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Kusenabesifazane abaningi abafika babone umeluleki, bebuza ukuthi: “Ungaba kanjani unkosikazi ongcono kumyeni wami”. Siphila esikhathini lapho sicwiliswe khona olwandle lolwazi kanye nezeluleko ezimbalwa. Kubukeka sengathi bekufanele kube lula kunakuqala ukuthola noma yiluphi uhlobo lokusekelwa nesiqondiso esisidingayo. Kepha akunjalo. Kunolwazi oluningi kakhulu laphaya. Lo mbhalo uzofingqa izimpendulo ezisemqoka embuzweni waphakade wokuthi ungaba kanjani umlingani ohamba phambili ngokuhle noma ngokubi.
Thembeka - Kunoma isiphi isimo
Kunengxoxo eningi ezungeze ikhono labesifazane lokwethembeka ngokuphelele. Kukhona izazi zefilosofi eziningi ezathi abesifazane banendlela ehluke ngokuphelele yokubona iqiniso futhi, ngokombono wendoda, abakwazi ukuba bavulekele ngokuphelele futhi bangafihli lutho. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abesifazane bazizwa bebuthakathaka emzimbeni uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa futhi ngaleyo ndlela ngokungazi bazizwe ukuthi isikhali sabo kuphela ukucasha.
Yize singeke sivumelane nesitatimende esingenangqondo sokuthi owesifazane akakwazi ukuba neqiniso, into eyodwa iyiqiniso - abesilisa nabesifazane babona ukwethembeka ngendlela ehlukile. Ngokunembile, amadoda akholelwa ekutsheleni amaqiniso ngokungagunci, futhi kubo, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso senhlonipho nothando. Kwabesifazane, kune-shades yeqiniso. Abesifazane bakholelwa emangeni amhlophe. Bakholelwa ukuthi kuyindlela yokuvikela abathandekayo babo ebuhlungwini, ekucindezelekeni, ebubini bomhlaba.
Yize zombili izinhlangothi zinephuzu, uma ufuna ngempela ukuba yinkosikazi engcono kumyeni wakho, kuzodingeka ufunde ukucabanga ngeqiniso njengendoda. Okushoyo ekwenzeni ukuthi utshela okusemqondweni wakho futhi ungapholisi iqiniso. Noma ucabanga ukuthi kungalimaza, owesilisa uzohlonipha ingxoxo emsulwa kakhulu kunokukhetha ukuthi uzothini nokuthi uyibeka kanjani.
Musa patronize umyeni wakho
Omunye umthetho wegolide oqhubeka kulowo owedlule ukuthi ungalinge uphathe umyeni wakho. Lokhu kuhlobene kanjani nokukhuluma iqiniso ngazo zonke izindlela? Yebo, uma uqamba amanga noma uhlobisa iqiniso, empeleni uphatha umyeni wakho njengengane. Ngokuyinhloko umbheka njengongakwazi ukuthwala iqiniso elibi. Futhi cishe akayona.
Kepha, lesi seluleko sisebenza ezimeni eziningi kunokukhuluma ngqo. Abesifazane kwesinye isikhathi bayalahleka kwenye indawo phakathi kokuba yisithandwa nokuba ngumama uma sebeshadile. Wena nomyeni wakho manje kungenzeka benithandana ngokuphelele futhi nenza njengabantu abadala ngenkathi nisathandana. Kepha abaningi banqotshwa isifiso sokufuna isidleke futhi banakekele wonke umndeni njengokungathi bonke bayizingane.
Asazi kakhulu lapho lokhu kwenzeka. Namadoda kufanele asolwe. Bayakujabulela ukuphekelwa ngabesifazane, ukuwahlanza emva kwabo, ukunakekela amadokhumende futhi banesifiso sokuthi zonke izikweletu zikhokhwe ngesikhathi. Kepha okungalungiselelwa abesilisa nabesifazane ngokufanayo ukuthi lesi sifiso sizodlulisela kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo yabo, futhi akukho sikhathi, bazogcina ngokuziphatha njengomama nendodana (egangile noma elalelayo).
Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ukhuluma nomyeni wakho, ake ucabange ukuthi ubukhuluma nengane. Ingxoxo yakho ingaguqulela esimweni esinjalo? Uma impendulo yakho inguyebo, kuzodingeka ukuthi uthathe ikhefu futhi ushintshe izindlela zakho ngokushesha. Ngoba, noma ngabe umyeni wakho angazizwa etotoswa kanjani manje, ekugcineni uzokhathala ukuphathwa njengengane bese eyofuna umuntu ozophinde abone indoda kuye.
Sula umoya
Masibhekane nakho - emva kweminyaka sishadile, kuzoba khona ukucasuka okukhulu nokuphikisana okuphindaphindiwe. Futhi lokhu kuvamile ngokuphelele, ungazikhuzi ngakho. Noma imuphi umshado oqhubeka isikhathi esithile nakanjani udlule ezinkingeni eziningi nobuhlungu, futhi eminye yawo ivame ukuhlala isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuba inkinga yangempela isixazululiwe.
Kepha, uma uhlose ukuqhubeka nomshado wakho, futhi nangaphezulu, ube yinkosikazi engcono kumyeni wakho, kufanele ube nenkulumo naye futhi ekugcineni usule umoya. Khipha udoti, uvule ikhabethe bese uphonsa amathambo. Babone bekhombisa amakhanda abo amabi ekukhanyeni kosuku, bese ekugcineni beqeda umthetho wezipoki zezimpikiswano ezedlule. Ngoba ungaqhubeka kanjalo isikhashana, kepha hhayi unomphela. Futhi anikwazi ukuchuma ndawonye noma njengabantu ngabanye uma nilibala esikhathini esedlule. Alukho usuku olungcono kunanamuhla!