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Uma kwenzeka kuba nesikhathi lapho sikhona kakhulu, yilapho sithandana khona. ICoup de foudre, okuyiFulentshi elisho “ukushaywa umbani,” ichaza ukuthi, lapho sizwa umuzwa onamandla kangaka wothando ngomuntu, kungachazwa kangcono njengokuduma kwezulu okuhamba ngathi.
Lowo muzwa, njengoba sazi, uyancipha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi noma sisengamthanda umuntu owake wasenza sazizwa sengathi sishaywa ngamandla kagesi, ekugcineni singaqala ukuhlangabezana nezimpunga, izinsuku ezinamafu ndawonye singazizwa lutho ukufaka ugesi.
Isigaba se-honeymoon asihlali
"Isigaba se-honeymoon" - igama elichaza ukuqala kobudlelwano lapho konke kubonakala kulungile futhi wena nomlingani wakho nizinaka ngokungafani - akunakuhlala isikhathi eside.
Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzithola ungavumelani futhi ugxile kakhulu kuzidingo ezihlukile. Kungabonakala sengathi nihlukene ngakho konke, futhi niyazibuza ukuthi kwenzekeni ngesikhathi lapho benizimisele ngokoqobo ukushaywa umbani futhi nifele omunye nomunye ngoba yilolo thando enanizwana ngalo.
Inkinga ngobudlelwano ukuthi baqala ngemizwa ejulile futhi ephakanyisiwe yothando, kepha ukugxila kancane kancane kudlulela kwezinye izindaba ezithatha ukunaka kwethu.
Asisekho njengamanje nomlingani wethu. Uma sivumela ama-smartphones ethu noma zonke izinhlelo zokusebenza eziluthayo kuzo ukuba zithokozise futhi zihehe kunabalingani bethu, sizoqala ukushintshanisa lezo zikhathi zobunye.
Ukucabangela ebuhlotsheni
Kodwa-ke, ukucabanga, okumayelana nokuba sesikhathini samanje ngokuqwashisa okuphelele, kuyinto esingayihlakulela nomuntu esimthandayo ukuze siphinde sithole lokho kugxila. Ngaphandle kwalokho, njalo, sizoyeka ukubazisa ubukhona bazo.
Ukuphela kwendlela umshado ongaxhasa futhi ubekezelele ubunzima nezinselelo oyobhekana nazo, ikakhulukazi ngalezi zikhathi lapho "ukuskrola" noma "ukuswayipha" sekuguquke kwaba yimilutha, ngokwenza ukucabanga kube umkhuba ojwayelekile. Kungabhekwa “njengokuvimbela isehlukaniso.” Yindlela imibhangqwana engazigcina ngayo izifungo zayo zomshado zokuhloniphana nokwazisana “kuze kube yilapho sehlukaniswa ukufa.”
Njengomphathi womshado, ngithanda ukwethula uhlobo lwesifungo sanamuhla olubandakanya ukucabanga. Uma abantu ababili bengena emshadweni wabo befunga ukuthi bazobakhona ngokuphelele komunye nomunye, bazobeka ithuba elikhulu kakhulu lokujabulela umshado ohlala njalo.
Nayi isincomo sami sezifungo zomshado
“Mina, ___, ngiyakuthatha, ___, ukuba ube ngumyeni / unkosikazi wami oshadile. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngizobakhona nawe kusuka kulolu suku kuqhubeke, kube ngcono, kube kubi, kube ngabacebile, abampofu, ukugula kanye nempilo, ukuthanda nokubonga kuze kube yilapho ukufa sehlukana. Uma ingqondo yami izulazula nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, futhi isuse ukugxila noma ukunaka kwami kuwe, ungikhumbuze ngobumnene, njengoba ngithanda wena, ukuthi sihlangane ebunyeni bethu ukuze sibonane singcwele othandweni lwethu.
Kwangathi ngingakuhlonipha futhi ngikuhloniphe ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi kwangathi kungabikho mzuzu owehlisa noma wehlise uthando lwami ngawe ngokungisusa esikhathini samanje lapho inhliziyo yami ihlala nawe njalo.
Lesi sikhathi, njengamanje, yisipho esikhulu kunazo zonke engake ngazithola, futhi kwangathi angingalokothi ngikhohlwe uthando engilubona emehlweni akho, oluyohlale lungikhumbuza ukuba khona nawe. ”
Uma uhlela ukushada futhi lezi zifungo zihambisana nawe nomlingani wakho, sicela uzisebenzise. Ungazishintsha futhi ukuze zihambisane nemizwa yakho noma izinkolelo zakho.
Noma iziphi izifungo ozenzayo ngosuku lwakho lomshado, ngithemba ukuthi ucabanga ukusebenzisa iMindfulness ukuhlonipha ukuzibophezela kwakho ukuze ube khona komunye nomunye kuzo zonke izikhathi zobumbano lwakho olungcwele.