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- 1. Isehlukaniso senzeka ngendlela ngaphambi kokuba sinqume ukuhamba phansi
- 2. Akekho osifundisa ukuthi singavuma kanjani ukungavumelani
- 3. Noma imuphi umlutha osebenzayo uzowachitha amathuba omshado onempilo
- 4. Ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphambi komshado
‘Lithini izinga lesehlukaniso e-United States’ noma ‘liyini izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika’ eminye yemibuzo ebuzwa kakhulu ngesahlukaniso.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi cishe ama-50% wemibhangqwana eshadile iyahlukanisa eMelika. Izinga lezehlukaniso ezweni liveza isithombe esimnyama kakhulu. Izibalo zamanani ezehlukaniso zaseMelika ngeshwa beziqinile futhi zivikelekile iminyaka ethile. Ngakho-ke ungasinciphisa kanjani isilinganiso sehlukaniso ezweni lethu?
Hhayi e-United States kuphela kepha uma u-google amanani ezehlukaniso ngezwe noma amanani ezehlukaniso athi le nombolo imnyama impela.
Nazi izihluthulelo ezine eziphezulu ukusiza ukwehlisa izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika, lokho akulimazi nje kuphela abantu abadala maqondana nokuzethemba, ukuzethemba kanye nesimo sabo sezimali kepha futhi kunomthelela omubi ngokwedlulele ekwakhekeni komndeni, kushiya izingane zinomqondo ukuthi isehlukaniso simane nje siyingxenye evamile yomshado. Funda ukuthola izixazululo ezinengqondo zokuvimbela isehlukaniso e-United States (nakwezinye izindawo).
1. Isehlukaniso senzeka ngendlela ngaphambi kokuba sinqume ukuhamba phansi
Empeleni, imibhangqwana eminingi engisebenze nayo kule minyaka engama-28 edlule ithi ibinomuzwa onamandla kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano umshado obungeke uhlale ngempela.
Izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika liyakhula ngoba abantu sebeqalile ukuyithatha kancane indaba yomshado futhi abatshali isikhathi esanele ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi umuntu abamkhethile ungumuntu olungele bona.
Abantu abaningi bangibikela ukuthi bebazi ngesikhathi sokuqomisana ukuthi kungahle kungabi ngumqondo omuhle ukushada nalo muntu ngoba kunezinkinga eziningi kakhulu ezinzima abebengazi ukuthi bangazinqoba kanjani. Ngakho-ke lokhu kusiholela esimweni esithakazelisa kakhulu, lapho amaphesenti aphezulu kangaka abantu azi ukuthi umshado usenkingeni bengakashadi, siyini isinyathelo sokuqala?
Kunalo mthetho wesithupha okufanele uwulandele lapho uthandana nothile ukuze ungahambeli phambili empilweni lapho sekuvele kukhona amafulegi abomvu amakhulu ashaya umoya athi ubudlelwano buzophela zisuka.
Umthetho we-3% wokuqomisana uthi ungaba nokuhambisana okungu-97% nomlingani wakho, kepha uma bephethe noma yiziphi izibulali zedili eziphelele owaziyo ukuthi ngeke zikusebenzele, sidinga ukuqeda ubuhlobo manje.
Ingabe lokhu kuzwakala kunesihluku? Ikona. Futhi kuyasebenza. Imibhangqwana elandela lesi seluleko ngeke igcine isishada nomuntu onababulali abakhulu besivumelwano kubuntu babo. Uma wonke umuntu eqala ukulandela lokhu izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika lizokwehla ngokuqinisekile.
Naba ababulali abakhulu besivumelwano
Omunye wababulali besivumelwano kungaba umuntu ophuza kakhulu, obamba iqhaza ekusebenziseni izidakamizwa, oqamba amanga, okukhaphela ngesikhathi sobuhlobo bobudlelwano, mhlawumbe uzothi umuntu onezingane akasoze akusebenzela, noma omunye umuntu lokho akufuni ukuthi izingane zingaze zikusebenzele.
