yezothando ehlola okhiye bothando olujulile“, umlingiswa ophambili uSandy Tavish uyengwa yile ntokazi enhle, futhi uyimemela endlini yakhe esidlweni sakusihlwa.
Kungakapheli nemizuzu emingaki ehamba naye ephaseji, aqonde ngqo egumbini lakhe lokulala ukuze enze ucansi.
Utshela uSandy, ukuthi uqeda ubuhlobo obude futhi manje usekulungele okwangempela, futhi wathatha uSandy njengesisulu sakhe esilandelayo.
USandy, ngenkathi elingeka, wamtshela ukuthi udinga isikhathi esithe xaxa sokululama, futhi ngokungabaza wavuma.
Yize lokhu kungazwakala njengeseluleko esinzima, ngiyakuthembisa ukuthi kuyasebenza. Zazi futhi. Funda ukuthi ungabeka kanjani imingcele nemiphumela empilweni.
Futhi uma wenza? Uzozinikeza ithuba elihle kakhulu lobo budlelwano bothando besikhathi eside obufisayo.