-Delile
- Impi eshubile yokuphambanisa imibono yenu ehlukile komunye nomunye
- Sibambeka kanjani kulo mjikelezo?
- Ngakho-ke, yini ukhiye ongashintsha lapha?
- Masenze okwehlukile
- Impendulo yakho iphethe lowo khiye
“Noma ngabe ngithini kodwa kuhlala kubonakala kungxabano noma ukulwa okukhulu, ngikhathele kakhulu futhi ngikhathele ukulwa. Ngilahlekelwe ubuhlobo bami ”
-Akungaziwa
Ubudlelwano bungumsebenzi onzima.
Sizithola sihlala njalo sifuna impendulo eyiyo. Sichitha amahora amaningi ku-inthanethi sifuna ukhiye wezinkinga zethu, silalela futhi sizame ukulandela izeluleko zomngane wethu, sifunda zonke izincwadi zokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano, kepha nokho sisabambeke emjikelezweni omubi wokulwa nozakwethu.
Into yokuqala engingayisho ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile. Lapho ngibona imibhangqwana iseseshini, umbuzo omkhulu ovelayo uthi, “ngingayeka kanjani ukulwa nokuxabana nomlingani wami futhi ngithuthukise ukuxhumana kwethu ngomshado?”
Impi eshubile yokuphambanisa imibono yenu ehlukile komunye nomunye
Kwabaningi bale mibhangqwana, bazithola bephikisana ngezinto ezingenangqondo kakhulu futhi bengayitholi indlela yokuphuma kulo mjikelezo.
Ngakho-ke "ukulwa" noma "ukuphikisana" kubukeka kanjani? Imvamisa ngiyichaza njengempi engapheli, eshubile yokushintshana noma yokuphambukisa imibono yenu ehlukile komunye nomunye.
Umjikelezo ongapheli wokuphikisana ungakwenza uzizwe uhlangana kwemizwa efana: nolaka, ukulimala, ukudabuka, ukukhathala nokudinwa.
Ngesikhathi ngibona lezi zithandani sezikhathele kakhulu futhi zifuna ukuthola isisombululo kule mpi engapheli.
Sibambeka kanjani kulo mjikelezo?
Ingabe lokhu kungukuziphatha okuthile esikufundile noma esikubonile sikhula futhi mhlawumbe asazi okungcono? Ingabe kuyindlela yokuzivikela ebudlelwaneni ngenxa yokwesaba ukushiywa? Ngabe sibambelele entukuthelweni futhi sisuswe okwesibili lapho sibuzwa nganoma yini?
Engingakusho ukuthi kuthatha abantu ababili ukubambeka kulo mjikelezo.
Isici esisodwa esibalulekile engingakwazi ukusicindezela ngokwanele emibhangqwaneni esimisweni ukuthi bobabili abalingani banengxenye ekuphikisaneni. Ukubeka umuntu oyedwa icala ngeke kulixazulule izingxabano noma kukufundise ukwenza izinto ngendlela ehlukile. Ngakho-ke engijwayele ukukwenza ukuqala ngokusiza abashadayo ukuthi babone ukungqubuzana, ukuphikisana nokulwa kubandakanya bobabili abalingani!
Ake sithi sonke ndawonye. Kuthatha bobabili abalingani.
Ngakho-ke, yini ukhiye ongashintsha lapha?
Amagama amabili. Impendulo yakho. Wake wazama ukuphendula ngendlela ehlukile lapho umlingani wakho eqala ukubhebhethekisa ingxabano?
Impendulo yethu yokuqala kungaba ukulwa noma indiza. Kwesinye isikhathi siba nentambo ngale ndlela.
Sifuna ukubalekela izingxabano noma ukulwa. Kepha manje ake siqale ukucabanga ngokuhlukile. Isibonelo, umlingani wakho ufika ekhaya futhi uphatheke kabi ukuthi ukhohlwe ukukhokha imali yenyanga edlule. Umlingani wakho uqala ukuphakamisa izwi lakhe futhi akusondeze cishe njalo nangezimali ezikhokhwa sekwedlule isikhathi, nokuthi badumele kangakanani kuwe.
Ukusabela kwakho kokuqala kungaba ukuzivikela. Mhlawumbe empeleni unesizathu esizwakalayo sokuthi kungani ukhohlwe ukukhokha irenti. Mhlawumbe ukukhomba ngomunwe kukubangela ngandlela thile futhi ufuna ukuwukhomba ngomunwe. Le yindlela ebesingasabela ngayo ngokujwayelekile?
Masenze okwehlukile
Ake sibone ukuthi impendulo yakho empeleni ingakhuphula kanjani ingxabano noma impikiswano. Ake sizame ukusho okuthile ebesingafuni ukukusho njengokuthi “Sthandwa, uqinisile. Ngimoshile. Ake sehlise umoya bese sithola isixazululo ndawonye manje ”.
Ngakho-ke okwenzekayo lapha ukuphendula kwakho ngendlela yokuthi wehlise umlingani wakho phansi futhi wehlise isimo.
Impendulo yakho iphethe lowo khiye
Akunandaba ukuthi ngubani okulungile nokungalungile, sinamandla okuphendula futhi senze ngendlela yokwehlisa umlingani wethu futhi sisize ekusakazeni isimo ngaphambi kokuthi siqhume ebusweni futhi kancane kancane sithuthukise ukuxhumana kwethu komshado.
Uma bobabili abalingani beqala ukubona ukuthi baphendula kanjani ngesikhathi sengxabano noma ingxabano bese beqala ukwenza lezi zinguquko ezincane ekuphenduleni nasekuphenduleni kumlingani wakho uzoqala ukubona ukungqubuzana okuncane, ukuphikisana nokulwa ebudlelwaneni.
Ngakho-ke ekuphetheni, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ubhekene nengxabano, khumbula lawo magama amabili: Impendulo yakho.