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Uyini ukhiye olahlekile obaluleke kunazo zonke, emhlabeni wokuqomisana, emhlabeni wobudlelwano?
Baningi-ke abantu abafuna ukuthola uthando olujulile.
Abanye bafuna ukuthatha ubudlelwane babo bamanje bangene enkundleni ezinikele kakhulu futhi ethokozisayo.
Futhi abanye bazama ukuthola ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukugcina ubuhlobo babo bamanje.
Manje yini eshodayo kuzo zonke lezi zimo?
Kule minyaka engama-30 eyedlule, umbhali, umeluleki, umphathi we-Life Coach, noNgqongqoshe uDavid Essel, bebelokhu besiza abantu nabashadikazi ukuthi baqonde izinyathelo ezinqala ezidala ukwakha ubudlelwano bothando obumangalisayo.
Ngezansi, uDavid wabelana ngemicabango yakhe kukhiye ongekho ukuthi uma sesibambe kuwo, kuzokwenza ubudlelwane bube lula kakhulu.
Ukhiye ongekho
“Uma ucabanga ngothando, ucabangani wena?
Iningi labantu licabanga ngemizwa. Isifiso. Ukuhambisana. Inkanuko noma izifiso zocansi. Inzalo.
Abanye bazokwelula lokhu futhi bafake uzwelo, ukuxhumana, nokuningi.
Kepha kukhona okushodayo uma kukhulunywa ngokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo!
Futhi ukuthi kukhona okushodayo okuzokumangaza.
Encwadini yethu entsha ethengisa kakhulu, "Izimfihlo zothando nobudlelwano ... Lokho wonke umuntu adinga ukukwazi!"
Ngingena emininingwaneni emikhulu ngikhuluma ngesixhumanisi esilahlekile, izixhumanisi ezingekho, nokuthi yini okudingeka siyenze ukudala uhlobo oluhlukile lothando kulo mhlaba.
Eminyakeni yethu engama-40 yesipiliyoni, sibonile ukuthi ama-80% wobudlelwano awunampilo.
Funda lokho futhi.
Ama-80% wobudlelwano awunampilo!
Futhi kungani kunjalo? Ingasebenza kusuka ekuluthweni iye ekucabangeni, ekusweleni, ekuziphatheni okunolaka, ukulawula, ukubusa, ukuthembela kokunye, nokuningi.
Abantu bahlala bebambekile ebudlelwaneni ngoba abafuni ukuba bodwa.
Abantu bahlala bebambekile ebudlelwaneni ngoba abazizwa bekufanelekele okungcono kunalokho abanakho njengamanje.
Kepha kukhona okushodayo!
Manje yini ... Yini eshodayo kubo bonke lobu budlelwano obungenampilo obungenza umehluko wangempela emhlabeni wempilo?
Okushodayo ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo kuyinsakavukela ebudlelwaneni obunempilo.
Futhi yini leyo nto? Ingqondo.
O, Nkosi yami, ngiyezwa ukumemeza kusuka kuvulandi manje.
“David, Uthando kumele luqhakambise imizwa ngaphezu komqondo ... David, uzama ukusibambezela futhi ungavumeli izinhliziyo zethu zivuleke ... David, uthando lumayelana nokuzizwa ukhanga, ukuhambisana nokukhetha. imizwa ngaphezulu komqondo ... Sicela ungalethi logic kulokhu; kuzokonakala konke okumnandi! "
Ngabe uyahlangana namazwana angenhla mayelana ne-logic vs. imizwa ebudlelwaneni?
I-Logic vs. imizwelo
Uma usebudlelwaneni obungenampilo, noma ngabe ufuna ukuvuma noma cha, amanye amazwana angenhla avumeleke ngokwedlulele ngokuthi kungani ukubo budlelwane be-crap.
Kepha kuthiwani ngama-20% emibhangqwana enobudlelwano obunempilo?
Yilapho-ke lapho sathola khona imininingwane yethu ebaluleke kakhulu, engaphezu kweminyaka engama-40 eyedlule, ngokuqhathanisa ama-80% ezithandani ezinobudlelwano obungenampilo uma kuqhathaniswa nama-20% akulezo ezinempilo.
Futhi umehluko kulula ukuwubona: kunengqondo.
Lapho abantu bethandana, bavumela izinhliziyo zabo ukuthi ziphazamise umqondo wabo, bavumela izifiso zabo zocansi zingene emqondweni, futhi bavumela nokuzimela kwabo, njengokwesaba ukuba wedwa ukuthi kungene emqondweni.
Kepha ukuqonda kunempendulo! I-logic nemizwa, lapho kuhlanganisiwe, kuyimpendulo yokwakha lobo budlelwano obunamandla obunamandla obuningi iningi lethu elifisa futhi elilahlekile.
Ngakho-ke ngomqondo, ngaphambi kokuthi siqale nokuthandana, siyazazi izici zomuntu ongeke wasisebenzela.
Kungakhathaleki ukuthi yini enye abayiletha etafuleni, uma benabanye babulali bethu besivumelwano, ngeke sithenge ngobuhlanya bokucindezela lokho esaziyo ukuthi kuyiqiniso, okusisebenzelayo noma okungakusebenzeli thina eceleni ngenxa yokuthi ... Banomzimba omuhle ... Banemali eningi ... Banamandla ... Noma bayazithoba futhi bazokwenza noma yini esiyicelayo.
Ukuhlanganisa i-logic nemizwa
Kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene esilinganisela ngazo, sizithethelela ngokuhlala, noma ukungena ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo.
Kepha uma uhlanganisa i-logic nemizwa, uzokwakha izindaba zothando ezimangalisayo.
Kepha empeleni, bambalwa kuphela abantu abazi ukuthi bangancipha kangakanani ngokomzwelo futhi babe nengqondo. Ucwaningo luphethe nokuthi imizwa ingaba nomthelela omkhulu ekucabangeni kwethu okunengqondo ezicini ezahlukahlukene zempilo yethu.
Silalelwe kakhulu ekufundeni amanoveli othando, ama-movie othando, izindatshana zikamagazini ezikhuluma ngokuthola "umphefumulo" wakho, "kanye nengcindezi yokuthola" umphefumulo "wakho," ikakhulukazi njengoba ukhula, yanda kakhulu.
Ngenxa yalokhu lapho sifaka umqondo ngokuqhathanisa nomzwelo, umqondo uphuma ngokuphelele ngefasitela!
Isidingo sethu ... Ukwesaba kwethu ukuba sodwa ... Ukufuna kwethu ukwamukelwa ngumphakathi ngoba manje "sinophathina."
Ake sinciphise ijubane.
Uma ubheka ubudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini futhi bugcwele idrama nezinxushunxushu, okungabaningi bethu, finyelela kochwepheshe namuhla ukuze uthole ukuqala kokuthi udinga kanjani ukushintsha izinkolelo zakho, ingqondo yakho kanye nengqondo enganakile ukuhlelela ukudala uhlobo oluhlukile lothando ngokuzayo.
Sinikeza i- “jumpstart, iseshini yokwelulekwa yemizuzu engama-30”, kubantu abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba ngocingo kanye ne-Skype ukubasiza okungenani baqale inqubo yokuhlola izinkolelo zabo, nokuthi bangaletha kanjani ukuqonda okuningi emhlabeni ukuphola, uthando, nobudlelwano.
Ngiyazi ukuthi ngingakusiza, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi uzokujabulela ukwenza lo msebenzi. ”