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- Izingane zingaba yingxenye yokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya ngezindlela eziningi
- Imiphumela yodlame lwasekhaya nganoma yiluphi uhlobo ivame ukufinyelela ebudaleni
- Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa idluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane
Uma sikhuluma ngodlame lwasekhaya, imvamisa sizwa ukuphuthuma kwesimo bese sicabanga ngakho konke ukuhlupheka okucindezelayo okwenzeka ngaleso sikhathi kulabo abahlukumezekile. Kodwa-ke, udlame lwasekhaya yinto ehlale ishiya izibazi zaphakade.
Lawa mamaki kwesinye isikhathi angahlala ezizukulwaneni, noma ngabe akekho owaziyo ngomphumela nokuthi uvelaphi futhi.
Udlame lwasekhaya luyishwa elinobuthi futhi kaningi eliyingozi kakhulu elithinta wonke umuntu othintekayo. Ngisho noma izingane kungezona izisulu ngokuqondile, ziyahlupheka. Futhi ukuhlupheka kungahlala impilo yonke.
Izingane zingaba yingxenye yokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya ngezindlela eziningi
Bangaba izisulu ngqo. Kepha noma ngabe bengahlukunyezwa ngqo, babandakanyeka ngokungaqondile eqinisweni lokuthi umama wabo (kuma-95% esikhathi izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa emakhaya kungabesifazane) uhlukunyezwa ngoyise. Ingane ingaba ngufakazi esiqeshini esinodlame phakathi kwabazali, izwe izinsongo nokulwa, noma ibone nje ukusabela kukamama entukuthelweni kababa.
Lokhu kuvame ukwanela ukudala izinkinga ezinkulu empilweni yomntwana engokomzimba noma engokwengqondo.
Ngisho nezingane ezisencane kakhulu ziyakuzwa ukungezwani kodlame lwasekhaya futhi zihlushwa imiphumela ngaphandle kwenkolelo yabazali yokuthi zisencane kakhulu ukuba ziqonde ukuthi kwenzekani.
Ukukhula kobuchopho babo kungabekeka engcupheni ngokuhlala ekhaya elihlukumezayo ngenxa yakho konke ukucindezeleka okubekwa emqondweni ozwelayo okhulayo. Futhi lokhu kukhuthazeka kwasekuqaleni kungakha indlela ingane ezosabela ngayo, iziphathe ngayo, futhi icabange ngokuzayo, kukho konke ukuphila kwayo.
Izingane esezifundile zabesifazane abahlukunyezwayo zinendlela yazo yokubhekana nodlame emakhaya. Imvamisa bahlushwa ukumanziswa embhedeni, izinkinga esikoleni, ubunzima bokugxila, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo, ukuphathwa yisisu nokuphathwa yikhanda ... Njengesikhalo sosizo oluvela ezweni langaphandle, ingane evela ekhaya elihlukumezayo ivame ukulingisa.
Ukulingisa kuyigama elivela ku-psychoanalysis futhi ngokuyisisekelo lisho ukuthi, esikhundleni sokubhekisisa okunengqondo okusibangela ukukhathazeka nentukuthelo, sikhetha enye indlela yokuziphatha, imvamisa eyonakalisayo noma eyonakalisayo, futhi sikhiphe ukucindezelwa ngayo.
Ngakho-ke sivame ukubona ingane enonina wayo oyisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa enolaka, elwa, esebenzisa izidakamizwa notshwala, ecekela phansi izinto, njll.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Izimpawu Zokuhlukunyezwa Ngokomzwelo Ezivela Kubazali
Imiphumela yodlame lwasekhaya nganoma yiluphi uhlobo ivame ukufinyelela ebudaleni
Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisile, imiphumela yokukhulela ekhaya lapho kukhona udlame lwasekhaya nganoma yiluphi uhlobo ivame ukufinyelela ebudaleni. Ngeshwa, izingane ezivela emakhaya anjalo zivame ukuba nemiphumela ehlukahlukene, kusuka ezinkingeni zokuziphatha, ngaphezu kokuphazamiseka kwemizwa, kuya ezinkingeni zemishado yazo.
Baningi kakhulu abagcina besezinhlelweni zobulungiswa bobugebengu, imvamisa ngenxa yamacala obugebengu. Abanye baphila impilo yokudana noma yokukhathazeka, imvamisa becabanga ngokuzibulala. Futhi iningi liphinda imishado yabazali babo ebudlelwaneni babo.
Ngokuhlala endaweni lapho kwakujwayelekile ukuthi ubaba ahlukumeze umama, izingane zifunda ukuthi lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile. Futhi kungenzeka bangakhombisi inkolelo enjalo, futhi bangahle babe ngisho nangokuphikisayo baphikisana nayo ... ziyaphindwa.
Abafana bavame ukukhula babe ngamadoda azonqotshwa yisifiso sokuhlukumeza omkabo ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Futhi amantombazane azoba ngabafazi abashaywayo uqobo, alinganise indlela imishado yabo ehluke ngayo kunonina, noma ukufana okungaqondakali. Ubudlova buthathwa njengendlela evumelekile yokubhekana nokukhungatheka.
Kuhlangene nothando nomshado, kwakheka iwebhusayithi enomdlavuza yokuhlukunyezwa okujikelezayo nothando olungashiyi muntu engalimele.
Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa idluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane
Lapho owesifazane eyisisulu sodlame lwasekhaya, lokho akuthinti yena kuphela, kodwa nezingane zakhe, nezingane zezingane zakhe. Iphethini lokuziphatha lidluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, njengoba izifundo zikhombisile kaningi.
Owesifazane ohlukunyezwayo ukhulisa indodakazi ehlukumezekile, futhi udlulisa lokhu kuhlupheka phambili ... Noma kunjalo, lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kube njalo.
Ngokushesha lapho iketanga liphuka kangcono. Uma ukhulele ekhaya lapho ubaba wakho ahlukumeza khona umama wakho, ukhule unomthwalo abanye abaningi okwakungafanele bawuthwale. Kepha akudingeki uphile impilo yakho kanjalo.
Umelaphi uzokusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izinkolelo ongaba nazo eziyimiphumela eqondile yobuntwana bakho, futhi yena uzokuholela enqubweni yokuthola izinkolelo zakho eziyiqiniso ngawe, ukubaluleka kwakho, nokuthi ufuna ukuphila ubuqiniso bakho kanjani life esikhundleni salokho okwabekwa phezu kwakho.