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- Izinto okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokuba nengane
- Uwulungiselela kanjani umshado wakho ukukhulelwa
- Izinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa
- Ngaphambi kokuba ube nengane - CABANGA FUTHI UFUNDE !!!
Ilindele ukungezwa okusha emndenini kuyajabulisa. Kuyindlela ye- ingqophamlando kunoma imuphi umshado. Noma kunjalo, noma yikuphi okuvamile izithandani zikuthola kunzima impela uku ukubhekana nokukhulelwa emshadweni.
Izinkinga zezempilo ezifana nokuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa zijwayelekile impela. Komama abaningi abalindele, ukukhulelwa kungabagcwalisa ngokudideka, ukwesaba, ukudabuka, ukukhathazeka, ingcindezi, kanye nokudangala.
Kunjalo ukushintsha kwemizwelo njalo omama abasebancane bangakwazi kuphazamisa impilo yengqondo nenhlalakahle yomuntu ngamunye futhi kube nomthelela omubi emshadweni wabo.
Futhi, funda - Amadoda aphatha omkawo; izifiso zokukhulelwa
Manje, ukusheshe ukhulelwe ebuhlotsheni can kubangele imizwa yokungazethembi komama abasebancane, okuwukuphela kwamakhono okuxhumana afanelekile angaqedwa.
Kepha ubuka uhlangothi olukhanyayo lwesithombe, ukwakha umndeni ndawonye ingokukodwa kwe- izinto ezimangalisa kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nazo nomunye umuntu.
Noma kukuhle, ulindele ingane kunjalo inselele. Imibhangqwana enengane igcwele ukukhathazeka. Bafuna ukuba ngabazali abakhulu, bagcine ingane iphephile, futhi bakulungiselele ngokuphelele ukufika kwayo.
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Ukukhulelwa nokushada kungaholela ekuxabaneni kobudlelwano.
Ukungezwani kuvamile impela, ikakhulukazi lapho kufanele ubhekane nokukhulelwa emshadweni, kepha lapho ulindele ingane, leso kufanele kube isikhathi sokuhlangana.
Izinto okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokuba nengane
“Ngamandla amakhulu kuza umthwalo omkhulu,” isisho / iseluleko esidumile esanikezwa nguBen Parker kuSpiderman osemusha sikhuluma kabanzi ngomthwalo wemfanelo abazali abasazoba abazali okufanele bawuthwale.
Ukuba ngumama ayikho into emfushane uthatha indima yowesifazane ophakeme. Kepha, umbuzo uwukuthi, usukulungele ukubhekana nokukhulelwa emshadweni? Abadala bathi emuva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, amathuba okukhulelwa ancipha kwabesifazane.
Futhi, funda - Ukukhulelwa okumangazayo ku-40
Amathuba okuphuphunyelwa yisisu, ukukhubazeka kokuzalwa, nezinye izinkinga ezingezinhle zezempilo ziyanda kulindeleke omama asebekhulile.
Kepha, ukuthola ukhulelwe kusenesikhathi ebuhlotsheni can dala uqhekeko phakathi kwalaba bobabili, okuholela ekuhlukanisweni, ngezinye izikhathi.
Kodwa-ke, kunezinto eziningi okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokuthola umntwana. Ngakho-ke, ungavumeli izixwayiso zikamama wakho zikufinyelele ezinhliziyweni zakho. Ungahlala uqinisekile ukuthi isikhathi sakho sokuba ngumama asipheli. Ucwaningo luka-2017 lukhombisa ukuthi amazinga okuzalwa aphakeme kakhulu kwabesifazane abaneminyaka engama-30-34.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukucabanga ngokuba nengane, ungahle ucabange kabusha ngala maphuzu alandelayo -
- Ingabe usuyiqedile imfundo yakho?
- Ingabe uvikelekile ngokwezimali?
- Ngabe ukulungele ngokomzimba / ngokwengqondo ukuba ngumama?
- Ingabe usukulungele ukubhekana nokukhulelwa emshadweni?
- Ngabe usenayo eminye imisebenzi ongayenza?
Izimpendulo zalo mbuzo ongenhla zizochaza ukuthi kungani kufanele ulinde ukuthola umntwana.
