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- Ubudlelwano nabantu abathandanayo
- Amaphethini wobudlelwano beNarcissistic
- 2. AbakwaNarcissist bayalawula futhi bayakhohlisa
- 3. AmaNarcissist ayingozi
- 4. AbakwaNarcissist bazokwehlisa isithunzi sabo kwi-Ex yabo
Isikhathi lapho umuntu ezizwa ekhangwa yilungu lobulili obuhlukile (kwesinye isikhathi ubulili obufanayo, kepha lokho kungenye inkinga), baphupha ngothando, ezothando, nobudlelwano.
Njengemisila yenganekwane emakethwa ezinganeni, iNkosana neNkosazana bayahlangana, bathandane, futhi baphile kamnandi njalo. Ngeshwa, impilo ikude nayo. Kwesinye isikhathi uthando alubuzwa, futhi kunezikhathi lapho inkosana nenkosazana, abahlangani nhlobo.
Kukhona nezikhathi lapho omunye wabo egcina eshade nesilo.
Ubudlelwano nabantu abathandanayo
1% wabantu bahlushwa yiNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ngokusho kokunye ukulinganisela. Lesi sibalo singazwakala njengenombolo encane, kepha uma ucabanga ngempela ngaso, lowo ngumuntu oyedwa kwabayi-100. Ezweni labantu abayizigidi ezingama-300, lokho ngabantu abayizigidi ezintathu.
I-Helpguide ikhomba izimpawu nezimpawu ze-NPD. Ukukhomba ubukhona babo ebudlelwaneni, kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esisobala sokwazi umuntu one-NPD.
- Umuzwa omkhulu wokuzibona ubalulekile
- Ukukhohlakala kobukhulu
- Udinga ukuqinisekiswa njalo nelungelo
- Ukuxhaphaza nokuhlukumeza abanye
AmaNarcissist anenguqulo egcwele ngokweqile yokuzihlonipha kwawo.
Njengoba abantu abaningi abaphumelele ngokweqiniso njengama-rockstars, izigidigidi, nabasubathi bezinkanyezi benza ngendlela efanayo, kudala ithrekhi yalokho umuntu ophumelelayo okufanele akwenze esidlangalaleni. Umehluko wukuthi labo bantu abaphumelelayo banempumelelo yangempela futhi engaqinisekiseka ngenkathi ama-narcissists emane ebuyela emuva kwabanye.
Abantu abaningi bakhohlisiwe yilesi senzo.
AbakwaNarcissists bangabaqambimanga be-pathological futhi ngenxa yalokho, bayaqhubeka nokwakha ubufakazi obuthile bokuxhasa imicabango yabo. Njengalokhu, baheha ophathina abakholelwa ukuthi "babamba" kahle.
Amaphethini wobudlelwano beNarcissistic
Abantu abane-NPD badlula ebudlelwaneni ngendlela efanayo, basuka bashise beshisa kakhulu, baye ekujuleni kwesihogo esishisayo.
1. AmaNarcissist athandana ngokweqile
Zothando noma okungenani, ekuqaleni kobudlelwano. AmaNarcissist alandela lokho akufunayo ngothando. Umuzwa wabo welungelo ngeke ubavumele ukuthi bathathe lokho abakucabanga njengempahla yabo (noma kungenjalo).
Uma ukwamukela lokhu kunaka, kungahle kubonakale kuthandana kakhulu.
Kuyiphupho lawo wonke umuntu ukuhlangana nomlingani omkhulu ukwedlula impilo (noma oziphatha njengayo), futhi ubanake ngokuphelele njengoba kungekho okunye okubaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi kunenkinga emhlabeni wamaphupho emhlabeni womlobi.
Inkinga bakholelwa ukuthi bangabakho, kepha bazi ngaphakathi enhliziyweni ukuthi abanabo. Bazosebenzisa wonke amaqhinga abo ukukuthola kube sengathi ungumklomelo okufanele uwine.
2. AbakwaNarcissist bayalawula futhi bayakhohlisa
Uma usuzinikele kubo, izinto ziyashintsha. Ngaleso sikhathi, abasakuboni njengentaba okufanele unqotshwe, kodwa njengesigqila esinabo. Bayazi ukuthi awuphelele, futhi bazoqala ukubumba ube “isigqila” sabo esiphelele.
Wonke amaphethini othando we-narcissistic alandela le thempulethi ethile sengathi bayifunde encwadini ethile kwenye indawo.
Kuzoqala ngokucela okucashile ukuthi abalingani babo balandele njengokushintshwa kwekhanda, okokwembatha, indlela yokukhuluma, njll. Banokubekezela okufushane, ngakho-ke ngokujwayelekile lesi sigaba futhi sifushane uma ungalandeli ngaso leso sikhathi.
