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- 1. Ukugxila ebudlelwaneni
- 2. Ukuthola ekhasini elifanayo noma okungenani ukwazi umehluko wakho
- 3. Ukwakha uhlelo lomdlalo
- 4. Ukucaca emiyalezweni yomshado
- 5. Ukutshala imali emshadweni wakho
Njengomeluleki wezobudlelwano nomqeqeshi, ngikuthola kujabulisa ukuthi abantu bazimisele ukuchitha imali engaka, isikhathi namandla amakhulu emshadweni. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngomshado, bavame ukulahlekelwa ukugxila futhi bangatshali imali emshadweni.
Sinomshado wokubungaza umshado hhayi nje ukuba nephathi enkulu, akunjalo? Uma ushada, yenza ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado kube yingxenye yesabelomali sakho somshado nomshado. Ukutshala imali ebudlelwaneni bakho kungakhokha izinzuzo ekwanelisekeni emshadweni.
Kunabantu abacabanga, “Kumele kube nezinkinga” ikakhulukazi uma izithandani zizokwelulekwa ngaphambi kokuba zishade! Ukwelulekwa ngokomqondo kunenhlamba enkulu nanamuhla. Kepha ukwelulekwa kwezithandani kuyindawo yokufunda nokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano.
Ubudlelwano bususelwa kwisayensi futhi iningi lethu alikaze lifundiswe (kubandakanya nami ngize ngiqeqeshwe njengomeluleki wabashadikazi) ukuthi "bungabenziwa" kanjani ubudlelwano. Uma lokho kwenzeka, abantu abaningi bebezoyolulekwa ngaphambi kokuthi izinto zibe "zimbi".
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Ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado yinto abantu abambalwa kakhulu abenza kuyo, bengazi ukuthi ingasiza kakhulu.
Ake sibheke izinzuzo ezi-5 ongazithola ngokululekwa ngaphambi komshado:
1. Ukugxila ebudlelwaneni
Ngaphambi kokushada, isikhathi sakho esigxile kakhulu ekuhlelweni komshado hhayi komunye nomunye.
Kunokuningi kakhulu okuhilelekile nemininingwane eminingi okufanele uyicabangele, uyihlele futhi unqume. Lokhu kubeka ubudlelwano kusishisi sangemuva. Lapho uguqula ukugxila ebudlelwaneni uphinde uxhumane nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yini ebalulekile kini nobabili.
2. Ukuthola ekhasini elifanayo noma okungenani ukwazi umehluko wakho
Imibhangqwana eminingi icabanga ukuthi isekhasini elilodwa uma kukhulunywa ngezinto ezibalulekile ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke lapho i-Push ifika ukushova lokho akuhlali kunjalo.
Ubudlelwano bungaba nzima futhi lapho ushada emndenini womunye umuntu, izinto kwesinye isikhathi zingaba nzima kakhulu. Imindeni ayiboni ngaso linye kukho konke. Abazali bakho bangacela ukuthi uchithe njalo ngoKhisimusi nabo futhi nabazali bomlingani wakho nabo bangafuna okufanayo.
Ukunquma ukuthi uzohlukanisa kanjani isikhathi ngamaholide kungenye yezihloko eziningi (ezezimali, ukunakekelwa kwabantwana, indlela yokukhulisa izingane, indlela yokunakekela abazali asebekhulile, imisebenzi yasendlini, izindima, njll.) Ungaqala ukuhlola nokuxazulula ekwelulekeni ngaphambi komshado.
3. Ukwakha uhlelo lomdlalo
Wonke amaqembu ezemidlalo aphumelelayo anomqeqeshi nohlelo lomdlalo ngakho-ke nayo yonke imishado ephumelelayo. Umeluleki wakho womshado ungumqeqeshi wakho, ekuqondisa wena nomlingani wakho emshadweni ophumelelayo.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ithi, “Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngangikwazi lokho ngaphambi kokuba sishade.” Ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado kulungiselela imibhangqwana isivunguvungu ngohlelo lomdlalo ngaphambi kokuthi luhlasele ngokuxoxa ngezinto imibhangqwana engabhekana nayo njengokuntuleka kwemisebenzi noma inkinga ebingalindelekile engazelelwe.
Lapho unohlelo oluhle lomdlalo endaweni yokuthi ungasingatha kanjani leyo micimbi, uyazi ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo okufanele uzithathe nokuthi uzophendula kanjani, kunokuba usabele.
4. Ukucaca emiyalezweni yomshado
Sonke sikhule sithola uhlobo oluthile lwemiyalezo ngomshado nobudlelwano, noma ngabe abazali bethu babeshadile, behlukanisile, noma bengashadile. Sikuthathe konke nathi okuhle, okubi noma ukungakhathaleli.
Ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado kukuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukuthi uletha ini emshadweni wakho nokuthi kuhlangana kanjani nalokho okulethwa ngumlingani wakho emshadweni. Lapho wenza ukuqwashisa ngale milayezo kufihliwe noma kucace uthola isinqumo sokuthi ufuna umshado wakho ube kanjani.
5. Ukutshala imali emshadweni wakho
Njengoba nje utshala imali ngekusasa lakho nekusasa lakho, qiniseka ukuthi utshala imali emshadweni wakho. Ingenye yezinto eziyigugu kakhulu onayo. Lapho sicindezelekile ebudlelwaneni bethu impilo iba nengcindezi enkulu. Lapho sijabule ebudlelwaneni bethu impilo iba ngcono.
Ukusebenza nomeluleki wemibhangqwana eqeqeshiwe ngaphambi kokuba nishade kukuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukuthi yini “ongayifaka ebudlelwaneni” ongayenza ebhange lakho lezingulube elingokomzwelo, noma ngabe kuqhubeka ubusuku obubodwa kanye ngenyanga, nenzela abanye izinto ezincane, nifeze amaphupho ndawonye noma nje ukunaka kwakho okuhlukanisiwe.