Uma usuqiniseke ngamaphesenti ayikhulu ukuthi usukulungele ukuba ngumama, kufanele qala ukwenza amalungiselelo uku ngena esigabeni esilandelayo ngempilo yakho, okungukuthi, ukuba ngumama. Futhi isinyathelo sokuqala esibhekise ekubeni ngumama uku qala ukukhumbuza umshado wakho futhi uzilungiselele ngokufanele.
Uwulungiselela kanjani umshado wakho ukukhulelwa
Cinga “ukulungiselela ukukhulelwa kwakho” futhi uzothola ukuthi kunezeluleko eziningi laphaya. Okunhlobonhlobo kuhle, kepha ukulungiselela umshado wakho wengane kungcono ukugcinwa kulula.
Okokuqala, kufanele ungene ngokwazi ukuthi kuzoba nezinkinga ezimbalwa (ukukhulelwa kungaba nalo mphumela). Uletha impilo emhlabeni! Abesilisa nabesifazane baphendula ngendlela ehlukile ezindabeni zokuba ngabazali.
Lapho owesifazane ezwa ukuthi unengane endleleni, angene masinyane kumodi kamama ngenkathi amadoda afuna ukuhlinzeka bese uqala ukubhekisisa ezezimali njengomphumela.
Futhi, funda - Indima ebalulekile yobaba ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa
Ukuze ulungiselele umshado wakho, zibophezele ekukhulumeni noma nini lapho othile enokukhathazeka, sebenzisa isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye, sebenzani njengeqembu, futhi ukwenze kube iphuzu ku gcina izinto zothando.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuyakhula Imizwelo yabazali ibangela ukuba uthando luqhume. Qhubeka nezinsuku, thatha isikhathi nsuku zonke ukukhuluma, futhi wenzele ingane izinto ndawonye njengokuhlobisa inkulisa, ukuze nje udambise ukungezwani okuba khona lapho kufanele ubhekane nokukhulelwa emshadweni.
Izinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa
Impilo ingahamba yonke ibe yinkinga futhi idangele lapho kufanele ubhekane nokukhulelwa emshadweni. Futhi, ubucabanga ukuthi 'ukuba ngumama' kunzima?
Kunezimo ezithile lapho izinkinga zomshado ezazikhona ziqhubekela esigabeni sokukhulelwa. Vele, isimo asisihle, kepha izinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kufanele kubhekwane nakho ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lapho izithandani zilinde ukuthola umntwana, kubalulekile ukuthi zihlangane ngenxa yomshado nengane. Ungabeka izinto ngokuhleleka ngemuva kwengxoxo eshubile nomlingani wakho noma uvimbele sonke isiqephu esibi ekuphukeni kungalawuleki ngokuthatha izinyathelo zokuqapha ezidingekayo.
Phela lesi yisikhathi sokuthanda impilo, hhayi ukuphikisana.
Uma kufanele ubhekane nokukhulelwa emshadweni njengochwepheshe, bese ubheka la maphuzu alandelayo:
- Qala ingxoxo - Xazulula noma yiziphi izingqinamba futhi unciphise ukungezwani ngokuqala ingxoxo.
- Uthembekile - Thembeka utshele oshade naye ukuthi yini ekuhluphayo bese ubakhuthaza ukuba benze okufanayo.
- Lungisa inkinga ngokushesha - Lapho impande yenkinga iveziwe, yilungise.
- Hlela inkambo yokwenza - Qhamani necebo lokusebenza ndawonye, zinikeleni kulo, futhi nisebenze kuze kufinyelelwe esinqumweni.
Bheka futhi: Amathiphu kababa wokuqala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Ngaphambi kokuba ube nengane - CABANGA FUTHI UFUNDE !!!
Ikona akunzima ukubhekana nokukhulelwa emshadweni. Isibopho sokukhulisa usana sikubazali bobabili. Hhayi omama kuphela, kodwa nengane nobaba futhi kufanele alungise indlela yabo yokuphila futhi uzibophezele ekunakekeleni usana olusanda kuzalwa kanye nonkosikazi wakhe njengeqembu.
Ngakho-ke, ungazenzi 'umyeni ozithandayo' ngesikhathi ukhulelwe, futhi esikhundleni salokho, ulwe ubambisene nehlombe nomkakho ukusebenzela umshado wenu.
Masibhekane nakho; yonke imishado inezinkinga ezimbalwa. Kepha, ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhulelwa emshadweni kungakusiza kulesi sigaba esiyinselele sempilo. Ikona ngokuphelele kuwe nomlingani wakho ku vikela isisekelo.