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- 1. Umlingani wakho ukhombisa umona ongenasizathu
- 2. Umlingani wakho akathathi impendulo ethi “Cha”
- 3. Umlingani wakho unamahloni okuba nawe
- 4. Umlingani wakho ukusongela
- 5. Ugcinwa ngaphandle “kwesiyingi”
- 6. Uyangabaza wena
- 7. Abahlukumezi bazokuphonsa ngokuthanda okungabizi
- 8. Ukugxekwa okulimazayo nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi
- 9. Ukungahloniphi
- 10. Ukuhlukumeza
- 11. Udlame lwezocansi
- 12. Udlame lomzimba
- 13. Ukuphika
- 14. Ukungakwazi ukwethemba umlingani wakho
- 15. Uzizwa usengozini
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, abantu abakwazi ukuhlala kahle ngokuhlukaniswa kwengqondo, umzimba, umphefumulo, kanye nomoya. Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sizibandakanye ebudlelwaneni obunye noma obunye. Ngakho-ke ukuzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni obunempilo kuyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo egculisekile. Ubudlelwano bunothisa izimpilo zethu futhi bengeza enjabulweni yethu ukuthi siyaphila, kepha sonke siyazi ukuthi abukho ubuhlobo obuphelele. Kwenzelwe ukuba nokwehla nokwehla ebudlelwaneni, izingxabano nokungezwani akunakugwenywa.
Kodwa-ke, abantu benziwa ukuba baphile nabanye ngendlela enhle neqinisayo. Kepha, kuyishwa impela ukuthi lokhu akuhlali kunjalo ngoba kukhona ubudlelwano obubi nobuxhaphazayo. Lobu budlelwano obuhlukumezayo budala ukungakhululeki, futhi kwesinye isikhathi kubangele nokulimaza ingqondo, umoya, imizwa nomzimba wakho. Kuhloselwe ukuba nokwehla nokwehla ebudlelwaneni kepha izimpikiswano nokungavumelani akumele kuholele kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza.
Ngezansi kunezimpawu ezithile noma amafulegi abomvu azokukhombisa ukuthi usebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo:
1. Umlingani wakho ukhombisa umona ongenasizathu
Kufanele wazi ukuthi usebudlelwaneni obukuhlukumezayo uma umlingani wakho esengumona ngokungadingekile ngezinto ozenzayo, ukuthi uziphatha kanjani nokuthi uhlobana nobani. Umlingani wakho angakhombisa amazinga wokuphazamiseka lapho uchitha isikhathi nabanye abantu noma kwezinye izinto - ngaphandle kobuhlobo.
2. Umlingani wakho akathathi impendulo ethi “Cha”
Oshade naye uphatha u-'cha 'njengokuqala kwengxoxo engapheli, kunokuphela kwengxoxo. Uyenqaba ukukuzwa uphikisa imibono nezinqumo zakhe. Ekugcineni, cishe yonke into oyenzayo engamenzi azizwe ephethe kuzoholela ekwandeni kobutha.
3. Umlingani wakho unamahloni okuba nawe
Noma nini lapho uhlala nomlingani okuhlukumezayo, uhlala enamahloni futhi enamahloni okuthi abantu banibone nobabili ndawonye ngenxa yesimo sakhe sokuhlukumeza.
4. Umlingani wakho ukusongela
Abalingani abahlukumezayo bahlala befisa futhi bafuna ukuphatha. Ukusetshenziswa kwegunya namandla kuyindlela yokuphatha. Indlela yokuba semandleni ukusebenzisa usongo nomthelela ongafanele ukukulawula nokukukhohlisa
5. Ugcinwa ngaphandle “kwesiyingi”
Usebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo uma oshade naye engakushiyi ngaphandle kwezinhliziyo zabo kuphela, ekuthandeni kwabo okuhle nasekuvunyweni kwabo, nabo bazokukhipha kwimisebenzi yabo. Uba ngumuntu ongaziwa ezenzweni zoshade naye.
6. Uyangabaza wena
Oshade naye uzokuqambela amanga ngamabomu ukuze akudide futhi akwenze ungabaze imibono yakho. Abalingani abahlukumezayo bazokwenza ungabaze amanothi abo, ukucaciswa, inkumbulo, nokuhlanzeka kwengqondo. Kwesinye isikhathi bazoxabana bakukhathaze uze ungasathembi okwaziyo ukuthi kuyiqiniso.
7. Abahlukumezi bazokuphonsa ngokuthanda okungabizi
Abahlukumezi abaningi banikela ngemvuthuluka yothando noma yokuvunywa noma yokuncoma noma yokukuthengela izipho ukuze bakugcine kumjikelezo wabo wethonya noma ngaphansi kwesithupha sabo.
8. Ukugxekwa okulimazayo nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi
Usebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo uma uqaphela ukuthi oshade naye uyamemeza, uyamemeza, uyakuhleka, uyakusola noma ukusongela ngamazwi. Kufanele uzame ngakho konke okusemandleni akho ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni obukuhlukumezayo, bangakonakalisa!
9. Ukungahloniphi
Kuyisibonakaliso sesixwayiso sobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo uma oshade naye engakuhloniphi. Uzokwehlisa isithunzi ngisho nasesidlangalaleni. Bayakujabulela ukukubeka phansi phambi kwabanye abantu; ukungalaleli noma ukuphendula uma ukhuluma; ukuphazamisa izingcingo zakho; ukwenqaba ukusiza.
10. Ukuhlukumeza
Umlingani okuhlukumezayo ukuhlukumeza ngazo zonke izindlela. Uqapha izingcingo zakho, uphuma nobani, ubona bani. Uzama ukuphatha impilo yakho.
11. Udlame lwezocansi
Umlingani okuhlukumezayo usebenzisa amandla, izinsongo noma ukwesabisa ukwenza ukuthi wenze izenzo zocansi; ukuya ocansini nawe lapho ungafuni ukuya ocansini. Bazama ukukusabisa ukuthi ulale nabo. Bangaze bakudlwengule.
12. Udlame lomzimba
Uma uwushaya indiva umbono womlingani wakho futhi yena ugcina ngokushaya isibhakela; ukushaya ngempama; ukushaya; ukuluma; ukuncinza; ukukhahlela; ukukhipha izinwele; ukusunduza; ukushova; ukushisa; noma ngisho ukukuklinya, phuma ebudlelwaneni, kuyahlukumeza!
13. Ukuphika
Umlingani okuhlukumezayo uyaziphika izenzo zakhe. Umlingani wakho okuhlukumezayo akazibopheli ngezenzo zakhe. Umlingani wakho okuhlukumezayo ethi ukuhlukunyezwa akwenzeki; uthi udale isimilo esihlukumezayo.
14. Ukungakwazi ukwethemba umlingani wakho
Kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo uma umlingani wakho engathembekile ngokuphelele. Uma ungakwazi ukubamba oshade naye ngenxa yamazwi akhe ngenxa yamanga, ukwephula izithembiso, khona-ke usebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo.
15. Uzizwa usengozini
Uma ungakhululekile ukuveza ingqondo nemicabango yakho, lapho uzwa umzimba wakho, umoya nomphefumulo wakho kusengozini yokulimala, kuyisibonakaliso sesixwayiso sokuthi usebudlelwaneni obukuhlukumezayo.