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- YENZA: Yakha ukwethembana ngokuxhumana
- UNGENZI: Yesaba ukukhuluma ngezihloko ezibalulekile
- YENZA: Naka izinkomba ezingasho lutho
- UNGENZI: Xoxa ngezinto ezibalulekile ngombhalo
- INGENZA: Yazi ukuphikisana
- MUSA: Khohlwa ukulalela
- YENZA: Hlala unethemba
- UNGENZI: Qamba amanga
- YENZA: Zijwayeze zonke izinhlobo zokuxhumana
Abantu abaningi bayazi ukuthi ukuba nokuxhumana okuqinile kuyisici esibalulekile kubo bonke ubudlelwano, kepha hhayi wonke umuntu uthatha isikhathi sokufunda lokho okudingwa ngumlingani wakhe ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Ukungaqondi kahle umlingani wakho nokugodlelana izinto kungaholela ekucasukeni nasenkingeni ejwayelekile yokungajabuli ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kungakho ukufunda ukufunda omunye nomunye kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni ubunye obujabulisayo nobunempilo.
Ukuxhumana okuqinile kuhlanganisa zonke izisekelo: ukuphepha ngokomzwelo, ukuxhumana ngamazwi nangamazwi, nokusondelana ngokomzimba. Konke lokhu kubalulekile ukuze kulondolozwe umshado ohlala njalo. Nayi into ongayenza nongafanele ukuyenza yokuxhumana okuqinile nomlingani wakho nezizathu zokuthi ukuqonda omunye nomunye kuzokuzuzisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
YENZA: Yakha ukwethembana ngokuxhumana
Ukwethemba kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Kwakha ukwethembeka futhi kwenza umlingani wakho abe umugqa wokusekelwa othembekile. Enye indlela yokwakha ukwethenjwa ukuxhumana njalo.
Uma ungakaze ubuze, awusoze wazi. Sebenzisa lesi siqubulo ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi ungene nomlingani wakho ngemicabango yabo, ukukhathazeka, nemizwa yabo mayelana nokuthi ubuhlobo buhamba kanjani. Ukukhulumisana nomlingani wakho ngezinkinga, imicabango, ukwesaba, nokuthanda kuzokuvumela ukuthi unikeze futhi wamukele ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo okuthuthukisa ukwethembana nokuphepha. Lapho usungakwazi ukukhuluma ngayo yonke into nomngane wakho womshado, ukuxhumana kwakho kuzoqina nakakhulu nalowo muntu. Ngakho-ke, khuluma!
UNGENZI: Yesaba ukukhuluma ngezihloko ezibalulekile
Ukuxhumana okuqinile ebudlelwaneni kusho ukuvuleleka futhi uthembeke ngempilo yakho yezocansi. Ucansi luyingxenye enkulu yanoma yibuphi ubudlelwano, futhi ukuchezuka esihlokweni kungashiya imishado eminingi isenkingeni. Imibhangqwana eminingi ikuthola kuwusizo ukuxoxa ngokungagunci ngokuthi ingathanda kangakanani ukusondelana ndawonye, nokuthi yini eyenza isipiliyoni sibajabulise kakhulu. Akufanele neze uzizwe uphoxekile ngokuxoxa ngezinye izihloko ezibalulekile nomlingani wakho, njengezinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo zokuqala umndeni noma ukukhathazeka kwezezimali kwakho.
YENZA: Naka izinkomba ezingasho lutho
Ukuxhumana okuhle kakhulu nomlingani wakho kusho okungaphezu kokuba nengxoxo. Kusho ukunaka izinkomba ezingakhulumi nokukhuluma komzimba. Bheka izimpawu ezifana nebanga elingokomzwelo, izingalo ezisongiwe, ukungathintwa kwamehlo, umoya ojwayelekile wokucindezeleka, noma izinkulumo nezenzo ezicasulayo. Kungathatha isikhashana ukufunda izinkomba zomlingani wakho ezingasho lutho, kepha lapho uxhuma ngokwengeziwe kuzoba lula ukuzibona futhi lithuthuke ikhono lakho lokuxhumana.
UNGENZI: Xoxa ngezinto ezibalulekile ngombhalo
Ukuxhumana kuyithuluzi elihle lokuba nobudlelwano obunempilo, kepha kufanele ukwenze kahle. Isibonelo, ukuthumela imiyalezo kuyindlela enhle yokuthola ukuthi nobabili nizizwa kanjani ngesidlo sakusihlwa noma ukuthi iyiphi i-movie enizoyibamba kulo Lwesihlanu ebusuku, kepha akufanele neze ibe yindlela yokuxoxa ngezinkinga ezinkulu. Lokho kufanele kwenziwe mathupha.
Ukudlulisa imicabango nemizwa yakho kungabonakala kungesabisa kakhulu ngombhalo ngoba akunabuntu. Kepha ngokufunda amagama esibukweni ulahlekelwa ithoni nokuqukethwe kwezinye izingxoxo. Lokhu kungaholela ekungaqondisisini nasezingxabanweni ebezingagwemeka ngenye indlela ngokushaya ucingo olulula noma ukukhuluma ubuso nobuso.
INGENZA: Yazi ukuphikisana
Ukuba nezimpikiswano empeleni kungaba nempilo emibhangqwaneni, inqobo nje uma unesimo esifanele ngazo. Ukukhulumisana okuhle ebudlelwaneni kusho ukwazi ukuthi, futhi kanjani, ukuphikisana. Ukwazi isikhathi sokuphikisana kusho ukuthatha isikhathi sokuba wedwa lapho zombili izinhlangothi zinesikhathi esanele sokuzinikela odabeni olusondele.
Ukwazi ukuthi ungaphikisana kanjani kusho ukuthi ungalokothi uhambe ngejugular. Ukuphikisana akumele kube wukubeka phansi umlingani wakho, futhi futhi akufanele kwenziwe ngezemidlalo. Esikhundleni sokuhlaselwa, hlanganani ngenhloso yokulungisa inkinga. Ngaso sonke isikhathi beka inkinga engxenyeni eyakhayo bese uveza umbono wakho ngenhlonipho ngaphandle kokumemeza noma uthathe isibhamu kumlingani wakho.
MUSA: Khohlwa ukulalela
Akekho othanda ukuzizwa sengathi imicabango yabo nokukhathazeka kwabo akuzwakali. Ingxenye eyodwa ebalulekile yokuxhumana okuqinile ebudlelwaneni ukufunda ukuthi kufanele ukhulume nini futhi ulalele nini. Yizwa ukukhathazeka komlingani wakho bese uthola umbono wabo ngezihloko nezinqumo ngaphambi kokujaha ukwahlulela. Thatha isikhathi sokulalela, lokhu kuzosiza ukuvimbela ukungaqondi kahle noma ukufaka amagama emlonyeni womlingani wakho.
YENZA: Hlala unethemba
Ukuxhumana kuyaqina lapho ophathina bekhuluma ngezihloko, ezibucayi noma ezingejwayelekile, benesimo sengqondo esihle. Khumbula ukuthi ngisho nemibhangqwana ejabule kakhulu ibhekana nobunzima bayo. Ubudlelwano bufana nama-roller-coasters: kwesinye isikhathi buyethusa, kwesinye isikhathi buyajabulisa.
Gcina ubudlelwano bakho busesimweni esihle ngokuba namahlaya, ukhombise umusa nokwazisa ngomlingani wakho, nibungaze okufeziwe omunye nomunye, futhi ninikeze ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo lapho kungenzeka khona.
UNGENZI: Qamba amanga
Thembeka komunye nomunye. Ngaphandle kobuqotho, ukuxhumana akuphumeleli ebudlelwaneni. Ukwethembeka kusho ukwethembeka, ukuthembeka, nokuvuma ukuba neqiniso mayelana nokuthi yini esebenzayo nokuthi yini engekho ebudlelwaneni. Vele, ukwethembeka kungalimaza kwesinye isikhathi, kepha uma usheshe uvule noma ikuphi ukungabaza okwenzekayo ebudlelwaneni ungasheshe usebenzele ukulungisa isimo.
Ukwethembeka njalo kuyinqubomgomo ehamba phambili. Ngokwethembeka komunye nomunye ukhombisa ukuthi ungathenjelwa ekwenzeni okuhle.
YENZA: Zijwayeze zonke izinhlobo zokuxhumana
Ukuxhumana kusho okungaphezu kokuba nezingxoxo zeviki zonke nezingxoxo ezijulile ndawonye. Kusho ukwabelana ngempilo yakho omunye nomunye ngamazwi nangenye indlela. Ubuchwepheshe bukuvumela ukuthi uxhumane ngokungaguquguquki usuku lonke. Khombisa umlingani wakho omkhathalelayo ngokuthumela umyalezo omnandi noma ohlekisayo, i-FaceTime, noma i-imeyili.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izenzo zikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuqinisa ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni kusho ukuba nothando lomzimba. Xhumana ngokomzimba ngokuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okusondelene ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Ukubambana ngezandla, ukwangana, nokuqabulana zonke izindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuqinisa ukuxhumana kwakho okungenamlomo.