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- Umehluko phakathi kobudlelwano bokuncika kanye nobokuncika
- Kuyini ukubaluleka komuntu ebuhlotsheni kuchaza ukuncika
- Ngokwesibonelo
- Kungani ubudlelwane obunikezanayo buhle
- 1. Imingcele
- 2. Ubungqayizivele
- 3. Ukusebenzisana
- 4. Ukuphendula
- 5. Ukubekezela nokubekezelelana
- 6. Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo
- Ungaba kanjani umuntu wakho ebudlelwaneni
Ukuncika ngencazelo kusho amaqembu amabili noma ngaphezulu athembele komunye nomunye ukusekelana. Ubudlelwano be-Symbiotic njengalobo bukhona emvelweni futhi bavela baba ngabantu. Ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuncika phakathi kwabashadikazi kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni indawo ephephile futhi ezwakalayo kubo bobabili abalingani nezingane zabo uma benakho.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, uphilile ubudlelwane babantu kukhona ngokususelwa ekuncikaneni. Izimpi ziyavinjelwa, futhi ukuchuma phakathi kwemiphakathi kwakhula ngokuhweba okwathembanayo.
Kepha ubudlelwane obuncikile phakathi kwezithandani yikhona okuningi uhlobo oluyisisekelo nolusondelene lobudlelwano abantu ababili othandweni bangaba.
Kodwa kuyini ukuncika komunye nomunye? Futhi yini echaza ubudlelwane obuncikile? Ngabe ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuncikelana kuyifanele inkinga? Lapho abantu ababili bethembela komunye nomunye ngezifiso zabo zomzimba, ezingokomzwelo nezezwe, khona-ke lo mbhangqwana uzuze ubudlelwane obunempilo bokuncika.
Umehluko phakathi kobudlelwano bokuncika kanye nobokuncika
Ekuboneni kokuqala, kubukeka sengathi bayinto efanayo. Kepha inzuzo yokubambisana iyona echaza ukuncika.
Ukuncika ngokubambisana, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyinto ubudlelwane obungasebenzi kahle kuphi omunye uzakwethu uthembele ngokweqile komunye, ngenkathi omunye umlingani esebenzisa lokho kuncika ekukhohliseni nasekulawuleni ngokomzwelo.
Ukuncika kuyinto nika-futhi-uthathe uhlobo lokuhlelwa ngenkathi i-codependency ifana kakhulu nokuhlelwa kwezigqila eziyinhloko. Inani lomuntu siqu ebudlelwaneni nalo lihlukile. Abancikene sibonane njengoba abalingani abalinganayo. Ngenkathi kuchazwa incwadi yezobudlelwano bokuncika, akunjalo.
Bonke ubudlelwano obuxhomeke ngokomzwelo banezifiso eziqinile ezihambisana nokwanelisa isidingo sozakwethu ukufeza esabo. Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalokhu ukuthi umlingani ngamunye umazisa kanjani owakwakhe.
Kuyini ukubaluleka komuntu ebuhlotsheni kuchaza ukuncika
Nakhu akunanjongo yokuba nobuhlobo obuseduze uma zikhona azikho izinzuzo ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba umuntu unikeza futhi amukele kumlingani wakhe. Ngakho-ke lokho kunikeziwe.
Ukuthembela okulinganayo kungumongo wencazelo yobudlelwano obuncikile.
Uma kunokuphambuka encazelweni yokuthi “ukuthembela” noma “ukulingana”, khona-ke inokwakheka kobudlelwano obungenampilo.
Uma omunye umlingani engathembeli komunye njengakwabalingani babo, lapho-ke kukwanda ukungalingani, ubuhlobo bunobuthi obuningi. Ukuthembela nakho kuyini ichaza inani labantu elibonakalayo nginothize engithandananaye.
Inani elibonwayo alifani nokubaluleka kwalowo muntu.
Abanye abantu kakhulu yazisa umlingani ohlukumeza futhi angabanaki. Kukhona nabanye abantu abathatha abalingani ababakhathalelayo njengabancane.
Inani lomuntu akuyona into kuphela ebalulekile.
Amanani abashadikazi abathandekayo njengenhlangano eyodwa, nawo abaluleke ngokulinganayo, kodwa umdlalo webhola ohluke ngokuphelele. Izinto eziza kuqala njengokuthi umsebenzi / ibhalansi yempilo (noma ukungalingani), noma kwabo izibopho zenhlalo nezenkolo nazo zibalulekile.
Ngokwesibonelo
Kungabonakala sengathi abesifazane baphathwa kabi kweminye imiphakathi yendabuko yaseMpumalanga, yamaNdiya, noma yamaSulumane. Kodwa-ke, lokho kumane nje kuyimbono yemiphakathi yenkululeko yasentshonalanga. Emehlweni abo, bafeza indima yabo efanelekile njengonkosikazi nelungu lomphakathi.
