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- 1. Yiba umuntu omdala
- 2. Khetha indawo lapho nizoxoxa khona nobabili
- 3. Mnike ithuba lokukhuluma
- 4. Qeda ngenothi elihle
- 5. Gwema iphutha elilodwa elikhulu
Noma ngabe ubusebudlelwaneni izinyanga ezimbalwa noma iminyaka eminingana, ukuhlukana nentombi yakho akuyona into elula ukwenza. Usenemizwa ngaye, noma ngabe ingeyabangani kuphela, futhi ungowokugcina ofisa ukumzwisa ubuhlungu. Kepha uyazi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo yakho ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubeka.
Ngakho-ke, funda ukuthi ungahlukana kanjani nentombi yakho ngaphandle kokwenza isimo sibe sibi kakhulu kini nobabili.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, awusabheke phambili ukuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho, kanye ne- izinsuku seziyinto ejwayelekile futhi ukuswela inhlansi lokho ekuqaleni kwakukuletha ndawonye. Uzamile ukulungisa izinto, kepha akukho okushintshile.
Ngakho-ke, kunjalo isikhathi sokuvalelisa. Ake sihlole ezinye izindlela zokwehlukana nentombi yakho okuthi, yize ingakaze ibe mnandi, ingenza lokhu kwehlukana kungabi buhlungu kangako.
Okokuqala, ake sizwe kusuka kwabesifazane abambalwa abanezeluleko abangabelana ngazo UNGENZI kanjani ukuhlukana nentombi yakho.
Okulandelayo “okungafanele kwenziwe” ohlwini lwama- “Dos and Don'ts” lapho uhlukana nentombi yakho.
- Ungenzinjeghost intombi yakho. Ufanelwe ukuba yingxenye yengxoxo yokuhlukana.
- Ungahlukani ngocingo, umbhalo, i-imeyili, noma (ukwesabeka) okuguqula isimo sakho se-Facebook sibe “esisodwa”. Lokhu akunanhliziyo nje, ubugwala futhi budelela. Kubonisa ukuntuleka okukhulu kwenhlonipho ngomuntu owake wasondelene naye. Ukwehlukana kufanele kwenziwe mathupha, noma ngabe kunzima kanjani ukuletha lezi zindaba ezimbi ubuso nobuso.
- Ungamvumeli athole ulahlwe ngomunye umuntu. Mtshele ngokwakho.
- Ungaqali ukuthandana nomunye umuntu wesifazane uze ubuqede kahle ubudlelwano bakho nentombi yakho yamanje. Udinga ukuvalwa, futhi naye.
- Ungaqambi amanga. Mtshele izizathu eziyiqiniso zokuhlukana. Ungabi nesihluku, kepha Thembeka.
- Thatha isinyathelo kuqala. Ungenzi into ebuthakathaka ngokuba nolaka, ukumcasula akushiye. Uma uthatha isinqumo seqembu elilodwa sokuhlukana nentombi yakho, hlangana nalesi simo esingemnandi ngqo. Baningi kakhulu abantu besilisa abangenankinga yokwenza lokho, futhi bagcina sebenze kabi ngoba bancamela ukuthi intombi yabo ibashiye kunokuba babe yimbangela yokwehlukana.
Manje, ake sigxile ku- "dos" yokuthi ungahlukana kanjani kahle nentombazane.
Ungahlukana kanjani nentombazane ngaphandle kokuyilimaza
1. Yiba umuntu omdala
Uma umdala ngokwanele ukuba nobudlelwano obunengqondo, umdala ngokwanele ukumisa ubudlelwano ngendlela yabantu abadala.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukulungele ukuba nengxoxo ubuso nobuso nentombi yakho ozoba yintombi yakho maduze.
2. Khetha indawo lapho nizoxoxa khona nobabili
Kungumqondo omuhle ukukhetha indawo engenayo incazelo esindayo yomunye wenu. Kungaba njalo kungabi kuhle ukuhlangana lapho ubenosuku lwakho lokuqala noma esinye isikhala lokho kugcina izinkumbulo ezibalulekile.
Ungahle ungafuni ukuhlukana naye kunoma imaphi amakhaya akho. Khetha indawo engathathi hlangothi lapho okungenzeka ukuthi ungaphazanyiswa abangane noma osebenza nabo. Qiniseka ukuthi ungaba nengxoxo yangasese nokuthi umsindo we-ambient awukho phezulu kakhulu.
3. Mnike ithuba lokukhuluma
Lapho uhlukana nentombi yakho, kubalulekile kuwe ukuthi dlula izizathu zakho, kodwa futhi ake athole ithuba lokukhuluma. Qiniseka ukuthi ulalela izimpendulo zakhe futhi uyavuma ukuthi uyamuzwa.
Uzoba nesidingo sokubhekana nalokhu omtshela khona, futhi kufanele umkweleta ukumvumela aveze imizwa yakhe.
4. Qeda ngenothi elihle
Lungiselela lokho ozokusho ukuze ukwazi khulula lokhu izindaba ezibuhlungu ngomoya ophansi. Qiniseka ukuthi uqala ingxoxo yokuhlukana ngokumkhumbuza ukuthi ngenkathi unezikhathi eziningi ezinhle ebudlelwaneni, unayo wenza isinqumo sokuqeda izinto.
Awudingi ukusebenzisa i-classic ethi “Akusuwe, yimina,” kepha ungasho into efana nalena yokuthi awusenelisi ubudlelwano bakho. Mkhumbuze ukuthi ungumuntu omkhulu nokuthi nisithokozele isikhathi senu ndawonye.
Kepha indaba yakho iphelela lapha futhi konke ongakwenza ukumfisela okuhle kodwa. Gwema noma yikuphi ukuhlaselwa komuntu siqu noma ukugxekwa, iphuzu ukuhlukana kahle ukuze nobabili nikwazi Shona phambili nge umuzwa wokuhloniphana.
5. Gwema iphutha elilodwa elikhulu
Lapho uhlukana nentombi yakho, zama ukugwema ukwenza lelo phutha elilodwa elikhulu elenziwa abantu abaningi lapho behlukana.
"Ngiyethemba ukuthi sisengaba abangane." Okwakho ukuhlukana kudingeka kube okokugcina, ngakho ukuthembisa ubungane besikhathi esizayo kungaba yingozi. Kungadukisa intombi yakho icabange ukuthi ngelinye ilanga ningabuyelana. Kungaba yingozi kuwe njengoba ufisa ukuqala impilo entsha, engenazo izibopho zobudlelwano obudala.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uma usuqala ukuphola futhi, intombi entsha ngeke ikuthande ukuthi ulondoloze ubungani nentombi yakho yakudala.
Ngakho-ke ungathembisi ukuthi nizohlala ningabangane. Akuvamile ukuthi kusizakale noma yiliphi iqembu. Ukwehlukana kudinga ukucaciswa, okokugcina, kuhlanzeke futhi kucace. Noma yini enye iyasibhidliza lesi simo futhi yenze izinto zibe nzima kunalokho eziyikho vele.
Yiba yisoka lelo azolikhumbula njalo ngothando, noma izinto zingahambanga ekugcineni.