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- Yini ebangela ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo
- Ukudikibala kokukhathazeka
- Ukukhomba isimilo esingazinzile ngokomzwelo
- Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
- Izinyathelo zokuphoqelela impilo yomzwelo ezwakalayo
- Ukusebenzelana nabantu abangazinzile
"Imizwelo yakho ayizinzile kakhulu futhi akufanele neze ibe yisisekelo sokuqondisa empilweni yakho." - Joyce Mina
Ukuhlala nomlingani ongazinzile ngokomzwelo kungadala izinselelo ezinkulu empilweni. Ubudlelwano obungazinzile ngokomzwelo buhilela ukukhathala okungokomzwelo nokuphambuka kokungokoqobo.
Yini ebangela ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo
Emzameni wokuhlola ukuthi yini ebanga ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, asiqonde izimpawu ezingazinzile ngokomzwelo.
- Uma unesoka noma intombi engazinzi ngokomzwelo, kunjalo pricky futhi bavame ukucasuka noma ukuthukuthela kalula.
- Uma ukuqaphela lokho bavela emndenini ongenaluthando, ongasebenzi kahle futhi ongathembeki, kungaba uphawu lokuthi uthandana nowesifazane noma owesilisa ongazinzile ngokomzwelo.
- Indoda noma owesifazane ongazinzile ngokomzwelo izozama ukukukhulisa. Bazophikisana nezitatimende zakho, izinkolelo zakho bese bezama ukukuqhatha.
- Intombi noma isoka elingazinzile ngokomqondo esaba ukugxekwa noma ukwaliwa.
- Bona ungathathi ubunikazi ngezenzo zabo noma amaphutha.
- Lapho uthandana nomuntu ongazinzile yUzohlala ubathola bethanda phakathi kwemizwa.
Ukudikibala kokukhathazeka
Isikhathi sokukhathazeka ngokweqile nesibibitheka ngokweqile sokwesaba, ukwenqatshwa, ukuziphindiselela, ukudangala kanye nesizungu kudle wonke umuntu wesilisa wanamuhla. Ukuthuthuka kwezesayensi nobuchwepheshe kukhuphule amazinga ethu aphezulu ngokungasile futhi angenakufinyeleleka.
Lapho silangazelela injabulo yeqiniso nokwaneliseka, kulapho sibhekana ngqo neqiniso lethu ngakho-ke siba sengozini yobuthakathaka bethu, ngenkathi sizama ukuthola isimo saphakade sobuhle nokuphelela.
Impilo yesimanje isenze sakwazi ukujabulela izinzuzo ezithile zobuchwepheshe, kodwa ngokudabukisayo, sabeka impilo yethu engcupheni. Lapho sihlasela kakhulu isishingishane esibhekene nezimo ezishintsha ngokushesha, sibona ukwanda kokungeneliseki, ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo nokungagculiseki ngezinga lempilo yethu.
Iqiniso liyatshelwa, siqhutshwa ukwesaba, ukuthokoza kwethu kwengqondo kuncike ekwamukelweni abanye, silawulwa ubudlelwano bethu, futhi kudliwe ukungabi nalusizo kwethu.
Ngamanye amagama, kulesi sikhathi esinzima sokuncintisana, siqhutshwa amantongomane ngokuzifihla kwethu nokuhlala sishintsha indawo, yingakho sigula ngokomzwelo ngandlela thile.
Ukusimama ngokomzwelo kuyisihluthulelo sempilo ejabulisayo futhi kungatholakala kuphela ngokuziphatha kahle.
Ukukhomba isimilo esingazinzile ngokomzwelo
Ubudlelwano begobolondo lweqanda, 24/7 ukucindezeleka emsebenzini, ukungathembi, okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, nokuzethemba okuphansi yizinto ezibalulekile ezisifaka ubuthi kancane kancane, size sizinikele futhi sizizwe sishiyiwe, silahliwe noma sikhashelwe.
Abantu abangazinzile ngokomzwelo abazi lutho ngokuziphatha kwabo nemiphumela yako kubantu.
Abantu abangazinzile ngokomzwelo bayizishoshovu lapho besabela ezihlokweni ezibucayi futhi banezimfanelo ezihlukile zomphakathi.