Abalingani abaningi bazimisele ukwenza ushintsho oluncane olukha phezulu ukuze babajabulise futhi bavimbele ubudlelwano bungahlukani.
Ngemuva kwalesi sigaba, bazoqala ukukuhlukanisa nabangane bakho, umndeni, nakho konke okukhathalelayo, kufaka phakathi izinto ozithandayo. Bakholelwa ukuthi uyimpahla yabo futhi bangakusebenzisa / bakubumbe njengokufisa kwabo. Bayazi futhi ukuthi ithonya langaphandle lizophazamisa "iphrojekthi yabo yozakwethu wokupholisha" futhi ngokuzithoba bazolulaza bonke abanye kancane kancane, kodwa ngolaka.
Njengabalingani, leli phethini lobudlelwano be-narcissistic liqala ukukhulisa imifantu ebunyeni babo njengoba iqiniso liphikisana nefantasy yabo. Abanye ophathina abanobuntu obuqinile nabo balwa nalolo hlobo lokwelashwa. Ukulwa bekuzoqubuka njalo lapho umzabalazo ezama ukulwa nokubuyela kubo.
Lapho umlingani wabo emelana ngokwengeziwe, kulapho owe-narcissist, ohluleke kakhulu, elwa.
Le ndlela yobudlelwano bokunxanxathela izongena esigabeni esisha nesiyingozi.
3. AmaNarcissist ayingozi
Bazoqala ukusebenzisa izindlela ezifihliwe ukuze baphinde bakwazi ukulawula isimo. Kuzoqala ngokusongelwa, ukukhishwa ngenkani, nokuphoqelelwa. Uma le nkinga ingaxazululwa ngaleso sikhathi, umbulali uzobhekana nezinye zalezo zinsongo futhi angathola umzimba ngesikhathi sezimpikiswano nakwezinye izingxabano.
Kungumqondo omuhle ukwazisa abangani nomndeni othembekile ngesimo ukuphepha kwakho.
Kuyadabukisa uma unqamula izibopho noma uphikise abangane bakho nomndeni wakho esigabeni esedlule. Kodwa-ke, iningi labo elikukhathalele ngokweqiniso lizokubuyisela emuva futhi likuvikele.
Ungakhohlwa ukuxolisa.
I-Narcissist iyazi ukuthi njengamanje, ubudlelwano sebuphelile futhi kuzothatha izinyathelo zokunciphisa umonakalo ekugcineni kwabo futhi bakhulise kumlingani wabo. Ungamangali uma bekhohlisa nomunye umuntu, kufaka phakathi abantu osondelene nabo okwamanje. Uma bekhona, bafisele okuhle kodwa.
Bazothola iphethini yobudlelwano obufanayo ekugcineni.
4. AbakwaNarcissist bazokwehlisa isithunzi sabo kwi-Ex yabo
Okwamanje ubudlelwano buhlukana ngisho noma bungakapheli ngokusemthethweni, umNarcissist uzokuphatha njengodoti olahliwe.
Ungamangali uma izimfihlo zakho ezimnyama kakhulu zisakazwa kwi-inthanethi ukuze zibonwe yiwo wonke umuntu. Bazozama ukuchitha sonke isiqu sakho. Bazohlasela izinto zakho siqu, umsebenzi wakho, obunye ubuhlobo bakho nabangane nomndeni.
Izindlela ziyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu, kepha zonke zizozama ukukudicilela phansi, ngakho-ke zingakuthwesa icala uma usuhlukene. Musa ukwenza ukungathembeki ngaphandle kokwehlukana ngokusemthethweni nomlingani wakho wezobuciko.
Bazokusebenzisa lokho ngomphumela omkhulu.
Ezweni elikahle, ubudlelwano buzophela futhi umlobi wezinambuzane ubezothola ithagethi entsha futhi iphethini lobudlelwano obunobuthi obufanayo lizoqala phansi futhi.
Indlela abakwa-narcissist abaphatha ngayo ama-ex abo angaqhathaniswa nokuthi umuntu angayiphatha kanjani ikhondomu esetshenzisiwe. Bebengakubheka njengokujabulisayo ngenkathi kuqhubeka, kepha manje sekuyisiqeshana nje sodoti.
Kunokuhlukahluka okuthile lapho ama-narcissist engababeki phansi abalingani bawo, kepha esikhundleni salokho, abaphakamise njengemodeli engafinyeleleki ozakwethu wamanje angayilingisa, noma ngabe iphelela kanjani kulowo abalingani.
Kuyinhlanhla ukuthi kugcine kuphelile. Ukukhishwa okuhle.