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- Ukuqagela kwesikhathi esedlule kuze kube manje
- Ngabe usabela ngokufanele ezigamekweni ezishukumisayo ngokomzwelo?
- Ubudlelwano obusha obuphilile bunganikeza ukulungiswa kwemizwa
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi umlingani ongathembekile ovela esikoleni esiphakeme uthinte amandla ami okuthembela engishade naye emashumini eminyaka kamuva? Ingabe ubudlelwano bami nabazali bami bunomthelela ekukhetheni engithandana naye? Ngabe ukugwema kwami ukusondelana kuhlobene naleyo eqhelile noma ebucayi ebaluleke kakhulu? Noma ingabe ubudlelwano obaphela ngokuzumayo eminyakeni eyedlule bunomthelela ekwesabeni ukuthi owakwami angishiye namuhla?
Impendulo emfushane inguyebo. Lapho sizwa ubudlelwano obubuhlungu esikhathini esedlule futhi singakwazi ukuthola ukuthula kwangaphakathi noma ukuxazululwa, kungenzeka ukuthi lo mbhalo uzothinta ubudlelwano bethu eminyakeni edlule - futhi kaningi ngezindlela zokungazi. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kunoma ngubani oye wehlelwa ukuhlukumezeka ngokobudlelwano.
Ukuqagela kwesikhathi esedlule kuze kube manje
Kunezindlela eziningi zokucabanga ngale nto engokwengqondo nengokwenhlalo ebandakanya ukuqagela kwesikhathi esedlule kuze kube manje. Kunjengokungathi izinhlungu zangaphambilini ezingaxazululeki zicela ukuxazululwa ngokwethula ebudlelwaneni bethu bamanje lapho singaphinde sibubone khona. Ngeshwa lokhu futhi kuyaboleka, ezimweni eziningi, ekubonisweni kabusha kwamaphethini obudlelwano obungenampilo. Iningi lethu lilalele ngesikhathi umngani okhungathekile ebabaza ethi "kungani ngiqhubeka ngithandana nohlobo olufanayo lwamadoda / abesifazane?" Isikhathi esingaxazululiwe sinamandla okuziphinda.
Ngabe usabela ngokufanele ezigamekweni ezishukumisayo ngokomzwelo?
Ngoba ukuqagela kwenzeka kaningi ezingeni lokungazi, kuzodinga ukuzazi kanye nokuzimisela ukuzihlola ukuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo ebuzwe ngenhla. Indawo enhle yokuqala ukubuyekeza okwenziwayo okushukumisayo kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho. Cabanga ukuthi impendulo yakho ibifanele yini noma cha kumongo womcimbi. Buza umngani ongachemi uma behlulela i usayizi yokuphendula kwakho ukuze ulinganisele usayizi yesigameko. Thola ukwazi lapho ubona ukusabela okuqinile kwemizwa ebudlelwaneni nomlingani wakho. Ngabe ngiyaphendula kulesi simo esikhona manje noma kungenzeka ukuthi ngiphendula isimo esedlule? Ngabe ngiphendula umlingani wami ngempela noma ngikhuluma nomunye umuntu kusuka esikhathini sami esidlule?
Ubudlelwano obusha obuphilile bunganikeza ukulungiswa kwemizwa
Isikhathi esedlule sinamandla, uma sikuvumela, ukuba sonakalise imishado yethu yamanje noma sivimbele ubudlelwane bethu ukuthi buqhubeke nokuthuthuka futhi bukhule. Futhi, ngasikhathi sinye, ubudlelwano bethu bamanje bunethuba lokusinikeza okuhlangenwe nakho kokulungisa okungokomzwelo okuqukethe amandla okuphulukisa izingxenye zethu ezingaxazululiwe. Cabanga ngendaba yowesifazane okhulisa umuzwa wokuzilahla ngemuva kokuthandana nomuntu ohlale egxeka umzimba wakhe. Lona wesifazane kungenzeka ukuthi aveze le mizwa yokwenqatshelwa kumlingani wakamuva, elindele ukuthi nabo benqabe umzimba wakhe. Kepha uma kufakazelwa ukuthi unephutha ngumlingani owemukelayo futhi abungaze isimo sakhe, njengoba kunjalo, angahle athole ukulungiswa kwemizwa.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokwamukela ubuhlungu bobudlelwano besikhathi esedlule obuzogcina busivumela ukuba sibe khona kakhulu nomlingani wethu namuhla. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ubuhlungu obungaxazululeki obuvela esikhathini esidlule bungaba nomthelela omubi emshadweni wakho, cabanga ngokufuna usizo kochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe.