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- Silindele ukuthi indoda ibe yodwa kodwa kungabi nasenzo
- Ubulili obungathandeki
- Kuyinkinga yakhe
- Ukuntuleka kokusondelana emshadweni kungaba ngenxa yezizathu eziningi
- Ungazilungisa kanjani izinkinga zokusondelana emshadweni
Njengowesifazane osemusha ofisayo onamaphupho nezinhloso okufanele azifeze empilweni yakho, into yokugcina oyifunayo ngumuntu noma okuthile okukubambile. Izinkinga zokusondelana ebudlelwaneni ngenye yezinto ezinjalo ezingathinta impilo yakho kabi.
Kuba buhlungu kakhulu lapho lowo muntu ekubambe phansi eba ngumyeni / umyeni wakho. Yize kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani engafuni uphumelele noma uqhubekele phambili empilweni, into ejwayelekile; ukusondelana ezinkingeni zomshado.
Ukusondelana akusebenzi nje kwezocansi kuphela, kepha ukuqonda okujulile komuntu ozochitha naye impilo yakho yonke. Ngaphandle kokusondelana emshadweni, kuyisivumelwano nje esinemiphumela yezomthetho.
Kodwa-ke, lapho kukhona ukusondelana emshadweni, kungenye yemizwa emihle kakhulu umuntu angayicela. Okubaluleke ngokulinganayo ukuqonda izinkinga zokusondelana emshadweni, ngakho-ke ungazinciphisa ku-bud, ngaphambi kokuba zikhule ebudlelwaneni zibushiye buthakathaka futhi busengozini.
Ake sibukeze okunye kokusondelana okuvame kakhulu ezinkingeni zomshado okufanele ukugweme ukuze ube nokuphila okwanelisayo nokujabulisayo!
Izinkinga zokusondelana 101
Silindele ukuthi indoda ibe yodwa kodwa kungabi nasenzo
Uma ulindele ukuthi umlingani wakho ahlale ethembekile emshadweni wakho, kufanele uzimisele ukubanika isizathu sokuthembeka. Umlingani wakho unesabelo sakhe sezidingo zocansi futhi kufanele zigcwaliseke.
Enye yezinkinga zokusondelana ukungahambisani kahle nezidingo kanye nezifiso, lapho unkosikazi egwema ukusondelana futhi indoda inesifiso sokuya ocansini oluphakeme noma ngakolunye uhlangothi, umyeni angahle abe nenkinga yokusondelana okwenza kube nzima ngaye ukwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze nonkosikazi wakhe.
Ngabe ubudlelwane bungaphila ngaphandle kokusondelana? Ukusondelana kuyitshe legumbi lanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obuchumayo. Ukuntuleka kokusondelana emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni kuzofanele kwehluleke, noma ngabe bobabili abalingani bazama ukusinda emshadweni ongena ocansini.
Uma ulala ucansi nomlingani wakho, lokhu kungaholela ekutheni bafune kwenye indawo ukuze bagcwaliseke.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, umshado uba yingcindezi esikhundleni sokuphumula, njengoba ukungezwani okuqhubekayo phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho kukhula kuphela kungekho senzo.
Izindaba ezifana nokusondelana zingabucekela phansi ubudlelwano futhi zenze omunye wabalingani azihlukanise, ahlakulele ukwesaba ukusondelana noma ukugwema ukusondelana.
Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngakho ngenhliziyo evulekile futhi nixoxe ngezidingo zakho. Batshele ukuthi izidingo zakho zombili zingokomzwelo nezocansi, futhi ukuthola induduzo ngocansi kweminye imithombo ngeke kuholele ekusekelweni ngokomoya.
Ubulili obungathandeki
Kwenzeka kithi sonke ezimpilweni zethu futhi kuyisimo nje okufanele ubhekane naso. Kwesinye isikhathi ulele futhi umlingani wakho uvuswa ngokungazelelwe ngo-3 ekuseni.
Kwesinye isikhathi nobabili nikhuluma ngento ebucayi futhi ngomzuzu olandelayo baphezu kwakho, bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuzoxazulula zonke izinkinga emhlabeni. Ukungena emshadweni kusho ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho senishade ngokusemthethweni futhi noma yini eniyenzayo empilweni yakho yezocansi komunye nomunye iyavumeleka.
Lokho, noma kunjalo, akuniki noma ngubani ilayisensi yokweqa umdlalo wangaphambili nengxoxo esondelene futhi aqale khona lapho nobulili. Khumbula ukuthi ucansi lwanelisa umzimba wakho kuphela, uthando lwalo kanye ne-foreplay eyenelisa umphefumulo!
Kuyinkinga yakhe
Kuhlala kuyinkinga yakhe, akunjalo?
