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- Ake sikhulume ngobungani
- Ukukhangwa kwesikhashana
- Yiziphi izinkinga ezivela phakathi kwabantu abahlukene?
- 1. Izinkinga zokuzwela
- Ngezansi
Cishe wonke umuntu uzwile isisho esithi "okuphambene okuhehayo" futhi ngenxa yayo yonke incwadi kaNicholas Sparks ekhona namuhla, sibekwe esimweni sokukholelwa ukuthi abantu ababili abahluke ngokuphelele futhi bazogibela amahhashi abo bagibele baye ekushoneni kwelanga ndawonye. Kepha ngiyaxolisa ngokuqhuma abantu bakho be-bubble, lokhu akunjalo.
Muva nje sekufundwe okuningi ngalesi sisho, futhi kuvela ukuthi okuphikisanayo okuhehayo komunye nomunye kungumbono oyiphutha. Ngalo mqondo, abantu bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi noma yini abangayilethi ebudlelwaneni enye intando yabo ebalulekile futhi ngokufanayo. Lokhu akulona iqiniso.
Iqiniso lalesi simo ukuthi lokho okubona njengokusha nokuhlukile kungakuheha kakhulu ekuqaleni ngoba kungokwemvelo kithi bantu ukuthi sibe nelukuluku. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngokuba sebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, kungahle kube nezinkinga eziningi ezivelayo.
Ake sikhulume ngobungani
Mhlawumbe uqaphele ukuthi uma kuziwa ekutholeni abangane, uhlala ukhuluma nabantu abanezintshisekelo nezinhloso ezifanayo nezakho; abantu abanokuthanda okufanayo emculweni nakwezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa ezifanayo; yilokhu okusiza ekugcineni le nyunyana isikhathi eside.
Ubudlelwano bezothando abuhlukile kunobungani. Abantu abaningi bathambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi imibhangqwana kufanele ibe muhle njengabangane njengoba iyizithandani.
Ngokuyinhloko ngoba ukuba nabangane kuzokwenza ukuthi ujabulele impilo yakho futhi kuthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho ngasikhathi sinye. Kodwa-ke, ukuba ngabangane nakho kubalulekile ngoba olunye luthando olulinganiselwe enizwana ngalo luyehla, ubungani buyasiza ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano bakho futhi babugcine buhlala njalo.
Uma abantu ababili bengenalutho olufanayo lapho-ke lapho ukukhanga nokushisekela kungasekho, bazogcina sebenesithukuthezi komunye nomunye bese bebhekisa ebukhosini.
Ukukhangwa kwesikhashana
Akungabazeki ukuthi ukuba nomuntu onokuhluka okuthile kungakusiza ekufundiseni izinto futhi kukusize nokuthi ukhule. Kepha kuzofika isikhathi lapho izingxabano zakho nezingxoxo zakho ngezinto ezincane zizoqala ukwenzeka futhi kungekudala ubuhlobo bakho buzophela; lokhu akunakugwenywa ngenxa yenani elikhulu lokwehluka oqala ukukubona ngaphambi kwakho.
Lezi zimpikiswano zingaba nzima ukubhekana nazo ikakhulukazi uma umehluko uphakathi kwezintshisakalo zempilo yakho, izinhloso namagugu akho; uma kunjalo, khona-ke ubudlelwano bakho bungaphela. Ukuphela kwendlela yokulondoloza lobu budlelwano uma omunye umlingani ezimisele ukushintsha izinhloso zakhe nentshisekelo yomunye umlingani; ngeshwa, lokhu kujwayelekile ngendlela emangalisayo njengoba abantu abaningi bezama ukwenza amakhophi ozakwethu ukuze benze ubuhlobo babo buphile.
Yiziphi izinkinga ezivela phakathi kwabantu abahlukene?
1. Izinkinga zokuzwela
Ukuzwelana nomuntu ocabanga ngokwehlukile njengoba kungaba nzima kakhulu.
Ngabe ulindele ukungena kanjani ekhanda lothile ongavumelani nalo?
Lokhu kungabonisa ukufutheka kakhulu futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi kuzala izinkinga ezingaphezulu.
Lezi zinkinga zivela ngoba, ukuze baphathe futhi babe nobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo, abalingani kufanele bakwazi ukuzwana futhi uma behluke ngokuphelele, lapho-ke kungaba nzima ukuzwelana.
2. Isizungu
Uma ungenalutho lokuhlanganyela nomlingani wakho, khona-ke ungagcina usunesithukuthezi. Njengoba uzoba nokuthanda okwehlukile emculweni, ezincwadini, kuma-movie, nakwezokuzilibazisa, ungazithola usunesithukuthezi nomlingani wakho ngesikhathi sakho samahhala.
Esikhundleni salokho, uzokhetha ukuphuma nabangani bakho esikhundleni sokuhlala ekhaya ngeSonto, ngaleyo ndlela ukhukhuleke uhlukane nomunye wakho obalulekile.
Kuzofika isikhathi lapho uzobe ungenalutho ongaluxoxa noma ukhulume ngalo mlingani wakho, futhi ungagcina usulahla ithawula ebudlelwaneni bakho.
3. Ukuba ngumzali
Ngabe ulindele ukuthi uzikhulise kanjani izingane zakho uma wena nozakwenu ninamagugu, izimiso zokuziphatha ezihlukene kanye nemibono eyehlukene ngemfundo?
Indlela eya kubuzali ingaba ukwehluleka okukhulu ngoba kuzoholela ezingxoxweni eziningi nasezimpikiswaneni; umlingani ngamunye uzozama ukukholisa omunye ngendlela yakhe futhi kukho konke lokhu kungavumelani ungagcina udida izingane zakho.
4. Izinkinga zokuhlalisana
Uma uhlelekile, futhi umlingani wakho engcolile futhi enesiphithiphithi, lapho-ke ungakuthola kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala ndawonye.
Ekuqaleni, ungakuthola lokhu kuhlekisa futhi kuhlekisa kepha njengoba isikhathi sizodlula kuzoba nzima kuwe ukubekezelela ubukhona bomlingani wakho.
Ngezansi
Ekugcineni, abantu abakhangwa ngumahluko kudlulwa ukukhanga kwabo ukufana. Abantu bayaphikelela ekucabangeni ukuthi okuphikisanayo kudonsela lapho eqinisweni abalingani abafanayo omunye komunye bayaphelelisana ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.