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Ngesinye isikhathi cishe kuyo yonke imishado kuza isikhathi lapho ungena enkingeni, futhi udinga ukunonga impilo yothando lomshado ukuze ugcine izinto zithakazelisa. Yize nobabili nizinikele kakhulu komunye nomunye futhi ninakekela ngokujulile ngokuzibophezela, kulula ukuthi impilo ingene endleleni kwesinye isikhathi. Ungaqedwa yizingane, umsebenzi, noma izibopho zempilo nje ezikugcina ungabelani ngesikhathi esikhethekile nothandekayo wakho. Akusikho ukuthi uhlose ukuthi kwenzeke, kepha cishe yonke imibhangqwana eshadile ingena enkingeni nasekomeni — ngakho-ke ukwazi ukuthi ungazikopa kanjani izinto kungabaluleke kakhulu!
Niyathandana futhi kubalulekile ukukhombisa lokho. Cabanga emuva ngenkathi nisanda kushada futhi okuwukuphela kwezinto enizibeke phambili kuzo omunye nomunye. Manje phatha leyo mindset uhambe nayo ukucabanga ngezindlela ezithile ezimnandi nezakhayo zokwengeza yonke into ebalulekile yezinongo ebudlelwaneni bakho. Akudingeki ukuthi konke kube mayelana nokusondelana ngokomzimba, ngoba kwesinye isikhathi indlela enkulu yokukhombisa ukuthi uyakhathala ukutshela oshade naye noma ukuhlela okuthile okukhethekile. Lokhu kumayelana nokwazana nokucabanga ngalokho okuzokusiza ukuthi nizizwe nixhumene njengabantu abashadile. Sebenzisa le mibono elandelayo njengeziqalo bese udala ubuye ucabange ukuthi yini ezokusebenzela kangcono njengombhangqwana. Ukucabanga nokuzama okuthile kungakusiza ukuthi niphinde nizithole, futhi nihambise umshado wenu ezingeni elilandelayo.
1) Shiya amanothi amancane komunye nomunye
Akudingeki ukuthi njalo kube yinto ebanzi, ngoba kungaba yinothi elincane ukubazisa ukuthi ucabanga ngabo. Zama ukushiyela owakwakho inothi ngaphambi kokuba uye emsebenzini ekuseni. Bathumele umbhalo kulo lonke usuku lomsebenzi ukubazisa ukuthi uyabathanda.
Akugcini nje ukuthi lawa manothi amancane othando angasiza ukubenza bazizwe bebalulekile, kepha futhi kungabenza bacabange ngawe phakathi nosuku lwabo olujwayelekile. Ungangeza ngempela izinga elengeziwe lesinongo ngokudlala, ukujabulisa, nokwenza amanothi abe mahle. Sebenzisa le ndlela emnandi yokuxhumana ukubakhombisa ukuthi usabakhathalele, nokuthi uyabacabanga futhi kungasiza ngempela ukwakha umfutho odingeka kakhulu.
2) Yenza ngokuzenzekelayo bese uhlela ukuzijabulisa ngobusuku obubodwa
Asikho isidingo sokuthi kube nomcimbi okhethekile wokuhlela ukuphunyuka okuncane. Akudingeki ukuthi ibe yinhle, ngoba ukuhlela ubusuku obubodwa ehhotela ezansi nomgwaqo kungenza iqhinga. Ukuphuma endaweni yakho ejwayelekile, kude nanoma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka, nokuba nesikhathi senu nobabili kuphela.
Uma uhlela lokhu ngokuzenzekelayo futhi uthathe umlingani wakho enganakile, ngakho-ke kungcono kakhulu. Le yindlela enhle yokunonga impilo yothando lomshado ngokusondelana ngokomzimba, kepha ikuvumela ithuba lokuphinda uxhume ngezinye izindlela eziningi. Uphuma emuzwa wokubaleka uvuselelwe futhi isibopho sakho sinamandla kunanini ngaphambili, ngakho-ke kukufanele ekugcineni!
3) Yenza ubusuku bosuku lube yinto eza kuqala
Kulula ukubambeka esimeni lapho anikabi nesikhathi sodwa ndawonye isikhashana. Ungakuvumeli lokhu kwenzeke! Noma ngabe kuphuma isidlo sakusihlwa njalo emavikini ambalwa, qiniseka ukuthi ubusuku besikhathi yinto eza kuqala emshadweni wakho.
Lokhu kukunika ithuba lokukhuluma ngempela, ukuphinde uthandane, nokuzikhumbuza ukuthi kungani nashada kwasekuqaleni. Shintshanani ngokuhlela ubusuku obumnandi bese nizama ukudala. Cabanga ngezinto enithanda ukuzenza ndawonye, bese nihlela ubusuku obuzungezile. Akukho okungasiza ekuvuseleleni ubudlelwane obufana nobusuku bosuku obumnandi nalowo omthandayo!
4) Kwenze kube phambili ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye
Kungaba lula njengokuthola indlela yokuxhumana nomunye ongavusa lolo thando obelufihlwe ngaphansi kwesikhashana. Akunandaba ukuthi impilo imatasa kanjani, udinga ukufaka imizuzu embalwa yenu nobabili ekugcineni kosuku olumatasa.
Ukuba nesikhathi sokwangana, ukusangana, noma ukukhuluma nje munye kungenza izimangaliso zokuphuma enkingeni. Noma kuyimizuzu emihlanu nje kuphela yesikhathi sokuxoxa, ukugaxana nodwa nokubuka uhlelo oluthandayo, noma ukuchitha isikhathi sobuso omunye nomunye kungasebenza izimanga ukukusiza ukuthi uhlale uxhumekile.
5) Thuthukisa ukusondelana phakathi komunye nomunye
Uma ufuna ukwazi imfihlo yokunonga izinto, lokho kumayelana nokwenza ukusondelana kube yinto eza kuqala. Lokhu kunjalo ngokusondelana ngokomzimba kanye nempilo esebenzayo yocansi, kepha kungaqhubeka kakhulu kunalokho. Baqabulane nsuku zonke isikhathi esingaphezu komzuzwana nje, bamba lokho ukwangana imizuzu embalwa nje, nibukane emehlweni, futhi nizwe lokho kuxhumana ngokomzimba. Yenza impilo yezocansi enempilo ibaluleke kakhulu futhi ungeze injabulo kuyo ukuze uvuse isibopho phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Ukusondelana akuhileli nje okungokwenyama, kepha udinga ukukufaka nalapha emshadweni wakho. Uma ucabanga ngalezi zinto futhi uhlala useduze ngokomqondo, ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba lapho-ke unganonga impilo yothando lomshado futhi uhlale ujabulile isikhathi eside. Ukwazi okudingekayo ukugcina omunye nomunye ejabule futhi nokwenza omunye nomunye eze kuqala kungagcina uthando emshadweni wakho, futhi kukusize ukuthi nihlale ndawonye isikhathi eside!