Abaningi amanani abalulekile ebudlelwaneni kukhona hhayi lokho abanye abakwahlulela, kodwa yini eyenza izithandani zijabule. Kungakho ubudlelwano bokuzimela bukhona, noma ngabe babonakala bunobuthi kanjani kwabanye abangaphandle kwebhokisi.
Kungani ubudlelwane obunikezanayo buhle
Noma singafuni ukwahlulela ukuncika okungalingani ebudlelwaneni, kepha sikhuthaza ukwakhiwa ubudlelwane obuncikile njengoba ilungele imibhangqwana yesimanje.
Ukulingana eceleni, nazi ezinye izici zobudlelwano bokuncika ongazithola zithakazelisa.
1. Imingcele
Ozakwethu bathembelekomunye nomunye ebudlelwaneni obuncikene, kepha ngamunye usengowakhe uqobo. Kunjalo ukhululekile ukuphishekela yabo imigomo yomuntu siqu futhi izinto zokuzilibazisa lokho ngeke kulimaze ubudlelwano.
2. Ubungqayizivele
Umlingani ngamunye uvunyelwe ukukhula ngokwentando yakhe.
Ukukhula kwabo uqobo akushiwo ubudlelwano babo noma abalingani babo. Umuntu ngu bakhululekile ukuzithuthukisa futhi bazenzele inani elingaphezulu, ubudlelwano babo, nomphakathi wonkana.
3. Ukusebenzisana
Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile futhi ukhululekile, kepha banezinto eziningi abavumelana ngazo kanye nezinhloso.
I- ukujwayeleka kudala ukusebenzisana phakathi kwezithandani futhi uzenza ukujabulela ubudlelwano bomunye nomunye kanye ne wabelane ngamaphupho omunye nomunye nezifiso.
4. Ukuphendula
Izifiso zombhangqwana zinamaphesenti aphezulu okuvamile okuthi lapho omunye efuna, omunye ajabule ukukunikeza, futhi kube njalo.
Lobu budlelwane obusondelene ngokuphelele, njengombhangqwana onobuhlungu obunamahloni. Kunezinye izibonelo zobudlelwano ezixhomeke ezifanele, kepha leso sinikeza iphuzu elicace bha.
5. Ukubekezela nokubekezelelana
Ngisho nemibhangqwana enokujwayelana okuphezulu nokusebenzisana ezinhlosweni zayo zempilo, izintshisekelo, nokuzilibazisa. Ngeke iqondaniswe ngo-100%.
Umbhangqwana, ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuncika, ukusekelwa noma okungenani, babekezelelane ngezikhathi lapho benemibono ephikisanayo.
6. Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo
Ukukhula ndawonye kusho ukushintsha izimpilo ezimbili ezihlukene nokuziguqula zibe munye. Ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuncika ingenye ye- okhiye balokho.
Ukuguqula impilo yakho ukuze ilingane umlingani wakho (nezingane) futhi ujabule ngoshintsho kuyanelisa.
Ungaba kanjani umuntu wakho ebudlelwaneni
Ukwakha ubudlelwane obuncikile kuzwakala ngathi ukwakha impilo ndawonye nokuba ngumuntu olingana ngokuphelele kuleyo mpilo. Kepha futhi kuyasho lokho kusamele uhlale ungumuntu wakho futhi athuthukise njengomuntu ngamunye.
Isiphakamiso esikhohlisayo, sihamba ngendlela eyodwa kakhulu, futhi sigcina ngokuba nobudlelwano bokuzimela noma ubudlelwano obuzimele be-laissez-faire.
Ukulinganisela kokuzithanda nokuthuthuka kulula ukusho kunokukwenza.
Nanku umthetho olula, phumela obala ngakho konke okwenzayo, futhi ungalokothi wenze noma yini engangqubuzana nobudlelwano nomlingani wakho. Kuyinto umthetho wegolide olula, kepha abantu abaningi banezinkinga zokuyilandela, ikakhulukazi abantu abazimele kakhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Ukungafihli lutho nokuxhumana kubalulekile, ungamane ucabange ukuthi konke kulungile nomlingani wakho. Kepha akunasizathu sokuxhumana uma uzoqamba amanga (noma ungakhulumi iqiniso eliphelele).
Ngakho-ke vumela umlingani wakho azi ngakho konke futhi aqonde-versa kufaka phakathi izikhonkwane zakho ezifuywayo.
Kungabonakala ukudla uphudingi wokugcina esiqandisini kulungile, kodwa izinto ezinjengalezo zinqwabelana ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bese zithuntubeza umlingani wakho. Kepha ayisoze yaba nkulu ngokwanele ukuqala impi yezwe, kepha izokwanela ukonakalisa usuku lomunye nomunye.
Nizokwazana ngokwanele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa kuze kube yileso sikhathi, qiniseka ukuthi nixhumana njalo.
Ukwakha ubudlelwane obuncikile kufana ukwakha indlu isitini esisodwa ngasikhathi, kudinga ukuhlela, ukusebenza kanzima, ukubambisana, nothando oluningi.