Kungenye yokusondelana okuvame kakhulu futhi okungajwayelekile ezinkingeni zomshado futhi okuhlobene kakhulu nombono wabesifazane. Lapho uzama ukukhulelwa, kepha ungakwazi, kungaba yinkinga yengqondo yakho nobabili.
Noma ngabe umyeni wakho wake wazala ingane esikhathini esedlule, lokho akusho ukuthi ngokuzenzekelayo basenamandla. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kungcono ukuthi uhlolwe ngokuphelele ukuze uthole ukuthi ngubani onenkinga. Yize kungahle kungayixazululi inkinga, kuzosiza nobabili ukuthi nibone izinkinga zomzimba ezithinta impilo yenu yezocansi.
Ukuntuleka kokusondelana emshadweni kungaba ngenxa yezizathu eziningi
Izinguquko zeHormonal, ukuya esikhathini, ukungasebenzi ngokocansi, ukwesaba ukusondelana ngokocansi, ukuncipha kwempilo yezocansi ngenxa yokuguga noma ukulahlekelwa ukuxhumana nomlingani kungashiya umshado wakho usesimeni sokuxakaniseka.
Uma wena nomlingani wakho nilwa nezinkinga zokusondelana emshadweni, kufanele nibe nemiphumela yokungekho ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni futhi nisebenzele ukulungisa izindaba zokusondelana emshadweni ngokuxoxa omunye nomunye, noma ngokufuna usizo ngendlela yokwelashwa kocansi okusemthethweni umelaphi ochwepheshe. Funda futhi, Ukuzivocavoca Ngomsebenzi Wasekhaya Wocansi.
Ungazilungisa kanjani izinkinga zokusondelana emshadweni
- Beka eceleni indawo ye- "tech free / no phone" komunye nomunye. Ukuthimula noma (ukufonela umlingani wakho ngocingo) kunomthelela omkhulu ekuntulekeni kokusondelana ebudlelwaneni.
- Phindani “usuku lwenu lokuqala” njengezithandani ukukhumbula usuku olwasusa izimpukane phakathi kwenu nobabili. Phinda wenze usuku lwakho lokuqala ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, usuku lokuzalwa lomlingani wakho noma cishe nganoma yiluphi usuku ukuphindaphinda injabulo efanayo.
- Ukunikeza umlingani wakho massage ukubasiza baphumule futhi babhekane nengcindezi kunganikela kakhulu enhlalakahleni yomzimba kanye nengqondo. Sebenzani njengeqembu, futhi nikhulise ukusondelana nobudlelwano bokuqina ngokubhucunga.
- Akukho ukusondelana emshadweni? Ukubuza umlingani wakho ngezinselelo zabo zansuku zonke noma ukunqoba kwabo emsebenzini / ekhaya, futhi ukukhombisa ukunakwa okugcwele lapho bephendula, kungenza izimangaliso zokunqoba izingqinamba zokusondelana ngokomzimba. Ngale ndlela, ophathina bazizwa bephephile ukuveza ubuthakathaka babo futhi bazizwe besekelwa.
- Ungayisiza kanjani indoda ngezinkinga zokusondelana? Phula inqubo yakho. I-Monotony yi-buzzkill yokugcina ekamelweni lokulala. Vakashela izindawo ezintsha ndawonye, nwebisa ama-horizons akho amasiko, futhi uhlangane nabantu abasha. Zama ukukhuthaza ukusondelana ngokwakha izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokusondelana njengokukhulumisana, ubuhlakani, okomzwelo noma okocansi ebuhlotsheni.
- Bheka noma yikuphi izimpawu zezinkinga zokusondelana njenge ukuzethemba okuphansi, izingqinamba zokuzethemba, izingqinamba zentukuthelo, ukulutha okuyimfihlo, ukuhlukumezeka kobudlelwano bangaphambilini, ukuhlanya, noma ukucindezeleka. Uma okunye kwalokhu kuzwakala kabusha, ungabe usaqhubeka nokuhlala emshadweni ongenalo ucansi, unethemba lokuthi izinto zizonyukela phezulu. Vakashela umelaphi wezocansi ongakusiza ukunqoba izinkinga zokusondelana emshadweni.
Uma uphola nothile ngokwesaba ukusondelana noma ushade nomuntu onenkinga yokusondelana, zama ukukhuluma ngalezi zinkinga ngezikhathi ezingashisi lapho imizwa yakho isesimeni esifanele.
Yiba nozwelo esikhundleni sokuzidabukela, uzizwe unesihe somlingani wakho noma ohlukunyezwayo.
Funa ukuqonda futhi ungasoli ukunqoba izinkinga zokusondelana nokuqinisekisa ukuthi awushiywanga uphazamisekile ngokomoya futhi uhlukanisiwe nomlingani wakho.