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- 1. Thatha imizuzu engama-20-30 ukuphola
- 2. Ungalokothi usebenzise indlela ebandayo yehlombe
- 3. Bheka izinto enivumelana ngazo
- 4. Cabanga ngothando
- 5. Shintsha umbono
- 6. Phendula
Impi yesithandwa esijwayelekile izokwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile uma uke waba sebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Imibhangqwana eminingi iyaxabana futhi imibhangqwana ejabule iyalwa. Kungokwemvelo futhi kujwayelekile.
Kepha lapho ukungezwani kukhula kube ukumemeza, ukulimaza ukuthukwa, kanye neminyango eshaywayo kungakushiya uzizwa uthuthumela, ungahlelekile, ucasukile futhi uwedwa. Ungaphinda ucabange sonke lesi simo engqondweni yakho, uzwe ukuluma kwezinsuku bese ekugcineni ulwa no ‘okufanele ukwenze ngemuva kokulwa nomlingani wakho?’
Ukuphuma ngemuva kwengxabano enkulu akudingeki ukuthi kuthathe umsebenzi omningi futhi kunezindlela eziningi ongazisebenzisa ukusiza ukudambisa izinhlungu, ukubuyisa ukuxhumana, ukuphulukisa ubudlelwano bakho, nokububuyisela esimweni.
Okulandelayo kubalulekile ku-6 izinto okufanele uzenze ngemuva kokulwa nomlingani wakho lokho angakwenza; p uyakuqonda ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani konke ukulwa nomunye wakho obalulekile? noma ungakha kanjani ngemuva kwe-argument?
1. Thatha imizuzu engama-20-30 ukuphola
Wonke umuntu ucubungula ulwazi ngejubane lakhe futhi lapho imibono ehlukile ifaka impikiswano, imizimba yethu nobuchopho bethu bungasebenza. Wena nomlingani wakho niyasabela futhi ningaqala ukukhuluma ngomuzwa wentukuthelo noma ukucasuka komunye nomunye.
Zinikeze isikhathi nesikhalaukupholisa phansi. Thatha imizuzu embalwa ukucabanga, ululame futhi uzibuze, “Bekuyini ingxenye yami kukho konke lokhu? Ngibe nawo umnikelo? ”.
Ngenkathi nihlukene, kungahle kube lula ukubona izinto ngokucacile ngakho-ke lapho nibuya ndawonye, nikwazi ukuqala ingxoxo entsha ngokuphelele. Thatha isikhashana wedwa - ukuphola kukhubaze indiza yethu noma ukulwa nempendulo futhi kwenza sikwazi ukuzwa izinto ngokuhlukile.
2. Ungalokothi usebenzise indlela ebandayo yehlombe
Qiniseka ukuthi wazisa umlingani wakho uma udinga isikhala ngemuva kwempi. Into ohlale ufuna ukuyigwema ngemuva kwengxabano ukunika ihlombe elibandayo. Kuyindlela engasebenzi kahle yokusingatha noma isiphi isimo yize kungazizwa njengokukhetha kwakho kuphela.
Umlingani wakho kungenzeka acabange ukuthi uyamjezisa kanti isijeziso asidonsi abantu. Kubasusa. Ukujeziswa nokunganakwa kusikhuthaza ukuba sizivikele, sizibambe futhi sabelane ngokuncane esikhathini esizayo.
Ukwelashwa okubandayo kwehlombe kungenzeka yenze izinto zibe zimbi ngokwandisa ubuhlungu umlingani wakho angabe ezwa. Inketho ehlakaniphile kungaba ukubhekana nokwehluka kwakho ngobumnene nangokuqondile.
3. Bheka izinto enivumelana ngazo
Kuyazama ukukhipha impi futhi uvuselele inkinga efanayo kaninginingi. Inhloso imvamisa ‘ukuxazulula izingxabano'kepha kuyaqabukela kusifikise lapho sakha khona. Uma uyeka isidingo sakho sokulunga bese uyeka ukuphonsa ama-jabs kumlingani wakho, ungafuna indawo enivumelana ngayo.
Bona ukuthi ungasithola yini isisombululo se-win-win esishiya nobabili senelisekile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ubudlelwano bumayelana nokuxhumana nokuba seqenjini elilodwa.
4. Cabanga ngothando
Ukubonisa uthando ngezenzo zothando njengokuthinta okunomusa, amagama anomusa noma izenzo ezincane zensizakalo zingasiza kakhulu ekukhumbuzeni omunye wakho obalulekile ukuthi uyaqhubeka ubakhathalele.
Ukuveza uthando futhi ingabhalisa njengomzamo wokunciphisa ukungqubuzana. Kodwa-ke, uma umlingani wakho engathandi ukuthintwa ngemuva kwengxabano embi, hlukana nale ndlela.
5. Shintsha umbono
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukubona lesi simo ngombono womlingani wakho. Ngaphansi kwentukuthelo, kuyohlale kulimala nokwesaba. Sonke siziqonda kangcono izingqinamba lapho singathatha isinyathelo esincane sibuyele emuva futhi sicabange elinye iphuzu lokubuka.
Uma u bona okuthile ngombono omusha, izikhundla ezinzima enizithathe nobabili ngesikhathi senxabano ziqala ukubukeka njengokungaqondi okukhulu. Lapho wazi okwenziwa ngophathina wakho, kuthikameza ukuqhuma kube yintuthuko futhi kwakha ithuba lokuthi uphinde uye phambili.
6. Phendula
Ukuxolisa kumayelana nokuziphendulela futhi ukuxolisa okusuka enhliziyweni kusiza ekunciphiseni noma yikuphi ukulimala esikudalele umlingani wethu. Ukuxolisa akukhona mayelana necala noma ukuncenga. Ababona ngisho nokuvuma okungalungile.
Kuhle ungaxolisi uma ungaqondile noma ngabe usazizwa njengengxenye elimele. Kepha uma usukulungele, xolisa futhi wazise umlingani wakho ukuthi uyaxolisa ngendlela izinto ezenzeke ngayo nanganoma yikuphi ukulimala okungenzeka ukubangele.
Ukuphatha noma yiziphi izinyathelo ezingalungile kungabonakala njengomnikelo wokuthula. Kubonisa nokuthi uthatha umthwalo wokuba yingxenye yengxabano. Ukuxolisa okuqotho kungabuyisa ubudlelwane bakho ekulinganeni.
Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuyisihluthulelo ebudlelwaneni obuseduze futhi ikuvumela ukuba uqinise futhi ujulise isibopho sakho. Lapho umlingani wakho ekulungele ukukhuluma, qiniseka ukuthi ulalela ngenhloso nenhliziyo evulekile. Shintshanani ngokulalela nokwabelana ngombono wakho.
Uma iqala ukuzungeza ibe ngumjikelezo ongemuhle, misa ikhefu uthathe isikhathi sokuzihlanganisa kabusha. Khumbula ukubheka eminye yemizwelo eyisisekelo njengokulimala nokwesaba. Uma wena nomlingani wakho nikwazi ukukhuluma ngalezo, niyagolide!
Umgomo ngemuva kwengxabano eshubile uku niqondane, buyisela ukuxhumana futhi ufunde. Uma usebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, obuzinikele, ingxabano kungenzeka iphinde iphinde yenzeke. Ngokuzijwayeza, ukuxhuma kabusha kuba lula futhi uzobuyisela ubudlelwane bakho kuthrekhi ngokushesha okukhulu.