Manje uma ubheka okungenhla, futhi kunababulali abaningi besivumelwano sabanye abantu kungahle kube yinkolo, abanye abantu ukuthi abakwazi ukuphatha imali yabo kahle, kepha uma ubheka lonke lolu hlu engikhuthaza amakhasimende ami ukuthi zenzele ngokwazo, futhi uthandana nomuntu onombulali oyedwa, ababili noma abathathu, unezinketho ezimbili kuphela, eyodwa kungaba ukutshela lowo muntu ukuthi kudingeka ahlanze isenzo sakhe ngaphambi kokuba ubashade, noma ababili uyabuqeda ubudlelwano manje. Lesi sinyathelo esisodwa lapha sizokwehlisa ngokujulile izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika namuhla.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
2. Akekho osifundisa ukuthi singavuma kanjani ukungavumelani
Akekho osifundisa indlela yokuphikisana ngokwakhayo, noma ukungavumelani nozakwethu. Futhi lokhu kubalulekile emshadweni onempilo. Ukwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado kungasiza imibhangqwana ukuthi ifunde ukunqoba ukungaboni ngaso linye, ukuthi ingavumelani kanjani ngenhlonipho, ukuthi ingavali kanjani ekamelweni lokulala, ukuthi ingavali kanjani futhi yenze izindlela zokuziphatha ezinokhahlo iningi lethu elizithandayo.
Yonke imibhangqwana kufanele yenze izifundo eziningi zokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado noma ngabe uneminyaka emingaki, noma ukuthi nihlale isikhathi eside kangakanani ndawonye. Sikholelwa futhi ukuthi kubalulekile ukwelulekwa ngezezimali nabantu phakathi nalesi sifundo sangaphambi komshado, kanye nokuqonda nokuvumelana mayelana nezingane, inkolo, indlela yokuphatha imali, amaholide, ezocansi nokunye okuningi. Imibhangqwana eminingi kakhulu ishada ngaphandle komsebenzi wangaphambi komshado nongqongqoshe, urabi noma umpristi nhlobo futhi lolu shintsho luzokwehlisa izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika.
3. Noma imuphi umlutha osebenzayo uzowachitha amathuba omshado onempilo
Sidinga ukuzibophezela, siziphathe kahle uma silwa nokugembula, ukudla, i-nicotine, izidakamizwa, utshwala, ucansi ... Futhi uma unomlingani, olwa nanoma ikuphi okungenhla, vele ufunde kabusha. Inombolo yokuqala. Udinga ukubeka imingcele umuntu okufanele ayilaphe kuqala, ngaphambi komshado.
Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa kudlangile kulezi zinsuku, izinga lezehlukaniso eMelika nakanjani lizokwehla uma abantu beqala ukukhetha abalingani abangazona izigqila zemikhuba yabo yezidakamizwa.
4. Ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphambi komshado
Kuyi-ballgame ehluke ngokuphelele ukuhlala nomuntu, bese uphola naye. Futhi uma usubeke izindima ezingeziwe nokulindelwe komshado kwabashadikazi abangakaze bahlale ndawonye, ucela ohlelweni lwami lwenkolelo ukuthi abantu baphathe okungaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho abangakwazi ukukwenza.
Kunconywa ukuthi abantu abazimisele ngomshado, bahlale ndawonye unyaka owodwa ngaphambi kokuba bashade. Hlalani ndawonye. Bhekana nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi zokuthi kunjani ukuhlala efulethini elifanayo, ikhaya elingumahamba nendlwana noma isithabathaba somuzi. Akunandaba isikhala noma usayizi, njengoba kubaluleke ukuthi nihlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo ndawonye. Ukuhlalisana, njengoba kunjalo, akuyona into edabukisayo eMelika futhi uma abantu belandela lesi sinyathelo, izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika lizokwehla.
Lezi ngezinye nje zezihluthulelo ezingabaluleka ekwehliseni izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika nasekuthuthukiseni isilinganiso sabantu abajabulayo nemibhangqwana engajabule e-United States.
Lezi zinyathelo zingaletha ushintsho olukhulu emibhangqwaneni ehlela ukushada noma imibhangqwana esivele ishadile, ibasize bafunde ukuxoxa, ukungavumelani ngisho nokuphikisana ngenhlonipho nothando. Ukulandela lezi zinyathelo kuzonciphisa izinga lesehlukaniso eMelika.