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- Izingane zizosabela kanjani ngokwahlukana?
- Zizozizwa kanjani izingane?
- Ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho ngalesi sikhathi esinzima?
- Nikeza isiqinisekiso
- Thembeka kubo
- Musa ukubenza bakhethe izinhlangothi
- Baqinisekise ukuthi abanacala
Ukwehlukana kungaba yisikhathi esikhokha kakhulu kubazali. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ukhungathekile futhi unesizungu. Okwamanje, kunezinqumo nezinhlelo zokwenza nokuqhubeka nokuba ngumzali naphezu kwazo zonke izinxushunxushu empilweni yakho.
Okukhathaza kakhulu imibhangqwana eyehlukanisayo ukuthi ukwehlukana kuzothinta kanjani izingane nokuthi zizobhekana kanjani nezinguquko eziseduze empilweni yansuku zonke. Ngisho nokuhlukaniswa okuhlelwe kahle futhi okunokuthula kungahlakulela imizwa yokungaqiniseki nokukhathazeka ezinganeni. Izingane zibona futhi zizizwe izinto ngokwehlukile kubantu abadala. Bangakuthola kunzima ukubhekana nokwehlukana ngoba bezwa ukuthi izimpilo zabo ziguquka zibheke phezulu. Kungenzeka bazizwe:
- Intukuthelo
- Ukukhathazeka
- Ukudabuka
- Ukhungathekile futhi unesizungu
Izingane zakho zingazama ukufihla imizwa yazo ukuze zikuvikele. Ungakuthathi kalula lokho ingane yakho ebhekene nakho ngaleso sikhathi. Ukwesekwa kwenu ngokugcwele nokuqiniswa okuhle kothando yikho okuzobasiza bakwazi ukubhekana nalezi zinsuku zokuqala zokwehlukana.
Ukwehlukanisa lapho unezingane kungaba yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ngabe udinga ukuthatha izinqumo eziningi ezibalulekile njengokuthi uzozitshela kanjani izingane zakho? Uzothini kubo? Uzobatshela nini? Ukwehlukana isikhathi esinzima njengoba nawe uzizwa ungaqinisekile futhi usengozini. Ngesikhathi esinjalo ufuna ukutshela izingane zakho ukuthi izimpilo zazo zizoshintsha ngendlela engeke ibangele ukucindezeleka nobuhlungu obuncane kakhulu.
Izingane zizosabela kanjani ngokwahlukana?
Ukwehlukaniswa kungacindezela kakhulu izingane nokuthi zibhekana kanjani nakho kuncike ezimeni eziningana:
- Abazali babhekana kanjani nokwehlukana nobunye ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo. Ukululama nokulungiswa kulula ezinganeni uma abazali bezwelana nezidingo zezingane zabo.
- Izimo eziholela ekwehlukaneni. Ingabe bekukhona ngokuthula nangokuthula noma izingane zibone noma yimuphi umdlalo noma ukulwa?
- Isigaba sokukhula kanye nobudala bezingane
- Isimo nobunjalo bezingane- ingabe zihamba kalula noma zithatha ukuthatha yonke into ngokungathi sína kakhulu
Zizozizwa kanjani izingane?
Ukwehlukana isikhathi esibuhlungu emndenini uwonke. Izingane zakho zingase zibe nomuzwa wokuthi zinecala. Bangase besabe ukulahlwa futhi bazizwe bengavikelekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi babhekene nemizwa eminingi futhi bazizwa bedabukile, bethukuthele, belimele, bemangele, besaba, bedidekile noma bekhathazekile. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi balusizi ngokulahlekelwa yimindeni yabo njengeyunithi. Bangase futhi baqale ukucabanga ngabazali babo ababuyelana. Bangaphinde babhekane nezinguquko ezithile zokuziphatha njengokulingisa, ukweqa amakilasi noma ukungafuni ukuya esikoleni, ukumanzisa umbhede, ukuba nomoya oguqukayo noma ukunamathela.
Ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho ngalesi sikhathi esinzima?
Yize abazali uqobo lwabo bevame ukudideka nokucasuka ngalesi sikhathi, kubalulekile ukuthi bazame ukuqonda ukuthi izingane zabo zibhekene nani futhi bacabangele imizwa yabo. Izingane kufanele zibhekane nokulungiswa okuningi nezinguquko lapho abazali behlukana: izinguquko ekuyalweni, indlela yokuphila yomndeni, kanye nemithetho. Kufanele babhekane nezinye izinguquko ezifana nesikole esisha, isikole esisha, kanye nomlingani omusha empilweni kamama noma kababa wabo. Futhi kuzofanele banciphise okunethezeka njengoba kuzoba nemali encane abazoyithola.
Njengabazali, kungumsebenzi wakho ukufinyelela kulesi simo ngamehlo abo futhi ubaduduze futhi ubaqondise kulesi sikhathi esinzima. Izinto okufanele uzigcine engqondweni uma utshela izingane zakho ukuthi uyahlukanisa:
Nikeza isiqinisekiso
Ingane yakho akufanele neze ilungabaze uthando lwakho ngaye. Kumele azi ukuthi bobabili abazali basamthanda. Kungenzeka ukuthi awusamthandi umlingani wakho, kepha izingane zibathanda bobabili abazali futhi bangakuthola kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi kungani nihlukana. Bazodinga ukuqinisekiswa njalo ukuthi bobabili abazali basabathanda.
Thembeka kubo
Zama ukwethembeka ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokungena emininingwaneni engadingekile. Bachazele ngendlela elula kepha ungamsoli umlingani wakho. Batshele ukuthi bazobona kuphi futhi nini omunye umzali nokuthi ngubani ozohamba.
Musa ukubenza bakhethe izinhlangothi
Dambisa izingqondo zabo ngokubatshela ukuthi akudingeki bathathe uhlangothi. Ukugxeka omunye umzali phambi kwezingane kuvame ukuzilimaza izingane. Izingane zibathanda bobabili abazali ngakho-ke gwema ukukhuluma izinto ezingezinhle ngomlingani wakho ophambi kwazo.
Baqinisekise ukuthi abanacala
Bakholise ukuthi ukwehlukana kwenu kuyisinqumo sabantu bobabili, esabantu abadala futhi akulona neze iphutha labantwana. Futhi zama ukwenza izinguquko ezimbalwa ezimpilweni zabo njengoba ukujwayela kuzobalethela induduzo.
Njengabazali, izingane nazo zigcizelelwa yizinguquko ezimpilweni zazo nokwehlukaniswa kwabazali bazo, kepha ngokunakekelwa, isikhathi, kanye nokuxhaswa iningi lezingane lizivumelanisa nalezi zinguquko.