Imvamisa bahlotshaniswa nokuhlukumezeka kwesinye isikhathi ezimpilweni zabo.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuba nohlelo lokusekela oluqinile oluphulukisa umuntu okhathazekile emoyeni ngokunikeza izinsiza ezanele ekulawuleni intukuthelo nasezenzweni zokulawula ulaka, ngaleyo ndlela kugqamisa ukubaluleka kwempilo yezemizwa.
Futhi, buka le vidiyo ekusebenzeni ngokomzwelo:
Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
Ukungezwani kobuntu beBorderline ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubandakanya okonakele nokuhlukumezeka kwezenhlalo okumakwe ukuzethemba, ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukudangala.
Kubizwa nangokuthi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okungazinzi ngokomzwelo (i-EUPD).
Abantu abangazinzile ngokomzwelo baye baphazamisa ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu futhi baba nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo eyeqisayo lapho behlala khona phakathi kwenjabulo enkulu nokudangala.
Izinyathelo zokuphoqelela impilo yomzwelo ezwakalayo
Umuntu ongazinzile ngokomzwelo angaphinde athole umbono ngokubheka izindlela ezilandelayo:
- Zama ukulala ngoba kuyasiza ukuthambisa amaseli wakho ezinzwa
- Bala izibusiso zakho njengesimo sokubonga sinamandla amakhulu
- Adonse umoya aphume. Hlala uzinze futhi wehlise umoya
- Zeluleke ukuba ube nokuqonda okuhlakaniphile kulesi simo
- Esikhundleni sokubambezeleka ezintweni ezingenangqondo, gxila bese usetha okulindelwe okungokoqobo
- Zishise wena; faka amandla akho kokuthile okuwusizo noma okudala
- Beka imingcele enempilo
- Ungabi yisigqila sangaphambilini, kunalokho funda kuso futhi uguquke
- Zinakekele - nguwe kuphela ongazisindisa
Khumbula, ukucindezeleka konakalisa yonke into!
Ukuzinza ngokomzwelo kungafinyelelwa endaweni enhle neyakhayo emphakathini. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ukuze uqaphele yonke imizwa yakho futhi uyihambise ngokuhlakanipha.
Njengezinye izitho zomzimba wakho, ubuchopho bakho budinga ukuzikhipha emzimbeni. Kulokhu, inhlanzeko engokomzwelo iyithuluzi eliyinhloko lokuthola ukuhlakanipha kwemizwa.
Ukusebenzelana nabantu abangazinzile
Ufuna usizo lokuthi ungasebenzelana kanjani nentombi noma isoka elingazinzi ngokomzwelo?
Ukuze uphathe ngokuphumelelayo abantu abanobuthi, udinga indlela yamasu ekuhlomisela ukulawula ongakwenza futhi ususe okungaphezu kwamandla akho.
- Ungangeni emdlalweni wokubashaya ngokubonisana nabo. Dweba ngokuqinile umngcele lapho ungazibandakanyi khona nezinxushunxushu zabo.
- Finyelela ohlelweni lwakho lokusekelwa olungatshalwanga ngokomzwelo kulesi simo- abangani, umndeni, osebenza nabo abazokugxila, babelana ngombono ongachemi ngalesi simo esinzima.
- Thola ukulala okuningi ukukusiza ukuba ube nekhanda elicacile, unake futhi ulawule, ukukusiza ukuthi ulawule amazinga akho okucindezeleka.
- Zibandakanye ekukhulumeni ngokwakho okuhle, ukukusiza udlulise ukunganaki okwenziwe kuwe ngumuntu ongazinzile empilweni yakho.
Ekugcineni funda ukuyazi kahle injabulo yakho, ngaphandle kokuzama ukufuna ukwamukelwa noma injabulo kwabanye. Njengomuntu okhaliphile ngokomzwelo, ungaphazanyiswa izinkulumo ezingezinhle noma ukungavunyelwa kwabantu abanobuthi empilweni yakho. Akunandaba nemibono yabanye abantu, vumela ukuzihlonipha kwakho ukuthi kuqhamuke ngaphakathi.
Futhi, kuhle ukukuyeka, kepha ungavumeli abantu abangazinzi ngokomzwelo bathole umbono wokuthi uze ukuzokwamukela ukuziphatha kwabo okungenangqondo. Nguwe olawula ukuthula kwengqondo yakho nenjabulo, lapho uthola ukusetha nokugcina imingcele lapho umuntu ezama ukweqa kuyo.